Being called a fatty

[penguinparty00]

So just out for a run (well a jog plod) .. trying to shift the baby weight ( still after 15 months) and a group of lads in a car put the window down and shout fatty at me .. then proceed to laugh and other cars around with windows down could hear and i literally died on embarrassment and had to hold back tears! So decided not to let some little bunch of idiots ruin my run I carried on but why had it bothered me so much! Im so down about it it really hit a nerve - yes it's probably true in 5ft10 and weigh 13.7 stone so carrying so extra baggage but give the girl a break that's my 3rd run this week - im trying!! Why can't I seem to let this go I'm so upset?

Its "just" men bullying women. It's a power move. Its not about you. I almost feel sorry for men like this then I remember they probably have mums and sisters and girlfriends they treat this way and feel sorry for them instead. They're "just" nasty men and sadly something women are living with that men dont encounter.

Ooof. Nasty. I run most days, am skinny, am a member of a club etc. Each and every ‘proper’ runner takes their hat off to you. It’s so hard to put up with so much shit. Keep it up. You’ll get there!

Had comments when thin and fat, they are just dick heads. Forget about them xxx

This exact same thing happened to me! I was rubbing in my I wish I was a spice girl tee shirt and some guy shouted you’re too fat to be a spice girl at me! It was mortifying @penguinparty00 I’m also 5”10 and was 14 stone at the time x

Its easy to say don't let it get to you, but words do hurt. But please don't let these little immature pricks put you off going out for a run.

I've had it happen to me and it really stung. I was just starting to feel confident about myself again, post baby, and was just about down to a size 10 (well ok, small 12). But people who will yell insults at complete strangers really are not worth our time of day. They really are the scum of society.

People like us wouldn't dream of yelling an insult to someone. because we are decent people and quite honestly thats what gets me past the little dicks who think its funny to put people down.

They really are the worthless around us.

You are the worthy. Hell, you're out running! Hold your head up and be proud you are you. Imagine being one of those little pricks, how shit would life be! having to yell insults at people to look cool with your shit for brains mates! What a pathetic life they must lead.

Keep running OP, You are worth a million of them so really their opinion, or whatever comes out of their mouth in fact, is worth absolutely nothing.

I always think " good for them" when I see anyone, any shape or size, out for a run.

So good for you OP. Some day those little boys will look back on their comments and hang their heads in shame. You are not the first person they have hurled abuse too and certainly won't be the last.

If you where the one reading this post, what would you advise? No doubt you would encourage the person to ignore, try to forget and keep at it.

So, keep going OP. Stick your headphones in next time and have that middle finger ready.

3rd run of the week and it's only Thursday! You deserve a medal, not abuse.

Unfortunately there are these men out there who have been dragged up without any type of emotional intelligence, or any other type of intelligence. They will most likely do this at random to whoever they precieve threaten their confidence. Just the other week I was walking down the street with my friends 4 year old daughter, and two men pulled up, opened their window and shouted peado at me. I am a 44 year old woman, it's not completely unthinkable that this was my own child. Just such an odd thing to do, and unfortunately it left me with having to try and explain to a little 4 year old girl what had just happened.

Next time just shout back, "Fuck off Stupid." or something similar.

I regularly get comments shouted at me when I'm jogging. I think some boys & men think they are so funny!

This is honestly the reason I don't exercise outside. I know it's easy to say don't pay attention to these spotty faced idiots but it does hurt, you deserve to be left alone when out, like we all do.

Keep up the good work. Ignore, middle finger and headphones would be my strategy x

And hey, at least you can tone up and get fitter, they can't do anything about being ugly neanderthals.

It hurt because it's cruel. Post pregnancy is hard for anyone as you come to terms with a body that got taken over for nine months and now looks different. Plus, it was public when you were sweaty from exercise and so you felt vulnerable and attacked. A normal reaction.

Just remember it's not about you or even what you look like. The twats just wanted attention and to feel they had power over you and to humiliate a woman. It's about their twisted enjoyment. They just like to make people feel bad as a form of control.

Ignore them.

@RealBecca

Its "just" men bullying women. It's a power move. Its not about you. I almost feel sorry for men like this then I remember they probably have mums and sisters and girlfriends they treat this way and feel sorry for them instead. They're "just" nasty men and sadly something women are living with that men dont encounter.

No doubt these losers would be indignant if anyone shouted similar abuse at their dear old mum.

Thanks so much everyone! Reading this has certainly cheered me up! Just so sad that anyone thinks they have the right to comment on my body whether I'm fat or thin and then to act on that and actually say something! Just cruel! Not sure what I would Do differently if it happened again .. properly very little because I was a big sweaty mess trying not to die let alone try and speak haha!

They're cunts. You're doing brilliantly and getting fitter. Give them the finger or shout back to release the tension, and rise above it.

My friend is tiny, super fit, runs marathons for fun. She gets all sorts shouted at her when she's running, including death threats. She's had men in vans try to run her over. She keeps going.

I am the first to judge someone who is overweight and doesn’t care but whenever I see someone who is overweight and exercising I am full of respect for them, as it shows their strength of character. You have seen that you need to change for your own health and that is admirable, ignore those immature twats.
Perhaps you would feel more comfortable in an exercise group with other beginners where you have an instructor and the security of a group. Running alone is daunting when you are not a confident runner. Keep it up OP! You’ve got this!

@Fairisleflora “proper runner”??? Wow.

ignore, by mentioning it you are giving it headspace let it go. Some people are rude and immature. Nothing to do with you.

It’s “proper runners” that belittle me at races so I’m afraid they don’t all respect us “improper runners”.

They are twats OP. Well done for exercising. You're setting a great example for your child as well.

I haven't been called fat but I have had some lewd comments. One in particular really got me because it was a van with 2 other men in and I felt a bit unsafe. Regardless of what they say they are just trying to intimidate women. It's disgusting.

I believe "hobby runner" is a more appropriate term than "proper runner". If you're running you're a proper runner.

Your doing brilliantly OP. I literally can’t run to catch a bus. Keep going and ignore.

Men who do this are cunts. They don't deserve the air they breathe, they are of absolutely no value to the world. They are scum.

I've never had fat comments but I've had sexual comments more times than I could count (and I'm nothing to write home about, believe me - if they're not abusing you about weight it's something else). You know that scene in Crocodile Dundee where he throws the can and knocks down the mugger? I'd love to do that. But I generally fantasise about the abuser driving themselves head first into a brick wall at speed because they weren't paying attention.

Anyway - the problem is NOT you. It's them.

You're not fat at all. They are just idiots. Forget about them. Don't let those idiots put you off your running.