To think that 29/30 years old is not too old to have a baby?

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So I'm 27, I went to uni from 18-21 then have worked since then and been saving for a house, I live in London so it's quite expensive, I have been with my partner for almost 6 years, we have really focussed on buying a place and we are currently going through the process of buying our first home yay! We want to get married soon (maybe next year) and I'd like to try for a baby when I turn 30, as I think that I will feel more ready then and be better off financially at that point (going to be flat out broke once this sale goes through)

I just listened to Chris Williamson's interview with Jordan Peterson about how more than 50% of women are childless at 30 and how bad this is etc, and how women end up regretting it once they hit 30/35/40 etc etc. And he says that he has watched women throughout his life get to 29 or 30 years old and then be unable to conceive.

I have always wanted to be a mum and I am under no illusion that I have an infinite amount of time, I understand that I have a biological clock and I can't wait around forever, but if I had had a child when I couldn't afford it people like Jordan Peterson would probably say it's irresponsible, life is so expensive now and I have been focusing on other things, but this interview has really made me worry and made me wonder if I'm not making a mistake in waiting until I feel more ready and more financially stable to have a child.. but surely 29/30 years old isn't 'too old', I always thought that anything up to 35 was fairly normal and even 35 to 40 was still achievable, my mum had me when she was 36..
What do you think?

Meh I really wouldn’t be worried about what JP has to say about women.

Biologically are we better to have babies in our 20s? Maybe yes.
But biology is just one of many variables which need to be considered.

If you’re very concerned then why don’t you speak to a private clinic? You can get some very basic blood tests done which give you a general view of your fertility. You can then decide if you’d maybe like to freeze eggs or take some other sort of action, or do nothing at all.

JP has a point to an extent in saying that some women may regret delaying having a baby but the reasons why they do so are complex and varied. He’s not an authority but presents himself as one.

If you’re concerned, see an expert, not frigging JP.

And don’t start me on his batshit daughter and her beef diet

29/30 is not remotely too old to have a child.
Children benefit when parents are in stable careers before starting a family.

I think times are really changing in terms of age for women to have children. Years ago it was 20's now it's later. Mainly I think its to do with women establishing a career and other aspects like this.

I had my 3rd when I was 37. My sister in law is having her 2nd at 43! It's not unusual at all to have children after 30, in fact I think its pretty normal nowadays. I was 31 when I had my first!

I had my first at 31. Honestly at 35 and in a new relationship I'm thinking it maybe too late to have another but I'm quite a negative person

Ahhh Jordan Peterson the CEO of misogynistic ideals. I don't blame anyone for not wanting kids these days, as a mother you're expected to give up your career in order to have children while men just continue climbing the ladder because they've got a full-time babysitter and scivvy at home. Makes me sick.

I’m 32 and currently pregnant with my first (and second, twins!) which we conceived very quickly. I live in London and have been the youngest in all my antenatal classes and usually in the hospital waiting room! We waited until we bought our first property, had travelled and got married. 29/30 is very young so please don’t worry!

I haven’t listened to the interview but I wonder if he considered the broader picture? That having less children, slightly later is correlated with better outcomes, (trifling things like life expectancy) for women and children. Or do those things melt into insignificance compared to the real priority of mens’ need for sex?

Honestly the thoughts of giving birth to a child that would grow up to be Jordan Peterson is making my ovaries shrivel a bit.

ive not idea who your talking about but why take advice form a stranger?

late 20s its a average age i suppose.
my neighbour is on her 7th and shes 50 soon, her oldest child is now 32 with 3 kids of her own and they are between 5-10.

so the 10 y old is going to have a uncle 10 years younger

fertility starts from first period to late menopause. ok 10-16 is a bit wrong for a first baby but women are well in the late 50s early 60s and still having periods(my mother is 61 soon and still seeing regularly)
if you want a baby you have one, at what age is no one elses business

me personally i never had a period as ive severe PCOS and im 41 but i had 2 pregnancies and 2 babies, I was 23 and 30,i was going to try at 40 but my partner betrayed me and left.i would love a baby now but i need sperm

I have just done a google search and can report that Jordan Peterson's wife had their children at age 28 and 31.

It depends where you live, but I'm in London and having my first, I feel young-ish/normal at 30. You could easily have three kids between 30 and 35 when your fertility starts to wain. Bear in mind the average UK FTM is 30.7 whereas in America the average is 26.3, which probably skews their perception a bit.

I was 34 and 36.. fertility starts to decrease after 35 - it doesn't just come to a standstill! I'm happy we waited til we were older. We've done so much in terms of parties, hangovers, come downs, weekends away at festivals etc that I was completely ready to 'settle down'.

I just listened to Chris Williamson's interview with Jordan Peterson

I stopped reading after this. Nothing that Jordan Peterson has to say should be given the time of day. Disregard and crack on with what you want to do.

I had one at 28 and one at 29.
It’s totally fine and I’m one of the first in the people I know to have a baby.

Look up the fertility/age graphs on the internet, there’s loads.

29/30 is fine.

Waiting until 35 is very risky.

By age 40, most women can’t conceive a healthy child. Many can and congrats to them but most can’t.

For me, I was fertile at 30 but not at 33. Best friend had a healthy child at 30 but at 34 a child with a life-changing disability linked to mother’s age. 😢

🤷‍♀️ It is what it is, good luck n all, but please don’t wait til after 32 unless you have no partner…

30 is too young only in Venus years. Good luck!

I had my first at 35, and second at 40. I have polycystic overlies but got pregnant really quickly both times are more than a decade on the pill. 30 is not too old to have a baby

First at 35 , second at 38. Feel pregnant first time of trying with both, completely anecdotal obviously but I know very few people who had babies before 30. So many variables can impact at any age but I refuse to listen to a man telling women when to have babies.

All my friends had their babies in their 30s and 40s with no problems!

Nope don't recognise this at all. All my friends are happily having children in late 30s and early forties, and are pleased about the timing. Of course, some have struggles, but those include younger friends too.

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ive not idea who your talking about but why take advice form a stranger?

late 20s its a average age i suppose.
my neighbour is on her 7th and shes 50 soon, her oldest child is now 32 with 3 kids of her own and they are between 5-10.

so the 10 y old is going to have a uncle 10 years younger

fertility starts from first period to late menopause. ok 10-16 is a bit wrong for a first baby but women are well in the late 50s early 60s and still having periods(my mother is 61 soon and still seeing regularly)
if you want a baby you have one, at what age is no one elses business

me personally i never had a period as ive severe PCOS and im 41 but i had 2 pregnancies and 2 babies, I was 23 and 30,i was going to try at 40 but my partner betrayed me and left.i would love a baby now but i need sperm

If you shouldn't take advice from strangers, what's the point of Mumsnet?

I really wouldn't give a shiny shit about what men say is an appropriate age to be a mother. FWIW, I gave birth to my last child when I was 42. My children have a very happy life.

When I was in my 20's and started having children I did think 30 was too old to have children. Now I'm 30 with 2 children already, I don't feel like 30 is too old at all! Now I think 40's is too old but who knows, I may not think that when I'm in my 40's

My sister is in her 30's and is trying to conceive,

@Thewindwhispers - can you provide evidence that most women can't conceive a healthy baby after 40. I know there are higher risks etc and fertility may have dropped but that is not the same as claiming most people can't conceive a healthy baby after 40.

Pretty much everyone I know had their babies in their early 30s, I waited until my early 40s, it's definitely not too late and a perfect time to start if you want to. Good luck xx

JP is a man who hates that women are waiting to have children when they are older and stable. It means they have options and are less easy to keep down. You have ten years, even after if you are still having periods it is possible.