To think my DC would stick out like a sore thumb in the North East?

[Rainallnight]

We are a two mum family and we adopted our DC.

We are contemplating a move to the North East, where DP is from.

My major concern is that our DC wouldn’t be at school with any other kids from a same sex family and, because it’s more unusual, would be more likely to be made to feel different. I also worry about bullying.

Any thoughts from anyone in that part of the world? AIBU?

Where would you be moving from?

SE here
Prep school

Both my children have a classmate with single sex parents (men), and no bullying at all

But helped by fact that both children are very sporty and very funny!

I don’t think it’s just a North East issue, I think bullying could take place anywhere for whatever reason

@Sangriasinthesol

I don’t think it’s just a North East issue, I think bullying could take place anywhere for whatever reason

Well yes

But in, say London, single sex parents more common so not out of realms of possibility to think that where something is less common, more likelihood bullying

Is the North East disproportionately homophobic?

I don't see why it would be an issue in the NE but not in other parts of the country?

The only gay in the village 😃

What’s “the north east”? Newcastle? Aberdeen?

I don't know whether to laugh or be insulted. We're not backward here. and yes shock horror we have same sex families.

It depends where in the NE. I’m in Newcastle with a child in a city centre nursery and two separate classmates (AFAIK) have parents who are in single sex relationships. I’m not sure how typical that is but suspect it might be less common in, say, a pit village in the middle of nowhere in County Durham.

Isn't it a but presumptuous to assume the NE will be more homophobic than elsewhere

No your children wouldn't, but you might wherever you go. Frankly insulted that you think the NE is any different to the rest of the country.

I live in the North East I do not have a particularly diverse range of friends and even I know 3 kids with same sex parents. I think youbste overthinking it. I would maybe stay away from some Durham Pit Villages but I would stay away from them whoever you are. Where exactly in the North East are you thinking?

I'm assuming that, rather than it being a specific insult about the 'north-east' (wherever that means), the OP currently lives somewhere densely populated and would be moving to a less densely populated area, and is thinking that just by there being fewer people there will be fewer families with same-sex parents.

yes, they will. Everywhere outside woke metropolitan areas like groovy parts of London are a sea of bullying homophobia.

I left the NE in 2010 and prior to that was friends with two sane sex couples with kids. Didn’t hear of any problems. Where in the NE as people say it’s not tiny!

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

YABU.

My DS attends a tiny village school in the NE (ie less than 80 kids for the entire thing) I'm aware of 3 same sex couples who have kids attending, 2 of which have spent playdates at mine.
No one cares!

Is the North East disproportionately homophobic?

^^ This

@implantreplace

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

I think they are offended the OP thinks they live in a different world to the rest of the UK.

@implantreplace

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

Maybe they don't like the fact that OP has assumed their part of the country is massively homophobic?

I live in the back end of beyond (village in the midlands). My daughter’s best friend has 2 mums. As far as I know she hasn’t been bullied, the kids just accept it was kids do.

Do you think there are no gay people in the north east?

It’s the NE of England not Saudi Arabia