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Natfemale · 22/03/2022 09:00

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LadyEloise1 · 22/03/2022 09:17

@bemusedmoose
How long did you stay with that horrible, selfish man ?

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EthelTheAardvark · 22/03/2022 10:47

@Batmannequin

You can guarantee if I make myself a drink, my OH will take it and drink about half of it. I'm not even talking alcohol here, anything is fair game. He says it tastes better out of someone else's glass. It just makes me want to throw the remaining half in his face!

How do you resist the temptation to put salt in your tea? Or worse?

Jng1 · 22/03/2022 11:03

I've thought of another one - spreading newspapers all over our (lightish-coloured) sofas. I can see that the newsprint comes off and makes them dirty as he only does it on one particular sofa.
And of course I'm the one that ends up having to vax or steam clean them.
I've asked him nicely not to, and explained why, but he keeps doing it.

sue20 · 22/03/2022 11:19

Oh god you've brought it all back to me re my ex, very long term partner, started doing this towards end. Insecurity? Sex? I couldn't live with someone in that way ever again, not just because of this, obvs! I would ask him why he has started doing this, if it's relatively new. Also say it happens to upset you, its your bit of space. See what he says. Its the newness of it that seems significant.

Mygirlruby · 22/03/2022 12:10

My DH and I sleep in separate rooms and I can honestly say it's wonderful. Why do people put up with sharing a bed and all the irritations that go with it?

RachelGreeneGreep · 22/03/2022 13:28

@Batmannequin

You can guarantee if I make myself a drink, my OH will take it and drink about half of it. I'm not even talking alcohol here, anything is fair game. He says it tastes better out of someone else's glass. It just makes me want to throw the remaining half in his face!

That sounds like such a selfish, childish thing to do. Having to get your paws on someone's drink 'because it tastes better'. A two year old might do that and be considered endearing.

missg00se · 22/03/2022 18:11

[quote Nightdancer]@BeHappy91818 🤣

My dp seems to take ages to get dressed. It really irritates me if I'm in bed. He also sits on the bed to put his socks on. Why can't he stand up to do it? I've never known anyone take so long.

He's only getting dressed, but inside I'm absolutely raging. Poor bloke 😂[/quote]
Ahahahahaha I thought the socks thing was just me. My husband back in his commuting days used to get up at the crack of dawn. I worked backshift so got to bed later and slept later. Him mucking about on his phone first thing with the volume up and then getting showered and dressed was fine, I got used to it and mostly slept through it - but he would insist on sitting on the bed to put his socks on, harder than anyone has ever sat anywhere or should sit anywhere, IMO, and I'd be rudely bounced awake. It used to drive me mad!

33goingon64 · 23/03/2022 11:56

Yes my DH does exactly this. I think it's because he thinks he might get sex. I have started to announce that I'm going up to potter and that he doesn't have to rush up. By the time I've carried up what's on the stairs, picked up toys and clothes off the children's floor and turned their lights off, brushed teeth, plucked chin hairs, closed curtains, got undressed and into bed - he's there, wanting to turn the light off or get jiggy. When I haven't even opened my book. Drives me mad. Sometimes I think I can hear him counting to ten and then following me up.

tintin13 · 23/03/2022 17:31

@overreactionreally

So obviously there are times when dh and I go to bed together but sometimes I like to go up first. I like pottering about, having some wind down time to myself. I'll read a bit in bed then doze off. Lately dh has started coming to bed at same time as me (regardless how early) he's in bed in seconds and wants light off straight to sleep. It bugs my routine but obviously I can't say anything as iabu.

Just wondering if there's anything your oh do that annoy you but you don't feel you can say because they are not really doing anything wrong?

I actually wish he'd come at the same time 😅 only when the snoring begins i hate him 😖

IvorCutler · 24/03/2022 20:01

Jesus @bemusedmoose you are well rid! I’m happy for you

Newestname002 · 25/03/2022 02:51

@bemusedmoose

Just saw your post. Oh my word you are well rid of this selfish article. I bet you and your son are feeling so much better without him. 🌹

Lhddujvf · 25/03/2022 04:01

YADNBU!!! Used to like going to bed at the same time in my 20s. Now I'm over 40, I like my quiet time!!

SmudgeButt · 27/03/2022 13:17

He thumps his pillow to fluff it up (imagine someone banging on the mattress right beside your head) and then gives the duvet a good shake and shifts it so it's perfectly positioned. He does this EVERY SINGLE TIME he comes to bed. And it doesn't matter if it's the same time as me going to bed or 4 hours later when I'm sound asleep.

And he talks to me, nothing crucial, "I saw the fox out front!" "That movie wasn't worth me staying up for." Whatever. And then is annoyed I don't reply. Which I don't do as I WAS ASLEEP! If I mumble something about being asleep he might apologise and say he didn't realise. So obviously hasn't noticed that I'm in bed, with the lights off and my eyes closed and snoring. Grrrrr

autienotnaughty · 28/03/2022 05:50

@Lhddujvf

YADNBU!!! Used to like going to bed at the same time in my 20s. Now I'm over 40, I like my quiet time!!

Exactly same!! When I was in my 20's an older woman said about wanting to be in bed before her dh and I felt sorry for her 😂 same with another woman who rarely shaved her legs I genuinely didn't understand.

2Gen · 28/03/2022 12:18

@YerWanIsGettinNotions

DH walks too loudly and it absolutely infuriates me.

(Eg in slippers he has to scuff the soles as he walks and we have all hard floors, so it's a constant SKSHHH-SKSHH-SKSHHH sound, and upstairs he walks really heavily on his heels so the whole fucking house shakes even in the middle of the night when the kids are sleeping. I fucking hate it.)

@YerWanIsGettinNotions-My DH walks heavily on his heels too and it sounds like a dinosaur is roaming the house! Thanks be to God we live in a bungalow or I'd be frightened he'd come through the ceiling! I like my tea in the plain red mugs I got from The Range, coffee in these black square ones I've got, milky coffee in the giant Sports Direct ones as the milk won't overflow in the microwave because they're more like buckets than mugs. We've got "crap mugs" too, they live in another cupboard and we use them when all the good ones need to go through the dishwasher. DH would drink his tea out of anything really but he likes the big white ones best. I bought him a cheap blackout mask from Amazon because he would always give out a bit when I would be reading. I used to tell him if he could fall asleep with the telly blaring and the lights on, then he should be well able when I'm only having a quiet little read! He still cribs a bit but his "blinkers", as he calls them, work very well and cut the cribbing down to a tolerable minimum, hehe! Perhaps get your DH one OP?