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Notice of intention to marry appointment. I think I nearly failed.

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Yissie · 13/04/2022 21:21

I mean in fairness I didn't research what this appointment actually was, I just bought the documents the registrar said to bring. I thought it would be quite exciting going in together and signing the documents together. No no. Get to the door. One sent back to car, separate interviews.They said they were going to ask me some questions. I fell apart Grin

They compared our answers. My fiancé had gotten my job wrong. I said my job and they said it wasn't what he answered, is there something less specific he might of put? It felt like a riddle. I kept saying last minute wedding meaning just planned last minute, we've been engaged for years. Then I realised they might think that and kept over explaining that it's not that last minute we've been together years it's nothing concerning did I make it sound concerning?! It's not rushed or anything.

She asked if I wanted to put my parents details, I said no. She said your partner did, so I agreed. I couldn't remember my dads middle name. Total mind blank. Then his job. I just kept repeating civil servant and nervously laughing. I asked her if I was doing ok and said I hope I'm not being suspicious. I am who I say I am I just don't test well. She said it wasn't a test. Anyway. She seemed to think I was insane, she gave me a pen to sign the documents and I didn't realise I'd held on to it and at the end she put her hand out and I took it and shook it, she just wanted the pen.

Overall, not the romantic if not slightly boring appointment I thought it would be. Be prepared for a less cute and slightly more stressful game of Mr and Mrs. And brush up on your parental knowledge.

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BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 16/04/2022 17:12

@KimikosNightmare Did you get married in Scotland? None of this applies to Scottish marriages.

Nope London, England. Spoke to friends who have been married a similar time to us (they were register office as one of them was divorced) and they didn’t have any of this either just both birth certificates and the relevant divorce documents and the bride did it on her own….

HollowedOut · 16/04/2022 23:03

If you get married in church you just have to do the meetings with the vicar. If a civil ceremony in England you have to do the interviews.

HollowedOut · 16/04/2022 23:04

When was this @BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou? I’ve been married twice and both times had to do an interview in 2008 and 2015

inappropriateraspberry · 16/04/2022 23:17

We've been married 9 years, never had this! Had to meet vicar beforehand to arrange date, but no quizzing on jobs, family etc. Just filled in form with basic info together. No mr & Mrs quiz!
I've never heard of this unless marrying someone from outside the country, to check it's not a marriage of convenience.

timeFlyers · 16/04/2022 23:19

Church wedding and never had any of this. 1 appointment to meet the vicar and discuss dates and flowers and the 2nd was the rehearsal

PlainJaneEyre · 17/04/2022 09:33

@HollowedOut

If you get married in church you just have to do the meetings with the vicar. If a civil ceremony in England you have to do the interviews.
www.churchofengland.org/life-events/your-church-wedding/just-engaged/legal-requirements yup it's in there ....
BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 17/04/2022 17:12

@HollowedOut

When was this *@BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou*? I’ve been married twice and both times had to do an interview in 2008 and 2015
It was 1991.
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