I think there's two types! One, dark shoulder length hair, dark eyes and glasses, hair all one length and shoulder length, pale-ish skin, wears makeup, well off but loves a handout from inlaws that they moan about shamelessly, children have tutors but are thick as mince and nothing will save them so lots of shouting, crying and rage during examination periods, think any bad day with anyone is a mental health concern, lacks emotional intelligence, was the other woman at one point but thinks their own circumstances made it okay at the time and cannot cobble together the emotional intelligence to understand why not, has girl mates and socialises with them like a teenager with too much free time, husband is their secretary, maid and has no opinion of his own, children are actually quite nice kids but look knackered from all the trips to Orlando along with extra curricular activities, pretends to be a well rounded person who let's their kids have independence but really it suits them because it means more time for themselves, spends down time on Mumsnet, at the gym and telling off other women at work.
Second type, kind, witty, empathetic and stops by on heart-rending threads to offer support and bump even with nothing to say, on Mumsnet for solidarity and sisterhood, loves their own family and includes their partners family in that, understands that not everyone loves theirs, good friend, good listener, their pets are a part of their household, money is there to help them live, genuinely in love with their partner despite the odd row, has a home they don't think is anything special but real life friends love to go to on a Saturday night with the smell of dinner cooking and a bottle of any wine in tow, keeps sentimental objects, likes their older children's partners, doesn't hate their kids teachers and sweats the big stuff in life only