Being called a fatty

[penguinparty00]

So just out for a run (well a jog plod) .. trying to shift the baby weight ( still after 15 months) and a group of lads in a car put the window down and shout fatty at me .. then proceed to laugh and other cars around with windows down could hear and i literally died on embarrassment and had to hold back tears! So decided not to let some little bunch of idiots ruin my run I carried on but why had it bothered me so much! Im so down about it it really hit a nerve - yes it's probably true in 5ft10 and weigh 13.7 stone so carrying so extra baggage but give the girl a break that's my 3rd run this week - im trying!! Why can't I seem to let this go I'm so upset?

They didn’t do it to make you smell! Small that should say, small!

This is why I'm terrified to go to these big gyms. I'm very overweight and I'm waiting for my work gym to open again (hospital) I am terrified someone will say something nasty when I'm doing my best.

Despite this, me and my best friend are off to one these huge gyms tomorrow. I am bricking it. But I won't let them put me off. I will never change if I don't. She also personal trains me so that helps haha!

Feel better now @TheOrigRights?

A question from people in this thread. Do you look at fat people in gym and think god look at the state of you. Or do you think at least you're trying?

This is awful to read OP. They definitely aren’t worth getting upset over

Good on you for being active and having the courage to go out and jog. (I only have the courage the run on a treadmill, I’m too scared to do it in public)

I’m sure everyone else who heard wont have found it amusing either, and probably thought what sad and immature individuals the guys in the car were. They’ll be the type to shout at any passer by.

Keep going!!!

Its absolutely nothing to do with you. Its about them owning public space.

I don’t really look around at people at the gym but if I see do someone bigger I think “good for you!” Then I carry in with I’m —hating— doing

Nasty bastards! Ignore them. As a few pps have said, men (especially groups of younger men) will call a woman FAT if she is size 10, and 9 stone. @penguinparty00 Carry on as you are, you're doing great.

I was walking in a street in Birmingham once (on my own shopping one day, at 7 months pregnant,) and a group of men aged 18-22-ish, came past in a car, and one of them wound down the window, and shouted 'you fucking fat gross hideous cunt!' at me. Totally unprovoked, uncalled for, and brutal and cruel. I was only about 12 stone, even at 7 months pregnant. So wasn't even that big. But even f I had been, that was a vile thing to say and do. I was gobsmacked. Why do they do this?

I got this once. Drove behind me shouting fatty fatty boom boom. Its horrible, so hurtful and nasty.

They pulled into a Tesco up the road so I waited till they went in and keyed their car. Every single panel. Served them right.

@BitOutOfPractice

I don’t really look around at people at the gym but if I see do someone bigger I think “good for you!” Then I carry in with I’m —hating— doing

Reassuring to hear. Thank you.

A man randomly muttered “fat cunt” at me as he walked past me in a tube station once. Respectable guy in a suit. Just so weird, he just wanted to make me (a random woman) feel shit.

Honestly, why are men like this?

@Notanotherwindow

I got this once. Drove behind me shouting fatty fatty boom boom. Its horrible, so hurtful and nasty.

They pulled into a Tesco up the road so I waited till they went in and keyed their car. Every single panel. Served them right.

Oooooh, that's an evil thing for you to do - EVIL!

Love it.

Some men do this! They also beep their horns or holler something misogynistic at women all the time especially during nicer weather! My teenage daughter has already said she is dreading walking along roads in the spring and summer because of this behaviour.

I’m not surprised you feel so upset about this awful comment. Like others have said start listening to music and don’t give up!

They pulled into a Tesco up the road so I waited till they went in and keyed their car. Every single panel. Served them right.

Pleasing. Good for you.

I had this once and the guy that said it was a fat old man who obviously had never run in his life. Wanker. Typical l haven't seen him since but if l did l would have a good response ready and waiting for him

Some men can't bear the idea of women getting on happily, confidently and independently in the public sphere. In addition to this, a patriarchal media and society have ensures women's bodies are always up for scrutiny and will never ever be good enough.These particular specimens are worthless twats - ignore them and crack on with being awesome.

It makes me furious that so many men try to intimidate and embarrass women like this. I really don't know what's going wrong in society that males grow up thinking this is a normal thing for them to do.

Whenever I see anyone out jogging I really respect them. My friend runs regularly and I've heard from her the level of commitment needed to keep at it.

@Fairisleflora

Ooof. Nasty. I run most days, am skinny, am a member of a club etc. Each and every ‘proper’ runner takes their hat off to you. It’s so hard to put up with so much shit. Keep it up. You’ll get there!

I 100% agree with this. The only people who every criticise anyone running are people who’ve never run a step in their lives.

If anyone shouts at me / criticises me / says I’m slow I tend to respond with “thanks for the feedback Paula fucking Radcliffe” but I’m bolshy sod.

You're so upset because society constantly gives us the message that being fat is one of the worst things that you can be: it's a weakness in your character, it's a sign that you're lazy. and - most of all - it's a sign that young guys in cars think you're unfuckable (because women can't exist without being graded on how fuckable we are, whether we are interested or not)

I don't know how you get past being upset, but I do know it's them not you, and that it doesn't matter whether this is your third run in a week or your first run in thirty years; you don't have to justify your body or your existence to anyone

@DenholmElliot

I used to run regular and the amount of men who used to make stupid comments was horrendous. I recommend giving them the finger😀

Haha good advice!

You are doing a good thing for your own health, OP. Don't let any Neanderthal knuckle-draggers affect you.

Just think: when you've reached your goal they'll still be who and what they are - pitiful! 🌹

Giving anyone abuse is obviously awful but I've always been baffled by people being mean to overweight people who are exercising. Erm they're trying to change the thing you're abusing them for you clot.

@Mariposista

I am the first to judge someone who is overweight and doesn’t care but whenever I see someone who is overweight and exercising I am full of respect for them, as it shows their strength of character. You have seen that you need to change for your own health and that is admirable, ignore those immature twats. Perhaps you would feel more comfortable in an exercise group with other beginners where you have an instructor and the security of a group. Running alone is daunting when you are not a confident runner. Keep it up OP! You’ve got this!

Absolutely your right to judge. Absolutely fat people's right to a) not give a shiny shit about your judgement and b) think you're a pretty awful person for judging. Also not anyone's right to shout abuse, regardless of your measure of how worthy a fat person is

agree with the poster who said it's not about your size at all

they just want to shout things at women in general and will come up with anything in order to do so whether you're size 4 or size 22, 18 or 78 etc