40th Birthday disappointment

[Mumof3boysand1girl]

It’s my 40th today , my partner didn’t get a card for the kids to give me. Had nothing planned or arranged for me.

His 40th I went all
Out and threw a 40th party with his family and friends and my family too. I made it all about him, took him for food tasting , designed his cake , took him shopping for his outfit, made a playlist , got a back drop and a gorgeous balloon arch for his stage and cake and desserts table .

I know I would get so much for my 40th but I did hope I would get a cake that wasn’t bought last minute .

I know exactly how you feel my partner of 5 years at the time got me nothing, if it wasn’t for a joint point with family that I had been involved in arranging nothing would have happened at all, he told me he was skint so it was either pay the mortgage or do something for me. I accepted that at the time but even something that’s cost nothing would have been appreciated, a gesture of sorts. 2 years went by and he never even tried to make it up to me in any way shape or form. 😢

Meant joint party

What a load of rubbish, put of his comfort zone, it's just laziness that stops him.

Uncomfortable buying a card and cake in good time?

Not sure if you have reading comprehension difficulties or if you are just purposefully deciding to ignore the last paragraph in my post?

I’m so sorry to hear this OP. I’m 35 and my partner did absolutely nothing for my 30th. There’s been other important occasions too. I was so so upset on my 30th, my family didn’t do anything because they assumed he would. His response was he’s not that kind of bloke and things like that aren’t a big deal to him. No bloody excuse!!!! He’s not stupid. It’s absolutely thoughtless. I know he loves me and your other half loves you, but honestly the selfishness sometimes astounds me. I’m posting just to tell you that you are not alone in this, not being unreasonable, and this is not a unique situation, I hope that makes you feel ever so slightly better