Being called a fatty

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So just out for a run (well a jog plod) .. trying to shift the baby weight ( still after 15 months) and a group of lads in a car put the window down and shout fatty at me .. then proceed to laugh and other cars around with windows down could hear and i literally died on embarrassment and had to hold back tears! So decided not to let some little bunch of idiots ruin my run I carried on but why had it bothered me so much! Im so down about it it really hit a nerve - yes it's probably true in 5ft10 and weigh 13.7 stone so carrying so extra baggage but give the girl a break that's my 3rd run this week - im trying!! Why can't I seem to let this go I'm so upset?

Horrible, rude people! Good for you for keeping on going! Having a baby changes your body and it’s hard to get the motivation and time to lose baby weight! Good for you for doing it!

Personally when I see a women running, slim, curvy or overweight I literally say out loud “on yourself girl!!” and I’m pretty confident if anyone in the other cars overheard those idiots, they would have been disgusted at them!

Keep it going! Hold your head up high!

@iknowthismuchis

You're 5 10 and 13.7 stone? I bet you look amazing!

Yeah this. ^ Sounds a great weight for 5 ft 10!

@DenholmElliot

I used to run regular and the amount of men who used to make stupid comments was horrendous. I recommend giving them the finger😀

Same! I took to giving them the finger and shouting fuck off tbh. Once it was a couple of kids around 13 chasing me on their scooters. I stopped and yelled in their faces and scared the shit out of them🤣 they weren't expecting it from a middle aged mum.

It gets better as you get better at it, once I overtook 2 guys jogging and they called me a show off (jokingly) and I was like "try and keep up!"

I also got asked by a couple of guys if I wanted a beer and a spliff with them
In the park lol.....tempting but no thanks!

Honestly fuck 'em, it's embarrassing for them that they get their kicks by body shaming people. They just look small minded and stupid. Why should you be embarrassed about looking after your body?

Also they were driving past, cowardly when there's no comeback for them 🤷🏻‍♀️

How fat or skinny you are is irrelevant to them. They wanted to say something because they are little cunts who love the sound of their own voice. They have probably said similar to others. It’s just what they do. Keep doing what you are doing.

@Ncwinc

Men shout at women runners. If you’re 14 or 49, a size 6 or a size 22, you will have men shouting crap at you. You’ll get called fat, you’ll abuse, you’ll get sexual comments. You could be a perfect BMI and an elite athlete. You’ll still get called fat at some point.

I wear big, obvious headphones (rather than invisible in ear ones.) It cuts down on the comments if they think you won’t be able to hear them.

Agree. Has happened to me at all sizes. I too now wear big headphones so I'm none the wiser.

I do modify my routes, although I'm incensed that I have to. I avoid the parks unless it's during the school day and I try and run the posher streets.

I've often fantasised about getting "honk if you've got a pencil dick" on the back of my running jacket but I've been physically assaulted while running twice so not really wanting to invite that.

It's awful. But PLEASE don't let it stop you. Take those feelings you're having on another run. Running is the best for processing strong emotions. And know that you are doing something liberating and healthy and they are the kind of scrotes who can't stand seeing liberated women and won't ever have a sexually satisfying relationship.

Other than the idiots, have you enjoyed your runs this week? How amazing do you feel when you get home, do you have a silly ‘I did it’ grin on your face.

It’s easy to say ignore them from the other end of a keyboard, but focus on the positives you have gained so far.

www.swimmingatdawn.com/blog/entry/the-ocean-calls-freeing-me-from-the-weights-of-life-by-kathleen-wotton?fbclid=IwAR2GNIDJHaiiC0ZpgTi_AJNBT8GMWHbocdW8dYGPIjnNivntIPbUdUaMG0w

This lady is an inspiration she often posts on the swimming boards on fb. Don’t let the bully’s get to you.

@Fairisleflora

Ooof. Nasty. I run most days, am skinny, am a member of a club etc. Each and every ‘proper’ runner takes their hat off to you. It’s so hard to put up with so much shit. Keep it up. You’ll get there!

😂😂😂 patronising much?!? Proper runner my arse, so tempted to see your club runner and raise you one but fuck that, we are all proper runners. And OP when I run past you, I don't think good on ya, I just smile and think hey fellow runner, how shit is this, can't wait to get home and eat dinner

Wear headphones, run to Beyoncé, don’t even look at them shouting for your attention.

Rise above them, what utter arse holes.

You're running faster and getting fitter than all of those meanies.

Run for health not for thinness, you don't sound overweight!

Whenever I see someone overweight running I think God that's what I ought to be doing, well done them. Just know that some people are silently applauding your efforts too

This happened to me years ago, it was sexual comments, I jogged outside twice and it happened both times, well second time was wolf whistling and some jeering.

I’ve never been able to bring myself to do it again, as I feel so self conscious, so I run on a treadmill.

Someone on my local fb page got called fat when running by a group of lads. Their car was very distinctive. People posted saying who it was. Lots of people gave stick to the drivers.

Those men are absolute shitbags, but please, please do not let them win.

I was way, way overweight when I took up running - I weighed more than you do, and I'm only 5'3". I was so, so painfully self-conscious about it, almost to the point of being phobic, but I forced myself to persevere and it was the best thing I ever did.

If some awful bloke shouts something at you while you're running, it honestly has nothing to do with your weight - I don't think I ever had anyone shout anything at me when I was actually fat, in fact, but I did have someone shout 'fat cow' at me when I was a size 12. Some men basically just can't handle the idea that women are fit and confident. You were out there running, and they were not, and that is essentially what their issue is. They're insecure and threatened, the sad little wankers.

Once I was just finishing up a run and had reached my distance and was walking the last 500 metres or so as a cool-down, and moments after I'd slowed down and looked at my watch, some absolute bellend walked past with his mate and said 'Oi, sweaty' at me (I sweat buckets when I run, which I hate). I was so high on endorphins that I turned around and said 'I've just run 5 miles. What have you done today, you lazy c**t?' And his mate told him he deserved it

And OP when I run past you, I don't think good on ya, I just smile and think hey fellow runner, how shit is this, can't wait to get home and eat dinner

Haha, exactly this! I see loads of other runners when I run now and there's one woman I see quite regularly who always meets my eye and makes a 'why are we putting ourselves through this?' face at me as we pass each other

They are just horrible attention seeking little boys. You’re doing an amazing thing getting out there and regaining your fitness!

A long time ago I used to ride a bike to work and the amount of young men who would shout/sing ‘I want to ride my bicycle’ or similar was astounding. Young men are like urban narrators they need to just shout something. If you were taller it would be ‘what’s the air like up there’ or if you were short it would be some hilarious dwarf comment. Just ignore them and think about how sad they must be that instead of going on dates or having wild parties they are spending their youth shouting at random women out on a run.

For the number of idiots who do stupid stuff like this, there will be 10 times that number who are thinking 'she's out there, doing it - well done her', or I'm sure a few who are envious of your motivation or physical ability to do it. Be kind on yourself.

Fuck them OP!
Do not take it to heart - their opinion means absolutely nothing whatsoever.
Keep on going, you can't have much more to drop, roughly a stone maybe to be back in the healthy bmi zone?? (I'm a fellow 5' 10er :) ) Keep up your running and it'll fly off soon enough, don't let rude fuckwits put you off.

Your body is not an object for them to comment on. You don't exist to please them or to gratify them with attention. You have achieved a tremendous amount in the past couple of years - pregnancy and all that entails, giving birth, caring for a newborn, looking after your little one and now you're getting fit as well. I understand why you're upset, but really the only thing you should be doing is giving yourself a pat on the back.

Wow what absolute dick heads!! I'm glad you kept on your run. I can't believe people have so little cop on/ lack of manors to do something like that.
Glad where I live ppl just wave when passing in their car.

i literally died on embarrassment

My God! This is so creepy. Was there a bright light? Are you communicating with a medum who is typing on MN for you or can you still control computers?

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Good on you for running.

this happened recently in Australia (land of the sexist pigs), where a bunch of very inadequate men were holding up signs and rating women as they ran past on the beach. One woman filmed them and it ended up on the news, the next day a whole lot of women were out there yelling encouraging comments at the women.

Please don't let it get you down. It says more about their sad little lives than it does about you.

I don’t think you’d be a ‘fatty’ at that weight and height but that’s beside the point. These men are morons, women hating morons. Years ago when I was on my driving test ( a test i’d spent thousands working towards) a group of men spotted me at a roundabout. They tailed me for my whole test honked their horn, cut in front of me, laughing and shouting abuse. I thought they were going to run me off the road. Needless to say I failed. I haven’t tried again either

They are just immature brats. Just keep on running...ignore them. I have been shouted at by a man in a van whilst walking along a pavement, in winter so coat, trousers the lot. These idiots have a problem, don't make it yours.

I bet the other people in cars thought the people naming calling were dicks.
It's hurtful but that's what they wanted to do. Good on you bloody carry on keep your chin up and stay focused. Your the one out there pushing yourself give yourself some love ❤️ and be proud.