Mother’s Day Disappointment…

[5upermum]

Mother to toddler and currently 10 days overdue with second baby. Husband has basically made zero effort for this awful thing called Mother’s Day, despite me asking him to book something nice like a lunch or ANYTHING for us to do that isn’t exhausting at this stage of pregnancy.

My gifts were a watering can, which has been sat in the car boot for a month and I’ve seen it every time I open it, even though I already own one, and an empty picture frame. No flowers, no breakfast, no cup of tea, no taking toddler so I can have a lie in.

I’ve had quite a difficult end of pregnancy and have been quite unwell, now very uncomfortable and overdue. His reasoning for not booking or doing anything was “in case baby comes”, but I wasn’t aware this stopped him from at least bringing me a cup of tea or saying “Happy Mother’s Day”.

I know lots of people don’t celebrate it, or think it’s a load of rubbish, but I’ve always made such a big deal for Father’s Day and he knows that I wanted at least some fuss given that I’m feeling miserable and huge. He’s apologised for not doing anything, but I’m just upset that I feel so overlooked. Motherhood has been such a struggle recently and one day of fuss would have really cheered me up.

Pathetic, I know. Just needed a rant I guess, I don’t feel I’m being totally unreasonable but maybe I am?

I’m sorry. Happy Mother’s Day sweetheart. For what it’s worth.
I got a card “from” my 10 month old that said. “Good job, love u”.
My proposal was “Hey the visa would be easier if we were married”. My wedding day was in court with jeans and work boots. Our bdays are a hastily written card from coop, bought minutes before. And don’t even mention Valentine’s Day.
I don’t think I expected much if anything, but when I spent the day with a card, barely a word spoken and having to sign lavish cards and prepping bouquets for MIL I really became hurt. My bday is whatever. Proposals, marriage, and Valentine’s Day, meh. But to me, becoming a mother was the most valuable, worthwhile, important thing I’ve ever done. It would’ve been nice for someone to get me some damn daisies.
I feel you.

You stay put, let him move out xx

Onlyforcake your child’s bad mental health doesn’t mean you have been a shitty parent. ❤️❤️

That is abit crap that he couldn’t even get you a card and let you have a lie in.

Although my Mother’s Day was spent dealing with the police as my kids dad broke into my house and attacked me my mum and my brother.

@Beefy1

Although my Mother’s Day was spent dealing with the police as my kids dad broke into my house and attacked me my mum and my brother.

I hope you are all OK.

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We don't do Mother's Day or Father's Day, it's a day for the card companies! It is nice to have a cup of tea in bed and DH should be doing that anyway. When I was pregnant, hubby would bring me tea in bed before I got up to go to work and then, again, when feeding DS myself. If you do normally celebrate Mother's Day then a watering can (I'm glad he wants one for Father's Day) is insulting. A cup of tea in bed and he could make lunch for you as well as caring for little treasure while you have a relaxing bath is priceless. And, he wouldn't have to worry about going into labour while you are out!