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To feel like fucking crying?

419 replies

WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:15

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

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HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 06/04/2022 15:23

When you have norovirus surely you set up camp in the toilet if it's that bad, water bottle, phone/ book and let your body do its job. Even if you are supervising small children you just close the stair gate and let them play on the landing.

stuntbubbles · 06/04/2022 15:23

@Whiskersonkittens21

Either this isn't real or he is deliberately shitting around the house.
I think there’s a major drip feed coming that it’s deliberate and punishing her. Or poo troll. Still all to play for!
Easterisoffeggstooexpensive · 06/04/2022 15:25

Wtf are you cleaning up?

QuitMoaning · 06/04/2022 15:25

I had norovirus a couple of years ago and it was horrific and I had very little control of my bowels. However it was all confined to the bathroom. It was horrible clearing it up but I couldn’t leave it for my partner to do. Especially as it was very contagious.

He did catch it and same applied. He did have one accident and we had to wash a sofa cushion cover but he did it all and it was in one place and easily resolved.

That was a couple of days we will never forget.

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:25

No additional needs. I think part of the problem is that our loo is downstairs and he's just not making it in time.

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Pursefirst · 06/04/2022 15:26

He shit all over your house OP and unless there's a massive drip feed coming you definitely do not need to be nice to him.

transformandriseup · 06/04/2022 15:27

I had microscopic colitis in the past and had to use the toilet every 10 mins of the day and just stayed next to the bathroom all day.

Prettybubblesintheair · 06/04/2022 15:27

Are you married to a dog? That’s the only scenario I can understand how he’s managed to get shit all over the house…

In all seriousness that is fucking grim and I’d be taking the kids off and leaving him to deal with it. Is there anywhere you can stay with them tonight/tomorrow?

stuntbubbles · 06/04/2022 15:27

@WeirdlyKind

No additional needs. I think part of the problem is that our loo is downstairs and he's just not making it in time.
Why the hell didn’t he camp out downstairs?! First rule of any shitting bug is “stay near the loo at all times”. I’ve slept in the bathroom before when I’ve had noro.
gunnersgold · 06/04/2022 15:28

Why would a grown adult not clear up after themselves. Sorry just that is just gross !
He should be ashamed of himself !

Theunamedcat · 06/04/2022 15:28

How does he even have shit left? Is he still eating?

Original poster
WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:28

@HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime

When you have norovirus surely you set up camp in the toilet if it's that bad, water bottle, phone/ book and let your body do its job. Even if you are supervising small children you just close the stair gate and let them play on the landing.
Our bathroom is downstairs and it's tiny which is part of the problem. Only one loo in the house too which is why I'm trying to keep it clean.

Not a poo troll. I really wish I wasn't dealing with this, honestly!

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beenaroundtheblox · 06/04/2022 15:28

@WeirdlyKind

No additional needs. I think part of the problem is that our loo is downstairs and he's just not making it in time.
Can you go out and leave it to him to sort?
Abouttimemum · 06/04/2022 15:29

Erm this is not normal. I camped out in the bathroom last time I had it. And when DH needed the loo I stepped in the shower. I also wore some pads. Max the worst of that side of things should only last a couple of days. This should 100% not have happened. I’d not be happy at all either.

You can get the carpet cleaned easily enough but the mattress sounds grim.

Pumperthepumper · 06/04/2022 15:29

Can you post a picture of the hall carpet and your hand with a thumbs up?

Bellyups · 06/04/2022 15:29

Sorry OP, but even with severe sickness and diarrhoea, you do not shit all over the house.
Unless you are a dog.
WTF is going on.

00100001 · 06/04/2022 15:30

Why is he going back upstairs?

saraclara · 06/04/2022 15:30

@Hollyhead

That is not normal for a stomach bug.
Is not usual, but it can happen. It did to me once and I was mortified. Happened in the bedroom first, then I thought I could make the dash to the loo, but the landing suffered on the way. I just cried with embarrassment.

Had I realised I wouldn't make it, I'd have stuffed something in the way of my bum and the floor when I ran to the loo, but I had no experience to go on, and I panicked.

It's only happened that once in my nearly five decades of adulthood, but for those who think the the DH somehow did it deliberately, because this can't happen accidentally, think again and just be glad it hasn't happened to you.

SareBear87 · 06/04/2022 15:30

Omg that is awful!
DH had noro a few years ago and I ended up making a camp for him in the bathroom due to a few near-misses. It's horrific, especially if he's vomiting too. I'm sure he's feeling mortified... (DH cringes anytime anyone mentions Noro now!)

Deep breath's, I'd keep him segregated so no one else ends up poorly too - good luck

wakeywakeyeggsandbacy · 06/04/2022 15:30

I have only ever once shit myself as an adult, and that was when I was about 38 weeks pregnant with my second child, and also had a stomach bug. It was an accidental fart which just managed to seep a small amount into my knickers when I wasn't expecting it. It didn't get any farther than my knickers as I pegged it to the toilet and sorted myself out (most likely binned the knickers too, can't remember as it was years ago).

Ill or not there is no excuse for shitting everywhere. LTB.

00100001 · 06/04/2022 15:31

How has he managed to get it absolutely everywhere? Is he not wearing clothes?
Is he walking round whilst leaking? Why isn't he on towels etc in the bed?

I'm genuinely confused

daisychainsandrainbows · 06/04/2022 15:31

Did the kids he caught this from shit all over the house too or did they manage to use a fucking toilet?

It's truly vile and if he had one accident he should have quickly learnt to stay put in the bathroom. I would not be dealing with this. Check into a hotel with the kids and leave him to clear up his own mess the dirty bastard.

MyCommentWasDeleted · 06/04/2022 15:31

If he’s that I’ll then wouldn’t he just sit on the toilet all day like other normal people? Or in the bath tub? Or the shower? Or have a bucket? Or some old towels?
Or does he have some sort of mental / physical illness that means he can’t do that?
If there’s no underlying medical reason for him not being able to get to a toilet on his own then it sounds like he’s just been shitting all over the place to annoy you.

ifyouturnonthelight · 06/04/2022 15:31

That is gross

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WeirdlyKind · 06/04/2022 15:33

@Pumperthepumper

Can you post a picture of the hall carpet and your hand with a thumbs up?
I mean, I can, not sure if anyone really wants to see that but if you feel like I need to prove I'm not a troll.
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