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OutingHobby · 07/04/2022 18:57

@Blossomtoes

Anyone else miss their pfb’s first steps or is it just me?

Yup! They had them at mums and she just casually said ooh her walking is good. And insort of said oh! Is it?!

Radziwill · 07/04/2022 19:01

YABVVVU. It's ice cream. It's not a milestone.

As an aside, if your daughter is in childcare, you have to accept you will miss actual milestones. You can't have it both ways.

maddiemookins16mum · 07/04/2022 19:06

Flippin ridiculous, you not her.

yellowtwo · 07/04/2022 19:07

Hi OP, haven't read all of the replies so not sure if someone has suggested this, you could give baby their first chocolate, the buttons chocolate is good for that age.
Definitely talk about juice and anything like that now to your Mil just to make sure you are on the same page.

Minfilia · 07/04/2022 19:09

You’re being massively PFB. Sorry.

Chickychoccyegg · 07/04/2022 19:13

This story has just popped up on my Facebook, its been picked up by some of the papers and exaggerated, apparently op is absolutely furious

Supersee · 07/04/2022 19:20

Baby's first ice cream is definitely not a thing.

Thumpkin · 07/04/2022 19:29

Madness. YABU.

SleeplessInEngland · 07/04/2022 19:30

YABU

Why is ice cream so special? By that rationale ANY food would be a milestone the first time.

Hyppogriff · 07/04/2022 19:32

Yabu get over it

Kingharoldshairstyle · 07/04/2022 19:33

I think it’s highly unusual to consider this a thing, babies first ice cream so your mother in law could simply not have guessed it was a thing for you. She’s caring for your child and doing you a favour.

Maybe you can list out your unique mile stones and list rhem for her?

hifiive · 07/04/2022 19:36

@Moonface123

You are so bloody ungrateful, l have raised two sons single handedly, no help from MIL or my own Mum, you dont know your born.

All she said was she would've liked to have been there to see her baby taste ice cream.

Has diddly squat to do with your family abandoning you (which is bad- doesn't mean she has to get on her knees and kiss her MILs toes just because she looks after her DGD one day a week)

L0bstersLass · 07/04/2022 19:46

@maloney123

Please let me preface this post by acknowledging that my in laws look after our baby once a week and I’m hugely grateful to them for this. They were desperate to be grandparents (this is their first grandchild) so the arrangement suits us both as they get time with the baby and I get time to catch up on laundry, cleaning etc (I am still on mat leave).

Today my MIL gave our baby her first taste of ice cream (DD is 9 months). I’m not so bothered about the sweet aspect (although we’re not giving her sweets, juice etc as yet) but I feel upset that we didn’t get to give her her first ice cream. I feel like this is a cute milestone moment for a baby and instead of being there I had my MIL describing to me how my daughter reacted to the taste. Previously she has also tried BLW my baby one day after we started weaning her which I was livid about, so we’ve already spoken to her and asked her not to give her new foods without checking in first.

I don’t mind MIL giving “normal” foods but I do feel like something like baby’s first ice cream is a bit special and I feel annoyed and upset that she took this moment away unnecessarily. I don’t think I’m going to say anything about it as I don’t want to appear ungrateful so I guess I’m just venting, feel free to tell me YABU!!

You're over-reacting. How are you going to feel if your child takes her first steps in front of your MIL? You cannot be there for everything, You will miss out on some firsts. Best to come to terms with that rather than trying to control everything.

Foxglovers · 07/04/2022 20:26

I get it and don’t think you are unreasonable for feeling this way.

hungrymutha · 07/04/2022 20:37

Just give the second ice cream . Its no biggie

Has baby had an easter egg yet?

CandyLeBonBon · 07/04/2022 20:46

Wait until DD takes her first step at your MIL's - milestone central!!!

Honestly op I get that you want those Kodak moments to treasure, but you'll have so many over they wars, what seems a massive deal now, really doesn't matter in the great scheme of things,

You'll get plenty of firsts I promise.

If you're worried about juices etc just mention it, otherwise I'd just let ice-creamgate go.

LBFseBrom · 07/04/2022 22:33

@Kingharoldshairstyle

I think it’s highly unusual to consider this a thing, babies first ice cream so your mother in law could simply not have guessed it was a thing for you. She’s caring for your child and doing you a favour.

Maybe you can list out your unique mile stones and list rhem for her?

Agreed. Having your first ice cream is not a big milestone.

Also a bit of ice cream is not going to hurt your baby. It's gentle on the stomach. If she was in hospital (God forbid), she would almost certainly be given ice cream.

cocktailclub · 07/04/2022 22:35

I'm glad I'm not your in-laws. You sound like hard work. Too PFB.
If you want free childcare you have to accept there will be more issues like this.

doeadeeer · 07/04/2022 22:36

Honestly it's just not an issue. You'll have loads of fun ice cream moment that your baby will actually remember. This isn't something to linger on.

lisaandalan · 07/04/2022 22:39

Grow up and stop being so childish, they are helping you and love your child be happy for that.

1stTimeMama · 07/04/2022 22:40

What on earth are you going to do if your child takes her first steps with her grandparents?!
YABU

YourWinter · 07/04/2022 22:44

Wow! I wouldn’t remember when mine sat, crawled, walked and talked if not for the baby record books that I filled in so carefully for the first, half-heartedly for the second, and not at all for the third. I don’t have any memory nor any photos or records of their first tastes of anything past the first breast feed. I actually really enjoyed having my babies, but I honestly don’t understand why this is such a big deal for you. Your child certainly won’t remember, so is it just that you’ve missed a photo opportunity to share on SM?

longwayoff · 07/04/2022 23:04

What if she takes a first step in their presence? First word? First cheese on toast? Y are being fantastically U and ridiculous with it.

indiesearcher · 07/04/2022 23:07

YABVU.

You can make a milestone/memory out of other things. Other foods are available.

Like broccoli.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 07/04/2022 23:12

There's a PFB post running at the moment that you would fit right in with 😳