To not want to organise friend's hen do?

[Tgbiyr]

I know I probably am being, but I simply can't be arsed.

She is one of my closest friends and she's getting married next year. Initially, there were several of her family members and friends queuing up to organise the hen do, and we (another friend and I) were to help them. I thought/hoped I'd be able to coast the whole thing since the rest were so enthusiastic.

Anyway, nothing has been done so DF has specifically asked DF2 and I to organise. A few drinks somewhere would be fine, but she has her heart set on a long weekend abroad (always been the plan since her fiancé proposed). I simply can't be arsed to organise it. There are 20+ women she has asked us to invite, and wants us to set up a WhatsApp group chat to organise it (without her). DF1 hasn't done anything, and has never orchestrated even a night out since I met her, so I know it's either I do it, or it doesn't get done.

But organising 20+ women to go abroad on the same flight, to the same hotel etc fills me with dread. I can't be bothered. I have suggest a couple of places (abroad) to the bride. She doesn't want to go to them but doesn't say where she wants to go. The same with activities that she wants to be organised, but she vetoes any suggestions

I'm absolutely not her closest friend, close though we are. AIBU to not want to do it? How can I either get out of it (without saying 'sorry, I love you but I simply can't be fucked to organise this', which would upset her greatly and I won't do), or alternatively organise it with the least stress and hassle possible?

To start with just get an idea of how many people actually want to fork out for a weekend abroad. This will reduce your numbers massively. A friend of mine had a slash abroad hen do with just closest friends and then a meal out hen do for a larger group. Is this an option?

No idea how the word slash got in there.

Sorry OP see it’s all sorted. Well done!

@Tgbiyr
Hi, I did read all your posts, it wasn't clear if you were still essentially organising it! Hopefully that'll all work, since you've posted link to hotel of what you found and flight details on WhatsApp as your contribution to organising - and people book themselves on or not independently.

I guess each individual group of friends can get together and do it in 2s or 4s for the rooms. So sensible.. That's great!!

Then if someone is late to airport of any dropping out, it'd be for each little group to worry about, not you as 'the' organiser or the overall big hen party group.

There's still the co-ordinating of activities and nights out to be done for hen do whilst out there - so it may be you'll need to make it clear that other people will need to look up and organise that/ take the stuff (sash, banners yada) that B2B might expect. A good hotel in middle of clubs and eating areas will be perfect though as people can take it in turns to do reccies for where to go each night when out there ...! Waiting for 25 women to get ready after day by the pool/ beach & to all meet up on time for the evening will be interesting You'll all have to be ruthless that "this is time we meet & leave - be on time if you wanna join in"!

If you read my posts you would know

I assume you did not mean to be as rude as this came across.

I have noticed on quite a few threads today when the OP asks for help or advice, people give that advice and then the OP snipes back at them if they dare ask a question, instead of answering their question and saying "thank you" to them. Apologies if I have misunderstood or missed your thanks.

Why dont brides organise this shit themselves? Getting married nowadays seems to make the bride feel entitled to behave like a spoilt princess who must be pandered to for the best part of a year!

@louiseofthelakes

If you read my posts you would know

I assume you did not mean to be as rude as this came across.

I have noticed on quite a few threads today when the OP asks for help or advice, people give that advice and then the OP snipes back at them if they dare ask a question, instead of answering their question and saying "thank you" to them. Apologies if I have misunderstood or missed your thanks.

Yeah I kinda ignored what was an unnecessary SnapBack as OPs updates and posts simply weren't clear. At all. But Thankyou Louise!

So anyway I answered and just hoped we all understand her lately "crypticness". As long as she has support and advice she needs that has got to be a good thing.

Are you that abrupt in real life @Tgbiyr?