To think my DC would stick out like a sore thumb in the North East?

[Rainallnight]

We are a two mum family and we adopted our DC.

We are contemplating a move to the North East, where DP is from.

My major concern is that our DC wouldn’t be at school with any other kids from a same sex family and, because it’s more unusual, would be more likely to be made to feel different. I also worry about bullying.

Any thoughts from anyone in that part of the world? AIBU?

@gamerchick

I don't know whether to laugh or be insulted. We're not backward here. and yes shock horror we have same sex families.

My thoughts exactly. I think some Mumsnet members forget that members are not all from within 10 miles of London. My sis and partner, have a child in primary and have had no problems at all deepest darkest Newcastle area.

It’s the children who rock up with their fancy running water and inside toilets that get the most grief.

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

Maybe because we are sick of people from the south thinking we are behind the times, we live in the same world as the rest of you.

North East here. You certainly won't be the only gay in my village

I live in the NE, obviously it’s going to be a little less diverse than somewhere like London or Brighton, but much of a muchness with most of the rest of the UK. In my experience there’s a lot less homophobic bullying than there was when we were kids, things have thankfully moved on a lot.

@Brefugee

yes, they will. Everywhere outside woke metropolitan areas like groovy parts of London are a sea of bullying homophobia.

I'm assuming your in England and talking about the 'part of the world' that is the North East of England as it doesn't say in your original post.
You do realise that it's just a few hours drive in the north east direction in the same country? That people living in the north east are living in the real world and there are many same sex couples with children that live there.
It doesn't sound as though you have spent any time up there and your OP sounds very judgmental.

We’re in London with dc at primary and secondary and don’t know any single sex parents, is it well know they all live in London?

@implantreplace

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

But they aren't criticising her for being in a single sex relationship. I'm not NE and even I thought it was a ridiculous train of thought. Does the OP think there are no gay people in the NE?

I’m living in the NE.

I agree with you that there isn’t a lot of single sex couples around.

However, I have never heard my dcs reporting any bullying because of that. I think teens now are much more open than our generation was and just take it as it is.
In primary school, there was one same sex couple who had two dcs. This was never even mentioned!

I think you’d have more issues if you or your dcs aren’t white/British unfortunately

North East of where? England? or the UK? i.e. Aberdeenshire?

Btw I don’t think the OP is judgemental.

Maybe this is because I’m not from the area myself but people are, let’s say more narrow minded than in places who have more movement of people/higher cultural diversity.

Eg the amount of casual racism and islamophobie I’ve heard at the school gates is quite frightening when you consider these were ‘naice’ women who were (allegedly) horrified by racism/would make a point to invite THE black child of the school at b’day parties etc….

@LowlyTheWorm Aberdeen's in a different country.

All the gay people I know live in the North East (I used to live there). They seem fine.

I hope you all know that the NE is a well known area, just like the Midlands.
The question about whether the Op is talking about the NE of england, britain whatever makes you look like ignorant tbh. Says more about you than About the OP.

I live in the north east in a small town. I can think of 4 same sex couples over two schools here, no-one cares.

I get why you're worried.

I pulled the statistics a while ago and I think about 0.4% of the population of the north east (as a whole) identifies as LGBT, which is pretty low compared to many other areas. But obviously, as people say, it's going to vary depending where you are.

We live in the north east, in a small village in north Yorkshire. We are the only gays in the village and DD is the only child with same-sex parents her school has ever taught (according to them!).

We've not had a lot of direct issues - we had a crank who sent out an anonymous nasty letter when we first moved here, and nothing else of that level since.

However, there is a lot of low-level stuff. We lived in Cambridge before and it's hard to compare, but I do think it's more noticeable here that the community is quite homogenous and we're 'different'.

School has been absolutely fantastic, though, and the children have been fine. IME it's more the little things that people say without thinking.

@Hellocatshome

I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are

Maybe because we are sick of people from the south thinking we are behind the times, we live in the same world as the rest of you.

Indeed.

Although nothing will top the girl who had never left London and moved here for work and worried how she would cope without electricity.

The North isn't a homophobic racist backwater. Perhaps examine your own prejudices

I don’t think your kids are any more likely to stick out and get bullied in the north east than anywhere else. I live in north wales. There is a little girl in my sons year with 2 mums. She is possibly the only one in the school although i don’t know everyone so maybe not. The other children have not batted an eyelid.

[quote Mojoj]@LowlyTheWorm Aberdeen's in a different country.[/quote]
Yes, I think the poster knows; that's why they said 'North East of where? England? or the UK? i.e. Aberdeenshire?' (my bold)

I’m originally from Newcastle and have a couple of friends there in same-sex marriages (female) with two kids each who are school age and never heard of any concerns from either of them. One is rather vocal on social media and I cannot imagine she wouldn’t have expressed her frustrations & disappointment if they’d had problems.

And Londoners wonder why they get a reputation for being out of touch, judgemental and up themselves....

Do you really think there are no gay couples or adopted children in the NE?!! With attitudes like that maybe you would be better off staying in the South.

We also have running water and sometimes even electricity up here, you know.

I live in the North and there are children with same sex parents in both of my children's classes. Gay people exist everywhere.

implantreplace
I find it funny how those from NE are immediately jumping on OP and criticising her but in same breath saying how ridiculous her concerns are grin

Eh? They are jumping on o/p for her ridiculous concerns. What do you think she’s being criticised for? Something different?

At least they didn’t come on to a thread asking for opinions about the NE and add their immense wisdom about SE prep schools