People offering rooms to refugees

[Decorbreadthegingerate]

Been on a page that’s trying to match Ukrainian refugees with potential sponsors (weighing this up personally, as we do have room, but wondering if taking in a traumatised person so far from home may do more harm than good and there are more effective ways to help). Anyway - so many of the posts just make me feel a bit weird. Lots of self-congratulatory, saviour complex stuff e.g ‘hello darling, we live in beautiful [random town far from a city] and have a trampoline and a hot tub a huge garden and three lovely golden retrievers. Our children can’t wait for a playmate and we would love to welcome you and your little one into our happy home’ (insert cheesy Christmas pyjama family photo because that’s going to make a woman whose been separated from her partner and loved ones feel great)

And that’s before you get to the dodgy posts from single men who have a spare room in their dingy, dirty flat for “a woman in their 20s or 30s”

AIBU to think that it’s all a bit unseemly (genuine folk aside) and wrong

As others have said, the govt could have used the refugee and homeless services via local authorities. It could have been funded and done properly and safely. The govt built a hospital in x weeks surely they could have renovated hotels and provided proper trauma support, education and health services.

Women felt safe because Fred had Rose.

What you see ain't always what you get

@thebabessavedme

Having given this whole idea a lot of thought I believe its a recipie for disaster.

It sounds like a wonderful, humane thing to do, however I think that the government should take the approach that these refuges need to be housed together in decent hotels, they need each other, the familiar langugue, the support of being with people who have had the same terrible experiences, who are seperated from family, who have basically lost everything amid ongoing trauma.

They need proffessional help with trauma counsellers, immediate help with working out what happens to them next, help with finding out the status of husbands (dead or alive) the children need to keep some sort of education going in their own langugue etc. The list goes on.

As nice as it sounds I would think it would be incredibly traumatic to find yourself in a strangers home with a huge langugue barrier and just be expected to 'fit in'. I honestly think that it would be ok for maybe a couple of weeks but I can foresee huge problems on the horizon for these poor souls and I think they should be housed together, even now, we are a very rich country and could afford to do it.

I 100% agree with this.

We have a spare room and loads of kids toys, but would they feel like equals in my home? I don't think so, would that just bring people down further?

If there was not the language barrier, it would be so much better but still so hard. I think if it was emergency housing while they get access to something else it would work being in someone's home.