Being called a fatty

[penguinparty00]

So just out for a run (well a jog plod) .. trying to shift the baby weight ( still after 15 months) and a group of lads in a car put the window down and shout fatty at me .. then proceed to laugh and other cars around with windows down could hear and i literally died on embarrassment and had to hold back tears! So decided not to let some little bunch of idiots ruin my run I carried on but why had it bothered me so much! Im so down about it it really hit a nerve - yes it's probably true in 5ft10 and weigh 13.7 stone so carrying so extra baggage but give the girl a break that's my 3rd run this week - im trying!! Why can't I seem to let this go I'm so upset?

I used to run regular and the amount of men who used to make stupid comments was horrendous. I recommend giving them the finger😀

Says them sat in a car, hate people that do this it happens where I live too disgusting!
Just think your the one that made the effort to do exercise good on you!!
Keep going and don't give a fuck what some greasy teenagers say go girl 💪🏻💪🏻

I concur about the finger.

When I see people out running I always think “good on you, I wish I was motivated enough to run” so that’s exactly what I’d think if I saw you. Be proud of yourself.

Please try and forget it OP, easier said than done but they're just immature idiots wanting to get a laugh out of their mates.

Take a weapon next time that you can throw in said open window - perhaps a bit of rotting fish (not so great for your run!)

Seriously though, I also really admire anyone I see out running - ignore the childish twerps

When I see someone out running I will often say "you go girl" but because I was brought up proper like I don't yell it out of the window!
Think on that: there will be all the more normal people out there wishing you well (and maybe feeling guilty they aren't doing the same😉)

I'm so sorry that this happened to you and how fucking dare they! Fuck them, put your best lycra on and run girl you are amazing!
I was doing a Moonlight run (you know the one that you do for charity) and it was through my local town on a Saturday night so very busy with lots of drunk people and I hat to pass someone on a narrow pathway - she yelled at me "move out of the way fatty" this was about 10 years ago but it has still stuck with me. People can be mean.

Some people are just twats - it’s absolutely no reflection on you. I had someone shout at me for being fat when I was running, and I was a size 10 at the time. It’s an emotive insult that they know will hurt - which says everything about them that you need to know. If people heard them, they will be judging them, not you.

It's just the go-to insult for abusive men. I remember when I was about 20 and a size 6 and walking to work, a car full of young guys winding the window down and shouting 'fat slag' at me. It'll most likely have been nothing to do with your appearance and just that it's the first thing their tiny brains think of when they want to shout abuse.

Happened to me whilst heavily pregnant (though not jogging!) at some traffic lights and a car of young men drove past and shouted oi fatty out the window at me

Men shout at women runners. If you’re 14 or 49, a size 6 or a size 22, you will have men shouting crap at you. You’ll get called fat, you’ll abuse, you’ll get sexual comments. You could be a perfect BMI and an elite athlete. You’ll still get called fat at some point.

I wear big, obvious headphones (rather than invisible in ear ones.) It cuts down on the comments if they think you won’t be able to hear them.

OP, they were incredibly immature boys who aren't worthy of your headspace. You've grown and birthed another human, something they could never achieve, so cut yourself some slack. Try to feel positive that you're taking action and doing something to self-improve. They're a bunch of wasters who get their jollies from shouting out rude comments. Just smile, stick up the middle finger, and continue on with your run. Or get some ear buds and listen to some music while out running so that you don't have to listen to abusive comments.

You know they aren’t worth the upset, but it still hurts all the same doesn’t it?
If you’ve got headphones I really recommend getting a good podcast on the go! People could be shouting bomb at me and i wouldn’t have a clue!

I'm just home from a run/jog/walk and I wondered if this was what you were talking about when I saw your title. I've had this a few times and I really feel your pain, it's so horrible.

Once when this happened to me from a guy walking rather than in a car, a guy running the other way shouted 'oi! Fuck off' at him.

It gave me a bit of courage, and if I'm not too busy gasping for breath or trying not to die I have been known to stick one or two fingers up at them. The other thing that worked to make me feel better was to buy myself some new running gear. Somehow nicer well fitting stuff makes me feel more confident.

God it makes me so furious that inadequate little dick splashes indulge in this kind of behaviour to impress their sad bastard mates.

Someone once said similar to me. I did not take the moral high ground, I (metaphorically) got down in the dirt and shouted 'come back and say that to me again you ugly cunt'. He looked terrified and hightailed it away.

I am so enraged on your behalf.
They are scum.
I would recommend giving them the finger -your little finger, bend and flex. But no reaction is best bc their comment is literally worth nothing.
Keep going and do what's best for you and your family

Horrible people. Says everything about them and nothing about you. You're out getting fit, they are out being unkind.

When I see anyone out jogging I think good for them wish I could find the motivation. And the people closer to my own overweight shape are even more inspiring as it makes me think it is something I could aim for. Well done for finishing your run and not letting them get in your way.

You were running faster than them.
You were doing something positive to improve yourself.
You were not getting your kicks by belittling strangers.

Go you!

A bloke in white van shouted at me, "woah look at those tits" as I was running. I'm a size 10 and have no tits - especially in a sports bra. They are just idiots.

Urgh this brings back flashbacks. I’m a size 22, and started couch 2 5k. I found there was always some smart arse with a comment. I would give them the finger, or comment back, but I had to stop doing it because I wouldn’t do so in peace.
Some bastard in a van drove past and said “look at the state of it”. He got told to fuck off, but I switched to exercises at home with YouTube as no matter how mentally strong you are, constant belittling for assholes is exhausting and I felt I had to get away from it.

You sound like you’re doing amazing, keep going and don’t let them put you off.

From assholes not for assholes. I am not the asshole

@Ncwinc

Men shout at women runners. If you’re 14 or 49, a size 6 or a size 22, you will have men shouting crap at you. You’ll get called fat, you’ll abuse, you’ll get sexual comments. You could be a perfect BMI and an elite athlete. You’ll still get called fat at some point.

I wear big, obvious headphones (rather than invisible in ear ones.) It cuts down on the comments if they think you won’t be able to hear them.

^^ This

I used to run quite a bit a few years ago and was an average size 10/12. I generally ran off the beaten track but if I did run near a road could pretty much guarantee at least once a week someone (male) would toot their horn or wind the window down and shout something they thought was funny.

Not saying it's right and not trying to detract from the awful comment on this occasion but hopefully it's some comfort that it's not just you

I agree with PPs, you will get yelled at by moron blokes if you are running. They probably won't even register what you look like before some insult comes out of their mouths.

I remember Paula Radcliffe recalling a time that she was heckled by men as she was running. Apparently they yelled "who do you think you are Paula Radcliffe?" at her and their faces were a picture when they realised she was.

I know it's hard, but try to ignore them. It says infinitely more about them than about you.
Oh and well done on 3 runs in a week when you're just starting.

Let me tell you everyone else is admiring you for doing your exercise. Do not let one group of idiots put you off.

I run and cycle, I've had all sorts happen-things thrown at me, been chased, insults and the list goes on. I keep on going and it makes me feel good, who cares what everyone thinks? Maybe listen to music if it is safe to do so?

Keep on going you will feel so much better getting outside and doing something for yourself.