He ate the soup ...

[Tdcp]

I'm really ill, I've had an annoying cough for a few days which today has turned in to a snot fest. I'm tired. I've had a smear test this morning which they've found a few issues with my cervix, I've dragged my arse to Asda, where I bought myself a tin of tomato soup. I drove him 15 minutes away for a walk and picked him and DD up after they were done, had a bath and thought.. I've not eaten yet, I'll go and have that soup.

He doesn't really like tomato soup, in fact I can't recall him ever eating any, that's why I bought one tin. He likes chicken soup which there's 3 tins of as well as other random flavours in the cupboard.

He ate my tomato soup. Ffs. I don't know if this is light hearted or not but after a string of bullshit I'm just a bit fed up right now.

Silent message that he is more worthy than you?

Send him out to buy more soup, that’s really shitty behaviour from him.

Hope you feel better soon

Ffs! Who does that? ?? Why does he think you went to asda and bought it? Just for him to eat? Selfish! He needs to go out and buy you some more!

Silent message that he is more worthy than you?

It does feel like this yes. I wish it didn't.

Send him out to buy more soup, that’s really shitty behaviour from him.

He'd never go so I wouldn't even ask

Like a cat pissing all over his territory.

Thank you for validating me. I was feeling a little pathetic about it 😂

Did you ask him why?

He said he didn't realise it was for me. I said that I only bought one tin because he doesn't like tomato soup, that I've not eaten yet etc and he said he ate it because he fancied it so I need to stop making it a big deal.

@Tdcp

Silent message that he is more worthy than you?

It does feel like this yes. I wish it didn't.

Send him out to buy more soup, that’s really shitty behaviour from him.

He'd never go so I wouldn't even ask

If you explained that you’d bought that soup for yourself and were looking forward to it he wouldn’t immediately apologise and set out to replace it?

This is much bigger than the soup, isn’t it?

@Tdcp

He said he didn't realise it was for me. I said that I only bought one tin because he doesn't like tomato soup, that I've not eaten yet etc and he said he ate it because he fancied it so I need to stop making it a big deal.

What are his good points? And why hasn’t he offered to make you something, why are you buying your own soup and ferrying him around?

Go and buy something for yourself. Tell him to go to hell.
Have you got dc op?

He'd never go so I wouldn't even ask.

This is the problem, not the soup. Who wouldn’t go out to help/treat their partner when she was ill/tired/fed up?

A 7 year old dd

Oh OP. I'm sad about your soup I hope you can think of something nice to do for yourself tonight.

Bloody soup wanker

He'd never go so I wouldn't even ask

Why are you with someone who isn’t nice to you?

I ask because my exh used to instigate rows when any occasion that wasn't about him was due.. He sulked on Mothers Day and ruined my 40th birthday.. Even dc's birthday he stropped around...

It's nice to see other perspectives on this if I'm honest. I never know if I'm over reacting or anything. I mean.. I barely reacted to this at all but the fact I've been busy all day and I feel like shit and he ate the one thing I wanted...

I bought my own mother's Day flowers and chocolate today as well. £5, flowers and £2 chocolates.

sending you sympathy, I’ve had the same nasty cold you seem to be coming down with and I think this would tip me over the edge.

It’s legitimate to feel sad when those you choose to keep close to you and supposedly love you just don’t care about you.

Why would he not go to the shop? It's a very small thing to do for someone you love who is ill even if you didn't eat their food and need to replace it!

@NandorTheRelentlessCleaner

Bloody soup wanker

This ^^

So you are ill, have been looking after your child, been to medical appointment and bought yourself something you fancied and he ate it. I agree he's a soup wanker

Yanbu . It's unkind that instead of being apologetic and offering to go get you more tomato soup he thinks you're so unimportant that you shouldn't fuss about it

Bloody well fuss about it. He's a selfish man.

Soup thief!! This would really wind me up to OP.

It reminds me some years ago I made a huge dish of gorgeous summer pudding, I took it out of the oven to cool a bit. And of course while I was putting DD to bed my DH ate THE ENTIRE dish. It was enough for about 6 servings. He said he "just fancied it" and "didnt realise" I would want some.

Suffice it to say I tore him a new one and since then he has always very meekly checked what size portion he can have when I cook any kind of pudding- so much so I almost feel guilty now.

Make a lovely dinner when you feel better - steak/ yummy cheese burgers or duck with chips for you and DC

He can have a tin of tomato soup! Put the tin on his plate whilst you all tuck in (or eat before he comes home!) Then tell him not to fuss

To be honest in my house unless specifically told otherwise all food is fair game.

But if that is not the case in your house then he is being so unreasonable. I'd have a word with him then get a takeaway instead.

I hope you feel better soon

I know what you mean guarantee I buy juice that like he’ll drink it.