Found a black hair grip …

[Wingingthis]

DH is at work, I’m in the middle of a deep clean. Whilst I was hoovering I found in the corner of the bedroom, kind of camouflaged into the carpet a black hair grip/Bobby pin whatever they’re called.
I’m blonde and have always been blonde, my kids are toddlers so do not use hair grips. No one else has been in our bedroom that would explain it.
I’ve also been away all week with the kids.

Aibu to be suspicious??? I’m also pregnant so know I don’t think rationally sometimes atm

In my house there must be hundreds of these things but I can never find them when I need them. They hide, sometimes for years, nestled in the carpet.

If I've ever been to your house, chances are I shed a bobby pin somewhere but I promise I've never pounced on anyone's husband.

I dropped one yesterday and it disappeared completely on a white tile floor. It’s probably mine. Try dropping it from a height of about five feet and I’ll check if it turns up in my bathroom.

DD is a dancer. I have to buy 2 or 3 packs of those a year. Currently she has about 8 in her ballet bag. Given that her hair only ever gets put up and taken down in the house I would estimate the are several hundred of the bloody thingy lurking in the house.

If we ever move I may warn the new owners they will find them so as not to ruin their marriage!

Those things get everywhere. I use them but never seem to have any. They just disappear. I suspect they fall out and I don't notice. There's probably a trail of them in every client's home I work in. And I can assure you I'm not having an affair with anyone.

More mysterious is who my cat is having an affair with. Found a fully wrapped sherbet lemon in his litter box last week. No idea where it came from. There's no way it passed through him as it's way too big. I've never had sherbet lemons in this flat and he's a house cat.....
So what's going on there then?

It's probably mine. I must have bought 10 thousand of them over the dancing days of my children and still struggle to find some when I need them. They are magical at disappearing

Bobby pins are bastards and get everywhere. I've even come home with a sparkly one attached to me (it didn't stick to a cardigan or anything due to the glitter, it was a smooth finish). Absolutely god knows how it got there, I have bobby pins but definitely no sparkly ones. Have also lost every single bobby pin I've ever bought, yet never ever found them again so it wouldn't surprise me if in 40 years from now there's another post like yours hanging about on Mumsnet from the next owner of my house! I wouldn't jump to conclusions.

Have your ever had an up do at the hair dresser? They will often use any colour when they are hidden.

Those grips seem to breed in my house so I wouldn’t even give this a second thought.

You know him best
If you have reasons to be suspicious 🤨 then it’s suspicious
If you are generally paranoid then this ain’t great
And it could be nothing , as pp said

Less on the clip
Why and what other reasons do you have to worry

@ClarencesWings

I think LampLighter was being facetious, based on the usual responses on here. And most of you missed the irony.

I agree with you.

@shssandhr

Those things get everywhere. I use them but never seem to have any. They just disappear. I suspect they fall out and I don't notice. There's probably a trail of them in every client's home I work in. And I can assure you I'm not having an affair with anyone.

More mysterious is who my cat is having an affair with. Found a fully wrapped sherbet lemon in his litter box last week. No idea where it came from. There's no way it passed through him as it's way too big. I've never had sherbet lemons in this flat and he's a house cat.....
So what's going on there then?

This made me laugh so much on what is turning out to be a pretty rubbish day - thank you

You are only reasonable to be suspicious if it’s a totally new house with a new carpet and no one else has ever stepped foot in your bedroom ever.

It’s not lingerie in the bedsheets, is it? A hair grip can lurk unnoticed in a corner of the carpet for literally decades. It’s probably been further down and worked it’s way up.

No one else has been in the bedroom recently? How recently?

We found a toy on our floor which we think had been stuck behind the radiator months after moving in.

I've found hair grips everywhere when I've been using them, could it have come in the bottom of a plastic bag given to you by someone?

It was in the corner of the room. How energetic must the suspected shagging have to be for it to have ended up there?

My first thought would be that it's from the previous owner and has just been missed all this time.

I Hoover them up regularly from places they have no reason to be.

@Hadenoughofbloodycovid

They’re called Kirby grips.

Ha I was going to have to say this if nobody else had. Keep specific language alive and all that. And yes, they get everywhere, I'd only be suspicious if you'd laid the carpet since moving in and never owned one or had guests. Unless as pps have said there are other reasons for feeling uneasy.

I think it's obvious that her DH is having an affair and that the OW carefully planted a hair grip to alert the OP and force her faithless husband to come clean. If OP ignores this, the OW will up the ante until she has literally wallpapered the bedroom with graphic, covertly taken pictures of her and the DH in flagrante.

It's the only reasonable explanation.

Don’t worry, op. A Kirby grip is something that could easily lodge for years in the small gap between the skirting board and the floor, then work its way out/be dislodged by the suction from hoovers over time.

On a side note, I’ve never before this thread come across Kirby grips being referred to as Bobby pins!

If he was going to cheat it's unlikely he would bring her into the house - I'm not saying it couldn't happen just that it would be a very risky way to do things. It could have travelled home with someone from the swimming pool or a shop changing room etc.

I'm blonde and have had black hair grips used before, underneath ones that you can't see anyway. Is there any other reason you might be suspicious other than this? This on it's own is pretty weak

Building in what @NoSquirrels says, if it's a new house where there have been no visitors who might have looked in a room, the carpet was made, delivered and fitted by bald workers and there has never been any work or cleaning in the house, no clothing bought where a Kirby could have been in a seam or pocket such as from second hand or a returned 'new' purchase', never drycleaning hung and no other reasonable means of ingress then you might have cause for more curiosity. Contraceptive, underwear and related appearances might be harder to explain but a thin grip can emerge after decades, IME, though TBF pregnancy can crystallise issues too.

Good luck with your pregnancy.

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions! could it have been used for a non hair reason - I have used one in the past as a paper clip

I'd confront him face to face and see his initial reaction.

They only get everywhere if you use them. The OP has said she doesn’t nor do her DC

The chances of one being brought in on your shoe or dropped by a guest in your bedroom are quite slim.

OP have you changed the carpet or previously deep cleaned? I’m afraid I would be a bit suspicious.

Is your house rented? How long have you been in it?
Or had any friends over?

My in laws are still finding mine in their house and i havent lived there for 10 years. Unless you built the house yourself and have never had anyone with hair grips in the house i think its too soon to panic