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Aibu to wonder if Botox and fillers now normal?

463 replies

Av0bo55 · 13/03/2022 06:23

I’ve so so many friends that have these now and really do feel I’m the odd one out
Friends all between 30-45 and look amazing! I’ve got to admit I’m very tempted but a bit nervous and also Ttc one last time, so unsure if it’s safe to do if Ttc???
and should I wait! I’m 40 early next year so was thinking about maybe then!
So how many have tried /or already do it? What’s your thoughts? Good?

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Momijin · 14/03/2022 01:48

Looks bloody awful, even celebs

AffIt · 14/03/2022 02:31

@AffIt

Last thing, *@CassieMc543*, why do you write 'as well' as 'aswell'? It's two seperate words, no?
And as luck would have it, I misspelled separate.

Muphry's Law.

sweetbellyhigh · 14/03/2022 03:39

@JanisMoplin

When I watched The Undoing I found it hard to believe Hugh Grant and Nicole Kidman are only 6 years apart. Such a powerful illustration of the difference in the way men and women are seen. He looks every bit of his 60 years. She looks 35.
Watching that made me feel angry about the amount of pressure on women to look young. There is nothing wrong with looking your age whatever that is. On those 10 years younger shows the candidates usually look extraordinarily haggard, not representative of most people so I understand why they want help to improve their appearance. But most of us have no such issues, it's all internalised misogyny.
5128gap · 14/03/2022 07:47

@AffIt

Last thing, *@CassieMc543*, why do you write 'as well' as 'aswell'? It's two seperate words, no?
Have you misunderstood the subject of this thread? It's about cosmetic procedures, not spelling. Two sep'A'rate topics, no?
Fairislefandango · 14/03/2022 08:00

And as luck would have it, I misspelled separate.

Maybe that should remind you not to correct other people's English then, especially when it's irrelevant to the topic and makes no difference to comprehension. It's rude. And people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

FrangipaniBlue · 14/03/2022 09:05

@User0610134049

I’m finding it really depressing that it feels like it’s becoming mainstream, because it feels like then the expectation of ageing is going to change and if you don’t have it you’ll look older than those around you the same age. 😖
This is exactly where I am!

In the past I've always looked younger than my friends of the same age and been able to pass for the same age as my younger friends.

Over the last 2-3 years I couldn't work out why I suddenly looked older than them all.....

It was starting to get me down until I realised they have all been having Botox and fillers but keeping it on the QT!!!!

5128gap · 14/03/2022 09:21

@PinkSyCo

Haha, yep. Cant imagine what their frown lines are like

Oh believe me I was definitely NOT frowning when I read your post. 😂

I thought it was scary and sad? Yet now it's hilarious? In your eyes a young woman has been conned into injecting dangerous substances into her face, and this is somehow amusing to you? For the record, she is objectively correct about botox being preventative. How could it not be when you can't develop frown lines if you can't frown? The ethics are a different and subjective issue, but there is little point arguing against fact with opinion.
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Av0bo55 · 14/03/2022 16:09

Wow reading all the responses and some really good points!

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MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 14/03/2022 16:39

I have it round my eyes (I'm 42), my skin is good overall but the lines and deep creases around my eyes really aged me. I tried numerous creams and potions before, all to no avail. It doesn't completely shift all the lines but I wouldn't want it to.

It's fully worn off now and I can really tell, having some more next week. But when I've had it done no one has questioned me, not even my own mother and nothing gets past her. Well, apart from this now obviously Grin I'd get the third degree if she had the slightest suspicion!

Doratheexploret · 14/03/2022 16:41

@Swearwolf

Where do you all live? I'm late 30s, with friends between my age and 50s I guess, and I don't know anyone who has had either!
Me neither! I have a 30 year old daughter too and none of her friends have had either.
PierresPotato · 14/03/2022 16:44

I've earned every sodding wrinkle.

MsTSwift · 14/03/2022 19:20

The feminist in me thinks it’s a shame we buy into this that we are “not good enough” as we age so have to take painful steps to address that to be deemed acceptable . Don’t judge individuals that do most of my friends do it and those that do look so much better! So there will be a divide definitely

Gwenhwyfar · 17/03/2022 20:59

"Kylie Minogue and Sharon Osbourne are arguably examples of people who look better than they did in their younger years because of the good but subtle work they have had."

Sharon Osbourne's work isn't subtle.

AffIt · 18/03/2022 00:52

@5128gap

And yet you didn't read any of my previous posts about the cosmetic industry, instead deciding that that was the one you were going to get on your high horse about... Grin

MistySkiesAfterRain · 18/03/2022 01:14

I am blessed with not many wrinkles mainly due to being largely expressionless most of the time 😂

The thing is botox wears off so it makes it more noticeable unless you continue.

I also think hmm about the long term effects.

MistySkiesAfterRain · 18/03/2022 01:15

@Gwenhwyfar

"Kylie Minogue and Sharon Osbourne are arguably examples of people who look better than they did in their younger years because of the good but subtle work they have had."

Sharon Osbourne's work isn't subtle.

Kylies recent work was not subtle.
milkyaqua · 18/03/2022 01:29

Kylie's been getting work done/injectables etc since the 90s, and it shows. She was super shiny twenty years ago! Now she's getting that lumpy, plasticine look. Should have left well enough alone.

5128gap · 18/03/2022 07:09

[quote AffIt]@5128gap

And yet you didn't read any of my previous posts about the cosmetic industry, instead deciding that that was the one you were going to get on your high horse about... Grin[/quote]
I read all your previous posts, but didn't feel the need to get on my high horse about them because this is a discussion forum, and the offering of other perspectives is appropriate and expected. What is not appropriate in my opinion, is attacking a person expressing views you disagree via their spelling and grammar. it's a cheap attempt to present yourself as more intelligent/better educated, in order to give your own views more credibility than theirs.

intwrferingma · 18/03/2022 07:35

I love Kylie. She's a witty, bright and entertaining woman. But she isn't a great ad for cosmetic work, and it's a shame she felt she had to go so far down that route

Alondra · 18/03/2022 07:45

Botox and fillers today is the new generation in beauty like rouge on lips and cheeks were more than 100 years ago.

Provided you don't over them too much, not a proplem. I remember in my early teens seeing girls with too make up and it looked shocking. We ALL WORE make up but not that obvious and tacky looking.

These days is the same with botox, you can over do it or you can use it to get rid of ageing lines without looking like a duck.

milkyaqua · 18/03/2022 08:12

But makeup wipes off.

Lemonyfuckit · 18/03/2022 08:18

I had my Botox refreshed yesterday, it was about a year since previous treatment, and some profhilo. I had a little bit of filler nearly a year ago and it doesn't need topping up yet. I agree with those saying if it's done well, and absolutely not overdone, you can't tell. There really is a world of difference between a small amount done by a very good practitioner, and the overly inflated cheeks/lips, weirdly smooth shiny static forehead look. I just look 'fresher' and less tired and more like me before two years of stress global pandemic working all hours, bereavement etc meant I practically saw my face ageing in real time over zoom.

Each to their own of course, I'm extremely happy with my results but if you don't like the idea don't feel you need to do it.

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 18/03/2022 08:23

@milkyaqua

But makeup wipes off.
Botox and fillers wear off...
DillDanding · 18/03/2022 08:52

I thought of this thread yesterday. I met a successful business-owner. She is 51.

She has had so much work done on her face it has rendered it grotesque. She could barely open her mouth to speak normally which I’m assuming is a combination of her lip fillers and Botox. Her lips were so overdone that she had that ridge around them. She had cheek fillers which made her eyes look tiny and her eyebrows were at 45 degree angles. The overall effect was bad, very bad and certainly did not make her look younger.

I’m all for a well-done bit of Botox (I have it) or whatever but this was an advert for less is more.

anon2334 · 18/03/2022 08:58

Am I missing something, they look awful and the more they have they worse they look. My partner said it makes one look like a distorted clown. I went to hairdressers few months back and saw two ladies that had it done and they looked anything but attractive and one was so young and looked so much more attractive before she had it done and her lips didn't look at all .

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