To think marriage is a thing of the past?

[StaceyP92]

So, I have 2 children, work part time - although could return full time in a heartbeat, own my
House. If we split I would then work full time and be able to afford to live by myself with the kids?

Why is going part time after babies seen as being financially dependant?

Also, my partner doesn’t have any other assets so I really don’t understand what this ‘no children before marriage’ statement is?

@StaceyP92

It’s solely my house, DP has no assets he just earns more than me, I have also continued to pay into my pension through work and Child benefit gets paid to me?

Your pension will be lower.

Also, unfortunately there have also beena few cases where ex partners have been able been able to make a claim on the house. It's rare but it happens. Check there's and ruling of the country you live in.

You work part time, so he is financially supporting you and paying towards your home. When you cohabit you still need to take steps to protect your asset. Why did you buy it alone when you have been together for so long?

If you are managing to pay out loads in pensions AND pay for the house without him contributing (including improvements) then you do have a very well paying job.

You are in a decent position. Especially, since you could go full time easy enough. It's not hard to understand that many are not. Marriage will not help me at all. But I can understand why its so important to alot of women. I understand that not everyone is on the same boat.

I can also understand that marriage is not a thing of the past.

And let's be honest, you know it isn't. Because you want marriage. Your partner doesn't and that's what this is about. You convincing yourself you don't want it.

@Cocomarine thanks for that! 🤨

I'm not sure what you're hoping to get out of this thread, OP.

There is no longer a social stigma around being an unmarried mother. It's just that a lot of women end up in the shit financially when their relationships break down, and they would have been better protected if they had been married.

If that's not the case for you, great. Good for you. But why start this thread?

@StaceyP92

I want to Marry for the right reasons though? Not with the intention that he might screw me over?

You definitely shouldn't have kids with someone if you think they might 'screw you over'....common sense surely?

@tam23

If you die and leave your home and other assets to him, the taxman will take 40% of it.

Not accurate!

well 40% of the value over £325k or so. assuming all your assets are held by you and none as tennants in common.

You need to take advice on your specific situation, OP. If you are the sole outright owner of your house then you stand to lose more than DP in the event of a marriage ending.