To think that 29/30 years old is not too old to have a baby?

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So I'm 27, I went to uni from 18-21 then have worked since then and been saving for a house, I live in London so it's quite expensive, I have been with my partner for almost 6 years, we have really focussed on buying a place and we are currently going through the process of buying our first home yay! We want to get married soon (maybe next year) and I'd like to try for a baby when I turn 30, as I think that I will feel more ready then and be better off financially at that point (going to be flat out broke once this sale goes through)

I just listened to Chris Williamson's interview with Jordan Peterson about how more than 50% of women are childless at 30 and how bad this is etc, and how women end up regretting it once they hit 30/35/40 etc etc. And he says that he has watched women throughout his life get to 29 or 30 years old and then be unable to conceive.

I have always wanted to be a mum and I am under no illusion that I have an infinite amount of time, I understand that I have a biological clock and I can't wait around forever, but if I had had a child when I couldn't afford it people like Jordan Peterson would probably say it's irresponsible, life is so expensive now and I have been focusing on other things, but this interview has really made me worry and made me wonder if I'm not making a mistake in waiting until I feel more ready and more financially stable to have a child.. but surely 29/30 years old isn't 'too old', I always thought that anything up to 35 was fairly normal and even 35 to 40 was still achievable, my mum had me when she was 36..
What do you think?

I wouldn't take advice of that nature from a bloke, 30 is young

Well, it's true that fertility decreases at around 35, but it doesn't just suddenly drop off a cliff, it's gradual. If a woman at 29/30 can't conceive then it's almost certainly not to do with her age.

I don't know who this person is you mention, but I can safely say that I know plenty of people who have had children in their 20s AND in their 30s. I have also known people at all ages who have struggled. To say that all older women regret it or have problems conceiving is far too general.

29/30 is a perfect age to have a child

Jordan Peterson is a red pill twat who cries over how bad the world would be without men. Literally.
A financially stable, emotionally mature mother who feels ready to embark on the motherhood journey is always the ideal, whether that is before or after 30. Everyone is different.

Jordan Peterson is an idiot. Of course 29-30 isn’t too old to have a baby. Bloody hell.

I wouldn’t take Jordan Peterson’s advice on anything.

I had my children at 37 and 39. That’s how my life worked out. We are all happy, I love them and they love me.

I’m sure Jordan Peterson said women’s studies (in university) should be defunded…
I had my second at 30, a friend is having her first at 30, a friend of a friend just celebrated their baby’s first birthday and they are mid 30’s, I don’t think you have anything to worry about!

I’ve got friends having their first babies in their early forties. 29 is positively young!

Jordan Peterson is a right-wing evo-psych bro fruitcake. Ignore.

I had my first at 32 and 2nd a nit under 2 years later so I don't think so

There are more women over 40 having babies than there are teen pregnancies...

Perhaps men like Jordan Peterson don't like the idea of women having control of their own lives and try to put the fear in them with deadlines like the (debunked) 35 year cliff...

Most of my friends (and I) were in our late 30s before we had our DC. SO no 30 isn't late at all.

Had 1st just before 40 and second at 42. Had tried for 6 years, no fertility issues, just the way it happened. Easy pregnancies. Maybe I was very lucky but there is no right time, just do what feels right for you.

Thanks everyone for the replies.. infertility is something I really worry about as women in my family do tend to take quite a while to conceive, so when I hear things like this it really makes me panic!

If you are daft enough to get your advice from him, please don't have children

Surely that's a totally normal age to have a baby! I was 33 for first and will be 36 for my second and that feels like a totally normal timeline based on my circle of friends and life circumstances. I wouldn't have wanted to be any younger personally anyway.

I have no idea who he is but he’s clearly talking rubbish.

Also the myth about fertility tailing off has been largely debunked I believe.

Please do not take life advice from this man! I am 35, had my first child at 34 and will probably have another in the next few years. My sister had her children from 23 onwards and I have some massive advantages over her because of this life decision. She ended up as a stay at home mom, not through choice but because she hadn’t established a career and then childcare was unaffordable for the jobs she was qualified for. I made sure my career is good and importantly flexible, and allows me to work part time whilst children are young meaning i will have a career to return to once children are at school. I have a house, mortgaged bit with decent equity unlike sis. I also had the benefit of spending 10 child free years with my partner pre kids to make sure we have lived a bit, and that we are walking into parenthood fully knowing each other. At 23 my sister wasn’t worldly enough to think about that stuff, she rushed into parenthood and is a single parent now although her relationship did last 5+ years while they tried to stick it out for the kids. Obviously people are individuals and it’s a massive generalisation but waiting is better, no question. There is a reason why western, educated, well off women wait.

Holy shit. Bet he's not moaning about all the men 'waiting' to have children.

This narrative always seems to put the decision on the woman. Who are all these 20-something women meant to be having babies with??

We'd all have to start dating men twice our age. Like our grandmothers did.

It sounds like I have a very similar life to you OP and I still feel too young at 29. There’s so many things I still want to do before I consider children.

🤷‍♀️ I had a baby at 29 in London a couple years ago and I was the youngest mum at every single baby class / group. Most were late 30s. Not a single one mid twenties.

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Holy shit. Bet he's not moaning about all the men 'waiting' to have children.

This narrative always seems to put the decision on the woman. Who are all these 20-something women meant to be having babies with??

We'd all have to start dating men twice our age. Like our grandmothers did.

Well this is the thing! I met my partner when I was 22 and he was 27, I'm now 27 and he is 33 (5 and a half years older than me) even now, he says he doesn't feel ready to have a child and would like to wait another couple of years, which is good because I feel the same way but it's no use women wanting to have babies at 25 when the men want to wait until they're 35 or older

I had mine between 29 and 33, and would advise my DDs to be younger than that. I became pregnant each time on the first attempt - but there's no guarantee of this, and over 30 is more unpredictable than under 30. So I'd say 30 isn't late, but is 'time to get on with it',

It's a very normal age to have a baby. I had DD when i was 30. The other first time mums i met were aged from 26 to 36! 30 was very average age. Fertility isn't supposed to decline till nearer 35 I didnt think and even then many manage to have babies in their late 30s and even 40s

Had my 1st about 2 weeks before I was 30 and the 2nd when I was 33. I always said I wanted a baby by the time I was 30 and we just made it!