To not want DH talking to his female friend about this stuff?

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Not sure if I'm being unreasonable here. DH and I have been married 2 years and are in our early 30s, he has a female friend in her early 20s which is okay, but he's recently been there a lot for her and her emotional problems, although he's very open about this with me. However she was starting to talk about the guys she has had things with and at least going a bit more in detail than I think is really ok? He is fine me reading it and says it was relevant in one part of the story but I'm not sure.. he also wakes up to a good few messages from the woman. I have met her in passing and she seems pleasant enough but is this sort of situation something you'd be ok with?

@hangrylady I think you misread that post. It's saying if she was texted a male friend about his sex life would her husband be ok with that

[quote SweetSakura]@hangrylady I think you misread that post. It's saying if she was texted a male friend about his sex life would her husband be ok with that[/quote]
Yes sorry misread but I very much doubt any man would be OK with this.

Oh I totally agree @hangrylady

Send him this thread. He's being an absolute twit.

I'm so laid back in my relationship I could fall over. But if DP's female mates were chatting with him about which sex positions they'd like to try, I'd probably message them back on his phone letting them know it's me and that I'm an absolute fire cracker in the sack so I could give her advice if she wanted to continue that conversation. If I'm made to feel uncomfortable I'm all set to make everyone feel uncomfortable.

Loving this. My bloke would put a stop to this long ago.

Loool. I just have appropriate boundaries and standards.

'Appropriate'. One of those words that means whatever the speaker wishes it to mean.

I am just trying to imagine having this interaction with a man 10 years younger at an activity I do... It would feel SO WRONG. Either your husband has no moral compass or he knows full well and is being disingenuous as fuck.

Now a colleague saying he hasn't had a girlfriend/had sex for ages in a group setting, that's happened (both sexes) - but that doesn't have a sexual vibe because everyone will pile on with getting them to sign up for online dating, setting up with a friend etc. VERY different from a one to one text at any time let alone overnight.

@FloraMillie

I'm going through this now my husband who hadn't given me a moment's doubt in 17 years suddenly got a new best friend. 15 years younger hugely flirty liked to talk about her sex life and was messaging constantly day and night. She too had no other friends oh and boyfriend trouble. I let it go on far too long but eventually had to say something. It didn't go well I was jealous, controlling wouldn't let him have any friends etc. We muddled through for another couple of months before he split up with me. This was all my fault I'm an awful person he'd been miserable for years etc etc. Is total crap we had a good marriage. He was adamant that she was nothing to do with it. Less than three weeks after we split and he is now in a relationship with her . If you can stop this early enough please do. I left it far too late as didn't want to be the controlling wife.

Same here.