IABU - anger over new neighbours

[OnTheGoAlways]

I know I'm being unreasonable, I know I sound awful, and even my right leaning Mother told me off.

We live in a private rented semi-detached 3 bedroom house which costs 70% of my shitty wage. I am in situation after leaving a violent relationship over 300 miles away. I was homeless, but It never occurred to me to join a social housing register, we needed somewhere to live so I worked hard and found somewhere.

I am burnt out, grumpy, envious, bitter...basically all round ugly. I went back to uni and got a PG degree, I have a shitty car which needs multiple repairs. It's booked in for a service on Saturday which I can't afford so will cancel tomorrow. My children run around in clothes with holes or too small..I work full time, house is freezing..I've stopped showering, haven't done since Sunday (and that was at public pool) because of costs.

I didn't realise next door was a council house, there had been an elderly man living there who recently died.

Council have painted, cleaned, re-carpeted...now a new family are here. They drive a huge brand new car. And I am so angry I could cry. I know this is displaced...I just needed to vent.

Hard working people in council houses are allowed to spend their hard earned money on new cars you know

I was homeless, but It never occurred to me to join a social housing register

Well that was a bit silly wasn't it?

Costs and salaries feel so polarised right now.

Yes, this is the problem, not your new neighbours. I know you know this.

because it's really hard to be exhausted and broke and in despair.

@HailAdrian

Councils don't do that.

They didn't do it years ago but my last council does it.

My Dad's housing association flat was recarpeted and repainted before he moved in, and is being done now that he has died ready for the next tenant. I don't know why everyone thinks this doesn't happen?

I feel you OP.

I think it’s likely that the house is being used as temporary accommodation by a homeless family. In Edinburgh the average length of stay in temp is 3 years.

Rents in temp are very high which precludes people from working.

Eventually they will have one “suitable offer “ of permanent accommodation miles away from where they are currently. That house definitely won’t be carpeted etc .

You know your are BU about your neighbour but I'm really sorry you are having a hard time.

Were just outside Edinburgh and its been council cars and employess in and out, not landlord, who are the providers of temporary housing aren't they? Sponsored by council.

I've got to be in the office Tomorrow..I asked to WFH today as I don't have enough fuel for 4 trips.

Anyway, I've moaned too much. Thanks for replying.

Temp accommodation can be provided from landlord’s own stock, sourced from housing associations or leased from the private renter sector. Most councils struggle to keep a reasonable supply.

who are you angry with?

Oh OP, can you put yourself in the housing list now?

Get all/any benefits assessed and make sure you’re getting everything you’re entitled to.

Hope the venting has helped.

OP. I am truly sorry that you are having such a tough time. Have you checked to see if you are entitled to housing benefit, and child benefit?

@vodkaredbullgirl

How utterly pointless and spiteful, this was the best you could contribute?

Someone I know earns 48K and lives in council property. She’s had the property for approx 20 years (was a very young mum). Her rent in London is about 500. I wouldn’t dare begrudge her as that is just life. My rent not far away from her is 1.8k. There literally is no point in comparing your circumstances with others.

Plus it may not be too late to get your name on register. Also retraining for a better job/moving to cheaper accommodation. All this will take energy but it is energy better spent than being mad at the neighbours.

What is spitefully about a no comment?

Myself, lack of housing, my low wages even though I'm in a professional environment in higher education surrounded by middle class, my landlord for constantly choosing to have repairs done by a bloke she knows (I had to finish painting and sealing the bathroom after his last visit), the fact the Father's are allowed to pay a shitty sum of £80 a week for 2 kids and refuse to engage with solicitors, cost of living, the fact that I Worked so hard for PG degree to then work so hard in a fucking job to be able to stand in a cold house, then drive a shit car In the red to work. And then there's next door...

I can't read this anymore. I'm alive, I'm able-bodied, I have a job, I should be grateful.

@HailAdrian you know the process of every council in the Uk I take it? My friend moved into a council house and as the previous tenant left it in bad shape, they did just as the OP has described. Just because you’ve not been aware of this happening doesn’t mean it doesn’t. I had a HA flat and they repainted before I moved in, but no flooring. It really depends on the situation.

OP, you are having a tough time. I hope you have a look at a benefits calculator and hopefully there is assistance available.
It’s a very hard world and you did well getting your children to safety.

YANBU OP💐

[quote LemonPledge555]@HailAdrian you know the process of every council in the Uk I take it? My friend moved into a council house and as the previous tenant left it in bad shape, they did just as the OP has described. Just because you’ve not been aware of this happening doesn’t mean it doesn’t. I had a HA flat and they repainted before I moved in, but no flooring. It really depends on the situation.[/quote]
In that case, I'm team OP, tbh.

OP I’ll be local to you. Pop me a message if you want to meet up for a walk or a coffee/rant. I’m outside Edinburgh too and been in some pretty tight spots in the past, I can well imagine how you feel. I know you know you’re BU, but you’re allowed to feel hard done by 💐

@LemonPledge555

OP I’ll be local to you. Pop me a message if you want to meet up for a walk or a coffee/rant. I’m outside Edinburgh too and been in some pretty tight spots in the past, I can well imagine how you feel. I know you know you’re BU, but you’re allowed to feel hard done by 💐

How lovely.

@Blue4YOU

OP, you are having a tough time. I hope you have a look at a benefits calculator and hopefully there is assistance available. It’s a very hard world and you did well getting your children to safety.

This. ^

Awwww.. @OnTheGoAlways

You need to apply for housing benefit, AND council tax benefit! You must be entitled to something! AND get on the bloody housing list!!!

YANBU to be pissed off at the shitty hand you've been dealt, as it can be hard when others seem to have everything handed on a plate. But if it's there, and others need it, they'll be taking it.

Have some flowers Hope you feel better soon and things start going well soon! Apply for whatever you can, and make sure you are getting everything off your DC' father that you can!