To feel like fucking crying?

[WeirdlyKind]

My partner has a stomach bug. He caught it off the kids and he's had a couple of accidents.

Came in from work today to find the house stinking of shit. It's everywhere - our bed is going to have to be replaced, the bedroom carpet is ruined, it's on the stair carpet and the hall carpet downstairs.

I've just spent 45mins scrubbing the (tiny) bathroom because there was shit literally everywhere.

Can't really afford to buy a new bed but the mattress is heavily stained, now on both sides. It's going to cost hundreds for that and the carpets. Genuinely feel like crying my eyes out. Probably not helped by the fact he's doing nothing to help (like putting his soiled clothes in the shower rather than just leaving them). I've got piles of washing to do still too.

Aibu to be utterly fed up?

Could you claim on your home contents insurance to replace the carpet & bed? Accidental damage cover?

@Letsbekindplease

My god. I’d hate to be married to any of you lot. The poor guy is shitting through the eye of a needle. Clearly can’t clean it up. I’d HAPPILY clean that up if it was my OH. He’s not well

Happily @Letsbekindplease .. happily?? Surely the best that can be expected in these circumstances is .. stoically And I probably wouldn't manage that

@mathanxiety

Do you have a bathtub?

Get him off the couch and into the tub. He needs to stay there until he has recovered. He can put a pillow under his head.

Go and get some sports rehydration drink for him.

Call professional cleaners asap. Stop cleaning this up yourself. You're going to catch the virus.

Regardless of sickness, a grown adult does not turn his home into a midden.

I would make sure he understands this is never to happen again. When you have noro you live in the bathroom until it's over. You lie on the cold tiled floor for three days if necessary.

Yes mum

@Letsbekindplease

My god. I’d hate to be married to any of you lot. The poor guy is shitting through the eye of a needle. Clearly can’t clean it up. I’d HAPPILY clean that up if it was my OH. He’s not well

Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. I would hate to meet any of these people in real life. No wonder the world is such an unbearable place to live.

Wow, I really don't agree with people who think he is doing it to upset/annoy you/be abusive. Surely no-one would ever intentionally do that? Also if he's got Faecal incontinence to the extent that it's soaking through pants and trousers then he must be feeling absolutely miserable! I do remember puking on the landing because the only available toilet was downstairs on one occasion with Norovirus- it was horrible.

I feel so sorry for you too- honestly as an Emetophobe and someone with contamination OCD it's my worst nightmare, well done for coping with this.

@Darbs76

Some pretty nasty comments on here. It’s a long way to the loo when you’ve got norovirus and your only toilet is downstairs. Calling the OP a troll and other rude comments is pretty pathetic. I hope he’s ok OP and poor you having to clean it up. I had to clean a similar bathroom once when my mum had an explosive accident in my house when I was 8 months pregnant

Exactly! Glad I'm not alone in feeling like this too. You would think these heartless, such poor excuses of women would have a tad more empathy and understanding. I dread to think what they're like when their own husbands become ill

Can you buy him some Loperamide/Imodium? (for diarrhoea). It works really well and contrary to common opinion you don't need to 'get rid' of a sickness virus by vomiting or having diarrhoea, the vomiting and diarrhoea are the virus's way of spreading itself to other hosts (like a sneeze).

@Letsbekindplease

I can’t help but laugh at these responses and then the picture. You guys are BRUTAL

feeling for you OP and hubby. Warm soapy water. Then I would use bicarbonate soda to make a paste on it. Leave over night. Hoover in the morning then wash again.
Bin the clothes he’s shit on.
Make yourself a cuppa and get your feet up. Try stay clear of him because it’s so catching. Ignore some of these people on here who clearly act like they’re shit don’t stink

Honestly if you're clearing up contaminated diarrhoea, you're very likely to catch it. It's spread through contact with the vomit and diarrhoea, you don't need to kiss him/hug him to catch it.

@WeirdlyKind

We don't have a bath unfortunately. Just a very small shower and a bathroom so small you can touch both walls.

Thinking about it with some distance, I think it may have just been one incident that started in the bedroom and a few leaks as he made his way down the stairs.

Which is what I've been saying all along. I know it's easy to say when you're not the one stressed out and cleaning it all up, but surely it was pretty obvious that out happened in bed and he instinctively then tried to get to the loo in a panic, having follow up spurts as he went? I'm not the only one who's described that exact thing happening to me/them.

Nobody, really nobody, would have one accident and then let further separate incidents happen without mitigation.

Honestly if you're clearing up contaminated diarrhoea, you're very likely to catch it. It's spread through contact with the vomit and diarrhoea, you don't need to kiss him/hug him to catch it.

YYY and this is why the person with the noro needs to isolate himself or herself in the bathroom and bring a bottle of dettol with.

The OP will catch this and when she finally recovers I bet she'll find mountains of everyone's laundry and piles of dirty dishes, pots, and pans waiting for her to see to.

Don't buy imodium but he does need Gatorade to replace electrolytes.

It's absolutely possible to be that ill ! I highly recommend pet stain spray from Tesco

@Springhassprung86

Gobsmacked at some of these posts here. One accident, yea ok. He is literally shitting all over the house like it’s going out of fashion . Stay in one place, for fucks sake!! Why’s is necessary to run all over the house? Shitting?! Jesus.

Have you read OP's posts? He was in bed upstairs and the toilet is downstairs. He was trying to get to the toilet, FFS.

Does he not wear clothes?

@WeirdlyKind

No additional needs. I think part of the problem is that our loo is downstairs and he's just not making it in time.

But don't most people in that situation just stay in the loo? Or, if he wants to lie down, can't he at least do so in the sitting room so he can get to the loo quickly? And why the hell can't he at least put a towel under himself?

I remember crying like a baby when this happened to me , I literally had no control over my body. You think everything is out then it starts again, DH was amazing and stripped the bed and cleaned the bathroom as I was so weak I couldn't do it. I had to stay sat on the loo with a bucket in the end as I didn't have the energy to keep running to the loo.

Two kids have just had noro, both realised that they needed to stay close to the toilet, one slept on the bathroom floor because she knew she couldn't make it back and forth to bed. He's an adult.

My god should he not be in hospital if he’s that unwell?

Oh op, i sympathise so much with you both.
The level of ill he must be i wouldn't wish on anyone, i had noro for the one and thankfully only time last year, and as a sufferer of extreme OCD about bodily waste and germs it was not a fun time.
I ended up stuck in the bath with the shower running on me as cold as it would go, curled in the bottom and every attempt to get up i nearly fainted and vomited. I felt like i weighed an actual ton, it honestly felt like climbing a mountain just moving from lying to sitting up. For that reason i can understand that he may not have been in a position to clean it up himself at the time, and can only hope all those calling him such awful names have just never been this level of ill, even if they've had the same/similar bug. That he's put the adult nappy on speaks volumes to me that it wasn't intentional, hopefully by the morning he's in a much better state to help clean the bedroom.

Thinking of my own relationship, i'd like to think i'd be so concerned about how ill my partner would have to be for this to happen, that i wouldn't be mad at him, and would help clean up. I certainly know by the person he is he'd be mortified in your husbands situation and would do everything he could to contain and clean up by himself. I hope your husband appreciates how you've handled this and is suitably appologetic/makes it up to you.
Also hopefully the illness doesn't pass to you and you're all well asap.

@LakieLady

I've only had 2 stomach upsets in my entire life: camplylobacter and noro.

When I had campylobacter, it was like my arse was sneezing shite. It was completely uncontrollable and came with zero warning. And with a temp of 40.8, I wasn't up to rushing anywhere. But 2 pairs of my sturdiest undercrackers under my pyjamas, and a couple of old towels beneath me in bed prevented any damage to the mattress, and the only mishap was when a fiercely violent bout of vomitting overshot the bowl, when I was sitting on the lav. And I cleaned it up myself.

How someone gets it all over the house is a mystery to me.

Honestly, this is the winning post for me 🤣👏🏼

@Arsewangry

We had it a few weeks ago. I came down with it hard and fast, I was on the loo with a bucket one minute, next minute i woke up on the floor, blood pouring from my forehead, vomiting profusely and simultaneously shitting myself. Fainted and smacked my head off the sink on my way down.

Once I finally thought I was empty (some hours later), I took my sad little bucket to bed, puked, shit the bed and missed the towels somehow.

Horrific. Mattress topper binned.

It happens sometimes, and it's fucking awful, but your DH OP is something else.

Oh my goodness! While that sounds an AWFUL experience you have such a way with words that really made me laugh. First your apt username and then 'sad little bucket' finished me off I do hope you're fully recovered and don't ever have to go through that again

I'm sorry but ill or not, there is really no excuse for him soiling BOTH sides of the mattress and making this level of mess. I can understand frequent accidents. I can understand some of the mess. I can even understand one side of the mattress. But after soiling one side of the mattress, he has had time to flip the mattress (or have you do it) and presumably fresh bedding, but not put towels down?

Nothing but sympathy for him having Noro, but this seems like he has no respect for you (or the risk of you getting it) or your house, which he is merrily spreading shit around.

I'm more inclined to think most of the PP thickos on here are trolls not the OP. It really confuses me how people think "because I had x once" they're qualified to say whether it happened or not. People are generally weird AF on here. And I love it because I read a full thread about poo

Sorry I'm absolutely agog! How the hell can a grown man go around his own house shitting like a baby with no nappy on. This completely beggars belief. I would have to leave the house even it meant sleeping in the car . I would be reading him the riot act and make him pay to replace everything. If you get it op I'm sure he won't help you to even so much as watch the kids. I honestly think I'd have to leave him for good at this point. Is he always this useless?