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AIBU?

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MiL gave baby first ice cream

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maloney123 · 06/04/2022 23:48

Please let me preface this post by acknowledging that my in laws look after our baby once a week and I’m hugely grateful to them for this. They were desperate to be grandparents (this is their first grandchild) so the arrangement suits us both as they get time with the baby and I get time to catch up on laundry, cleaning etc (I am still on mat leave).

Today my MIL gave our baby her first taste of ice cream (DD is 9 months). I’m not so bothered about the sweet aspect (although we’re not giving her sweets, juice etc as yet) but I feel upset that we didn’t get to give her her first ice cream. I feel like this is a cute milestone moment for a baby and instead of being there I had my MIL describing to me how my daughter reacted to the taste. Previously she has also tried BLW my baby one day after we started weaning her which I was livid about, so we’ve already spoken to her and asked her not to give her new foods without checking in first.

I don’t mind MIL giving “normal” foods but I do feel like something like baby’s first ice cream is a bit special and I feel annoyed and upset that she took this moment away unnecessarily. I don’t think I’m going to say anything about it as I don’t want to appear ungrateful so I guess I’m just venting, feel free to tell me YABU!!

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Wheredidileavemycarkeys · 10/07/2024 09:38

I actually remember this thread. I was reading the OP and thought that sounds familiar… 😂

ClinkeyMonkey · 10/07/2024 09:58

Wheredidileavemycarkeys · 10/07/2024 09:38

I actually remember this thread. I was reading the OP and thought that sounds familiar… 😂

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It came up on my 'I'm on' list and my first thought was, that child has probably had her own body weight in ice cream by now😆

M340 · 10/07/2024 13:49

Pinkmammabear · 09/07/2024 15:11

This also happened to me, and I'm right there with you. I feel like it would have been different if she would have asked rather than just jump in and do it. She has also stated to me that her other 2 grandchildren both took their first steps with her rather than with their parents. If that would have happened with my kid, I would have been very upset. That's why when kids take their first steps at daycare, they fib to the parents and let them have those milestones.

I do see having sweets as a milestone. We were purposely waiting for her 1 year birthday to do a smash cake so everyone could see her her response to sweets. As we she was about to smash her cake I made the comment in front of everyone this was her first taste of sweets, of which my MIL interjected and went, "Actually, she's had ice cream with me!" It makes me want to limit interactions with my MIL taking my daughter because she seems to want those firsts to boast about it. She already had kids, and I want to experience our kids' firsts. It may be selfish, but I honestly don't care. She's our daughter, and I want those memories. Just like our daughter should get when she has her own children someday.

'So everyone can see her response to sweets.'

Kindly, I don't think anyone gives a fuck about observing your child's response to a cake, apart from you.

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