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Original poster

to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

795 replies

Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

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KindlyKanga · 06/03/2022 16:24

How much do you normally eat at night?

2022IamHavingYa · 06/03/2022 16:26

Starving is a bit dramatic. Order a takeaway if the kind and free offering from the bride and groom won’t satisfy you

WhiteXmas21 · 06/03/2022 16:27

Good grief no. Wedding breakfast starts at 4.30, probably takes at least 90 minutes, plus calories from alcohol , then cake and cheese? Sounds like a significant amount of food

Tiredforfive45 · 06/03/2022 16:27

Yep!
At least you know beforehand so you can be prepared with snacks.

We went to the evening do of a wedding with this exact set-up, expecting to be fed.
We were starving. Had to go leave early so we could find a chippy that was still open!

Original poster
Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:27

@KindlyKanga

How much do you normally eat at night?
A normal dinner and pudding, at about 7pm.
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KindlyKanga · 06/03/2022 16:28

I assume it's not going to be one dairylea triangle each. You'll be fine.

sadpapercourtesan · 06/03/2022 16:28

@2022IamHavingYa

Starving is a bit dramatic. Order a takeaway if the kind and free offering from the bride and groom won’t satisfy you
It's not free, is it, though. Nor is it particularly kind.

Generally wedding guests buy clothes, a gift, travel and sometimes accommodation - all to attend someone else's special event and support them in a rite of passage. This is a kind thing for the guest to do, and many couples would do well to remember it. Your guests aren't inanimate chess pieces, they aren't props to make your photos look good - they're supposed to be your family and friends, and the least you can do is consider their comfort and feed them adequately.

Elieza · 06/03/2022 16:28

I’d be hungry by about 8 to 9pm and I’d prob bring some snacks just in case the evening food wasn’t plentiful.

DataColour · 06/03/2022 16:29

Essentially the wedding breakfast would be dinner and then there's cake and cheese for evening snacks. Sounds plenty

RandomBasic · 06/03/2022 16:29

So you have lunch, at 1pm daily then dinner around 6,7,8.

This thing will be done by 9 so then have a takeaway on the way home.

Westfacing · 06/03/2022 16:29

Depends on what the wedding breakfast consists of - if it's substantial then cake and cheese later on is fine.

TheKeatingFive · 06/03/2022 16:29

Of course not, you won't be finished the main meal until about 6.30, then there will be cake and cheese after that.

KickinTheRibs · 06/03/2022 16:29

What’s wrong with cheese (and I’m guessing biscuits and accompaniments) and cake after 4:30? The wedding breakfast will be a slightly early tea unless you usually eat late? If so, have a large lunch before you go.

LittleOwl153 · 06/03/2022 16:29

What time is the wedding? For the 'breakfast' to be at 430pm I would assume you will have time for a decent lunch before hand?

DataColour · 06/03/2022 16:30

I'd eat a hearty lunch before going.

Woollystockings · 06/03/2022 16:30

No. You are eating at 4:30. A bit of an odd time of day but whatever. A late afternoon meal but a full meal. Then snacks/cheese in the evening. Sounds fine.

Original poster
Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:30

@2022IamHavingYa

Starving is a bit dramatic. Order a takeaway if the kind and free offering from the bride and groom won’t satisfy you
Free? It’s a destination wedding with the hotel costing the best part of £300. Plus travel. Plus the gift (of money…)
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TacoCats · 06/03/2022 16:30

No, your having a 3 course meal I assume then cheese on top.. without meaning offence do you usually eat a lot? Because to me you sound a bit greedy sorry! Blush

sadpapercourtesan · 06/03/2022 16:31

I have no strong opinion on the catering arrangements for this particular wedding, btw - "cake and cheese" could mean a number of things. I'm referring to the idea that the food on offer at a wedding is "kind and free" and guests should be grateful for it.

Cuck00soup · 06/03/2022 16:31

I'd be going prepared. At least you know. Worst wedding I've been to involved an emergency stop at Maccy ds on the way home. Wedding at 2. Minuscule food at 6ish. All in a cold, wet, muddy barn.

Original poster
Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:32

Logistically, we will be able to have breakfast but not lunch. But that’s ok as I don’t get very hungry get in the day.

However, having dinner three hours earlier than normal means that yes indeed, we will be starving come around 9 or 10pm! I don’t think a block of cheese is gonna cut it Confused

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Staggersaurus · 06/03/2022 16:32

Unless the wedding breakfast is literally a slice of toast and a bowl of cereal I think you will be fine. It’s probably a 3 or 4 course meal which won’t be finished until 6 at the earliest. Could you really manage another meal later on in the evening?

NavigatingAdolescence · 06/03/2022 16:33

@KindlyKanga

How much do you normally eat at night?
I eat most of my food in the evening.

I don’t eat cheese or cake, so I’d be taking my own food.

RewildingAmbridge · 06/03/2022 16:33

We went to a wedding with cheese and wine mid afternoon while photos were being taken (and a reggae band) and then an evening 'breakfast', I've honestly never seen more cheese, fruit, charcuterie, crackers and bread etc it was delicious and much better than the usual buffet! There were plenty of people who didn't finish their actual meal because they'd eaten so much cheese during the afternoon

SukiToast · 06/03/2022 16:33

How ridiculously dramatic.

You'll be eating from what, 4.30 to approx 6? A full dinner I'm assuming. You'll eat beforehand around 1ish, and have your breakfast as normal in the morning. They're providing cheese etc plus cake as an evening snack.

How much more food do you need? And why is it such a big deal to you that you felt the need to dramatically moan about it. Stick a protein bar in your bag if the concern is you'll pass out from the extreme hunger they're forcing you to experience....