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AIBU?

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I’m definitely reasonable…. I think!

184 replies

GracieLouFreeebush · 07/03/2022 20:06

I went out on Saturday, it was for someone’s birthday and was split over two venues meaning we needed taxis halfway through the day. Me and my partner are skint at the moment so he offered to come pick me up, ferry a car full in between then walk the dog at the other side for a couple of hours before driving me home.

I only actually know the person who’s birthday it was. There is a group chat though, it was such a good day we decided to keep it going so we can arrange meet ups in future. Some people had to still get taxis across because there was 19 of us and only 4 fit in my car, including me.

The next morning in the group chat the person who had booked the taxis (Ubers) put her bank details in for everyone to transfer their share - including me. It worked out at £14 each, everyone but me sent the money and she chased me up for it, I replied saying oh I didn’t get a taxi because DP came and drove. She replied saying “to make it fair it’s been divided equally between all that attended so that some don’t have to pay more”…. But I am paying more, because I also paid in petrol and DP paid in time. I’ve refused to pay (I don’t even have the money until I get paid Friday).

Since then I’ve been removed from the group chat, when I asked my friend she explained the others are upset that I would be so selfish and make them pay more, but I see it as we would have needed to pay for an extra taxi so I saved everyone money.

OP posts:
RedHelenB · 10/03/2022 13:50

You shouldn't pay but I think if the others had agreed to get taxis then they should chip in to the general taxi bill.

Gizacluethen · 10/03/2022 14:31

Insane. I'd be thinking more that they should be giving you some money towards the fuel and DPs time rather than you giving them money. And they've obviously included their taxi home in the price too. How greedy.

Shadeelane · 10/03/2022 17:01

Obviously you're not unreasonable but not sure why people are telling you what you should and shouldn't be spending your money on if you're skint. Confused Apart from the fact it's not relevant it's also no-one else's sodding business.

6demandingchildren · 10/03/2022 17:25

Any thing like this should of been brought up in the messaging group before the event, it's stupid to wait until after an events to tell people they owe money especially if like you, you don't owe it

BumBurnerBum · 10/03/2022 17:28

@GracieLouFreeebush

The people that have said I’m unreasonable, please can you explain your reasoning? I’m genuinely baffled at what I’ve done wrong in the eyes of the other women.
I voted YABU because I'm an idiot that pressed the wrong button.

Maybe I'm not the only one?

Madamum18 · 10/03/2022 17:40

I think you are being perfectly reasonable!!

AwayInMyMind · 10/03/2022 17:46

They are bonkers !! CF's

tigger1001 · 10/03/2022 18:28

You didn't get a taxi so you don't pay. You've already made it cheaper by giving others lifts.

They are just being cheeky

rangagirl · 22/03/2022 06:25

Oops - Me, too.

I thought it was another language for yes and no - but I looked it up, and what I should have voted for was YANBU - which is You Are Not Being Unreasonable.

But never mind. I also left a comment explaining why the OP wasn't in the wrong, so they will hopefully see that one. :)

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