Found a black hair grip …

[Wingingthis]

DH is at work, I’m in the middle of a deep clean. Whilst I was hoovering I found in the corner of the bedroom, kind of camouflaged into the carpet a black hair grip/Bobby pin whatever they’re called.
I’m blonde and have always been blonde, my kids are toddlers so do not use hair grips. No one else has been in our bedroom that would explain it.
I’ve also been away all week with the kids.

Aibu to be suspicious??? I’m also pregnant so know I don’t think rationally sometimes atm

I once had some cheapo curtains and bedding held together with actual hair grips not the usual plastic things

Those little fuckers get everywhere. I tend to leave a trail of them in my wake. My colleague who I share an office with found one of mine in his trouser turn up the other day. (And no, I’ve not had sex with him.)

@winesolveseverything

I use those hair grips as paper clips all the time- could it have found it's way into the house that way?

OH used them for gouging out ear-wax, he would look proudly at the stuff!

@ClarencesWings indeed I was. So much whooshing sounds in this thread it's like being at Terminal 5

Could be lots of things.

Do you have a cleaner?

Do you have friends and family over? Do they use the upstairs bathroom? Even if they weren't shown the bedroom, they may have wandered in for a nose.

It could belong to a previous owner of the house.

It could have caught on someone's clothing when you were out and fallen off in the bedroom.

Your DH might have picked it up and fiddled with it when he was out somewhere.

If you have no other reason to suspect that your husband has cheated on you, then this grip is not evidence alone.

@amusedbush

Mine kept going missing because, well, that's what they do. I assumed they were falling into the same vortex as my odd socks, every teaspoon in the house, and the tupperware lids.

However, I found one on the cistern in the bathroom and it turns out my DH was taking them and using the closed/looped end to clean out his ears (NOT envy).

Oh I've just said a similar thing, thought I had an original!

I ignored lots of potential physical evidence my partner was cheating. The stray pair of pants must have been from a joint family holiday, the female friend who's just dropped in by chance whilst I was out all day and left a bag of her crap there, the neighbours were just trying to cause trouble etc. It really didn't occur to me that he'd cheat. I thought he was damn lucky to have me and would have no reason to want anyone else!

The only way I knew something was wrong was when my ex overreacted to an innocent question asking what he'd been up to that day and turned into a huge argument then us splitting up a few weeks after. We didn't split up because I had found out about his cheating (he was cheating by the way!).

The sexy black pants were my MILs - I still have doubts about the visiting female 'friend''s motives but I'm fairly certain nothing happened; I did find out she was a previous ex, a fact he had tried to keep hidden.

I think it depends on a few things - how old the carpet is, how house proud you are (e.g. do you clean, tidy and Hoover every day or once every couple of months?) etc.

One potential innocent explanation: if you found it near a radiator it could have been stuck down the back of it for years and years and suddenly come loose and fallen onto the carpet. That’s an easy explanation.

Not so innocent explanation: throwing one of these onto the carpet somewhere sounds like something an OW with a different colour hair to you might do to alert you to her existence subtly. Your OH wouldn’t notice it and she’d know that you’d immediately know that it wasn’t yours as your hair is blonde. I know this because my (blonder) friend who had an affair with someone admitted to doing exactly this when she was sick of him not leaving his wife for her. She’d scatter a few around the bedroom when he was in the bathroom and hope that his (dark haired) wife would notice. He never left his wife, incidentally.

Only you will know which scenario is most likely. Do you have any other reasons for thinking that he may be cheating?

Not the point, but is there a rule that you have to 'match' them to your hair? I know people with blond hair who wear black/brown ones; are they savages?
(I have short hair and don't use them myself).

@DameHelena

Not the point, but is there a rule that you have to 'match' them to your hair? I know people with blond hair who wear black/brown ones; are they savages? (I have short hair and don't use them myself).

Well the black/dark brown ones are the cheapest so I've always bought them, even though I've never actually used them because they somehow always go missing

Unless he's a cross dresser, that's not unheard of

That's what sprang to my mind first tbh.
Personal experience of cleaning a flat belonging to someone who cross-dressed - kirby grips everywhere....

Small Things get everywhere.

I found a piece of lego here - now we have no lego, no children live here nor visit here, and this was classic 80's lego as well not new lego.

However I was gifted a folding ramp by a family friend, whose children (and I) did play with lego...and it had fallen out of the inner workings of the ramp when I unwrapped it. Where it had sat since circa 1980's. I can tell because one small circle has faded, that fits exactly with where sunlight would hit a bit of lego wedged under the metal.

So a hair grip drops out of someones head as they lean over your desk, it gets caught in your coat thats on the back of your chair and transported to your hall, is picked up by the cat and dropped on the stairs, is picked up again by the fluffy slippers you wear and deposited in your bedroom and finally catches the light as you clean and is spotted by you. Or a million other ways it could get there.

@FleshLiabilities

He's had his fancy woman round and she's been pinning him. Don't Google it

Don't you mean 'pegging'?

girlmom21, hang on, so thy charge more for 'blond' ones??
There's a whole hair-grip world that I had no idea about.

*they

@LampLighter414

Could he be having an affair OP?

how could she possibly know. dont be a dickhead

Sometimes those bloody pins get wedged between the carpet and the skirting board and live there for years before they spring back out.

I used to find little dog treats when I was deep cleaning. We didn't have a dog. Previous tenants did. Took about 4 years to find them all.

Shame OP has not been back to give is the wider picture yet …

This alone would not concern me: they come in on things (including shoes) & I’ve found similar between floorboards when carpet being laid so unless it’s actually a new build it could have come up via flooring /been stuck between skirting & carpets for years or decades

I also think an OW would try something a little more obvious - Bobby pins are not exactly sexy!

@DameHelena

girlmom21, hang on, so thy charge more for 'blond' ones?? There's a whole hair-grip world that I had no idea about.

Yeah! It's weird - the lighter the colour the more they charge. That's in sainsburys, at least.

My girls used to use them for dance ..they haven’t danced for over 2 years..still finding them - regularly hoover them up! We have a new car since they stopped dancing ..,I cleaned it the other day and found 3 of the little buggers!

Years from now I reckon I will be picking them up around the house!

Just moved into a new house, found about 20 of the things. Sides of carpets, cracks at back of cupboard, wedged under skirting board. They were blond ones though

I think you are overreacting but we all do that sometimes.

girlmom21, my mind's a little blown.

I'm sure those bastard things teleport to places unknown

Buy loads. End up with 3.

@GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal

I'm not sure I'd jump to conclusions over a Bobby pin, those things get everywhere. Come the apocalypse there'll just be them and the cockroaches left.

This exactly.