Elderly parents on a sofa bed, is it ok?

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Stressing out a bit as to where to put my parents.
We live abroad and they visit us two-three times per year. They were always in the spare room with a nice, double bed. That’s now going to be our toddler DD’s room. We sold the bed and are currently painting it to get ready.
We only gave her bedroom and ours.
I thought of getting a small sofa bed to put in our bedroom as a sofa and into DD’s room as a sofa bed for them when they come to stay (Dd would sleep with us in our room)
Does this sound ok? They’re late 60’s/early 70’s. Can’t think of any other option.
Have offered them our bedroom before, large room with en-suite and terrace, but mum doesn’t want to because our dog sleeps on our bed 🤷🏻‍♀️She obviously wouldn’t whilst they were here and obviously sheets washed etc
She was disappointed when I said we were selling the large double bed as I have a small child’s single for our Dd and said can she not sleep in the double bed, it was huge and wanted her to have her own bed!
Where would you comfortably put them?

They stay for two weeks each visit

I also worry about the future, once DD’s bedroom is fully decorated with all her bits and toys…will it be weird for them to sleep in there?

*Have her bedroom and ours

Personally I wouldn't expect my adult DC to host me, for everyone's convenience I would stay in a local hotel or AirBnB (at my own expense).

But if your DPs are unwilling to pay for their own accommodation then they just have to accept whatever sleeping arrangements you offer them.

I'd get one of those single beds with another one underneath for the second bedroom

Could you look into getting a sofa bed for the living room?

Can they not stay nearby in a hotel or Airbnb?

Difficult. I wouldn’t put elderly guests on a sofa bed. I think they have to have your room.
Two weeks is a long time though.
Would a hotel room for your parents not be more comfortable for everyone?

Well I wouldn't class my parents as elderly at that age and as another poster said, as a guest you surely either accept sleeping arrangements or make alternate plans. IMO two weeks thinking you can stay with family of 3 + dog in a 2 bed flat sounds unreasonable

I wouldn't put parents on a sofa bed for two weeks, but equally they wouldn't expect to stay for two weeks. Can they stay at a hotel for at least some of the time?

My parents are in their 80s and they go on our sofa bed in the spare room. They prefer it to the luxury air bed we used to have. My dad grumbles a bit as it's lower than a bed but they say it's comfortable. I think it's fine as long as it's a metal action one with a good mattress.

I would have compromised and have a standard double for the child, my dd had a double then shared with her sister when we had guests

@lechatnoir Yes, I don’t see them as elderly and they don’t *seem elderly, but I guess that age is classed as elderly?
It’s a house so is fairly big but just has two bedrooms (but three bathrooms 🤷🏻‍♀️)

@gogohm It just seems so big to have a double for her at this age and takes up a lot of space in her room, where toys and a reading corner, wardrobe etc will be

@Candleabra I’ve offered our room, mum isn’t keen due to our dog, which I don’t get at all

Depends how fit they are doesn't it?
If mobile and fit a sofa bed might be ok but if they have health issues then you and your lovely dog will have to have the sofa bed.
Perhaps seeing their options they might not for a hotel?
Good luck.

@FullBush They just always stay with us…nothing else has ever been mentioned by them

Ikea do a range of beds that can easily be extended to a double (Eg a second bed under the first). They are quiet comfortable too.

60s / 70s is quite young so I think comfort wise a sofa bed is acceptable.

@thunderandsunshine01 We could put it downstairs, but I thought they’d prefer a room? They always class the spare room
as *Their room 🤷🏻‍♀️😬

My parents used to have a bed in my brothers room that converted from a single to a double when needed. The second mattress pulled out from underneath the single and the legs extended so it was the same height. Placed side by side they could then be made up as a double bed or alternatively used as two singles. It seems to me that may be what you need.

I would not put elderly parents on a sofa bed. I'd give them my bed and sleep on the sofa bed myself.

And when I say elderly. Both sets of our parents are very fit and active but I still would put them in our bed and we would sleep on the sofa bed.

It was from John Lewis and I see they still do them.

@Sorbitol Oh I’ve never seen those 🤔 so a normal single for Dd, which extends to a double? Are they big single beds?

I wouldn’t have got rid of the double bed.