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AIBU?

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to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

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Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

OP posts:
BobMortimersPetOwl · 10/03/2022 22:12

I don't think it was in response to saying the food sounded shit because that was me, and I don't recall being told I sound greedy or that I'm fuelling the obesity crisis.

But I do think it sounds shit.

Bringsexyback · 10/03/2022 22:20

I’m going to one where they doing a hog roast to be honest, I’m absolutely dreading it I don’t eat pork who eats pork 🤮🤢🤮

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 22:29

Wouldn’t fancy a hog roast…the poor pig is just splayed out with a hog roast it’s enough to put anyone off

DropYourSword · 10/03/2022 23:25

@LuckySantangelo35

Wouldn’t fancy a hog roast…the poor pig is just splayed out with a hog roast it’s enough to put anyone off
Giggling at slutty pig!
Ineedaduvetday · 11/03/2022 05:13

@Bringsexyback

I’m going to one where they doing a hog roast to be honest, I’m absolutely dreading it I don’t eat pork who eats pork 🤮🤢🤮
Amazingly, lots of people eat pork. Have you missed the references to bacon butties in this thread?
countrygirl99 · 11/03/2022 05:19

@Roussette

Bob Nothing could be further from the truth! But in my day (married 36 years this year!) no-one had an evening buffet. It literally didn't exist. Back in the day, I never went to a wedding where there was evening food. However, I didn't have to call ambulances for all the guests who'd fainted off on my wedding day!
Historicallly inaccurate I'm afraid. 42 years here and we had an evening buffet as did most of our friends.
Roussette · 11/03/2022 07:27

How interesting.

At the time I got married, I was going to loads of weddings every year. All my friends and workmates were getting married. It might be historically inaccurate to you but not one of those weddings over the space of the 80s had evening buffets.
Big wedding breakfast and that was it.
Maybe you moved in different circles to me.

Roussette · 11/03/2022 07:30

But I do think it sounds shit

Why? Because it's a 3 course wedding breakfast followed by cheese and accompaniments?
Baffled as to why it's shit.

How upsetting it would be to be the bride reading this. Horrible.

Say you don't like cheese or something by all means, but to label the whole thing as 'shit' is beyond rude and nasty.

ILoveYou3000 · 11/03/2022 07:57

@Roussette

How interesting.

At the time I got married, I was going to loads of weddings every year. All my friends and workmates were getting married. It might be historically inaccurate to you but not one of those weddings over the space of the 80s had evening buffets.
Big wedding breakfast and that was it.
Maybe you moved in different circles to me.

I also went to a number of weddings during the 80's (huge family, lots of cousins getting married) and there was an evening buffet at every one.

Funny how we all have different experiences hey? Same as some of us have been to weddings that were under catered and witnessed for ourselves the effect that has. People don't have to sit bitching around the table for it to be obvious everyone is hungry. The event falls a bit flat and levels of drunkenness go up. In my own personal experience (therefore I accept yours may well be different) the weddings where food and guest comfort has been prioritised have always been the best ones, there's a different feel to them.

I have also never been to a wedding where the evening food resembles anything you can get at Wetherspoons. Lots of hot buffets with masses of variety, some cold buffets, hog roast, bbq, wood-fired pizzas (made to order - these were amazing!). None of these have destroyed the aesthetics of the day.

Roussette · 11/03/2022 08:02

Funny how we all have different experiences hey?

Yes indeed... hey!

Same as some of us have been to weddings that were under catered and witnessed for ourselves the effect that has

That sounds so dramatic, it really does. I'm sure you'll survive!

I don't ever remember being so fixated on the food at a wedding that it spoilt the whole experience. I go to weddings to see friends, relations, have fun, have a drink, dance, catch up with people and most importantly wish all the best to the B&G.
What I'm going to eat is just not a massive thing on the day for me.

Moyny · 11/03/2022 08:11

@Rousette, I have attended a wedding where the vegetarian main course was so inedible (readymeal veggie lasagne left rather chilly in the centre) DH and I actually snuck out discreetly for a petrol station sandwich, and a French wedding where the caterers didn’t understand vegetarianism and just left a bare patch in the middle of our plates where everyone else had something meaty (so we had an exquisite, tiny portion of dauphinoise potatoes and green beans) and I still remember both weddings as enormous fun. Grin

Roussette · 11/03/2022 08:16

I don't doubt it Myony. That's a shame. Of all the weddings I've been to over decades (I'm old lol) the only thing that sticks in my mind as odd was one wedding (very very posh, most extravagent wedding I have ever been to!) and the men appeared to have twice the portions of the women! My appetite matches my DHs that's for sure!

Me and my sister did have a laugh about that afterwards! But it certainly didn't spoil my enjoyment as I had to be peeled off the dance floor at some ridiculous hour later on Grin

ILoveYou3000 · 11/03/2022 08:18

That sounds so dramatic, it really does. I'm sure you'll survive!

Dramatic? By stating an observation. I did survive. I'm simply sharing an experience of an occasion which was under catered and how that did impact the wedding. It's not about being fixated on what we were fed (or not in this instance). I generally never give what we'll be fed a second thought before going to a wedding, but it was very hard to miss the effect that day. People were either blind drunk or completely flat because they were hungry.

I also love a wedding. I love getting dressed up, seeing people I haven't in a while, having a good dance, a drink or five. The food doesn't feature unless there's not enough of it. That doesn't mean the wedding will be shit but it can have an effect. As evidenced by quite a few people on here having been at such occasions.

Moyny · 11/03/2022 08:19

@Roussette

I don't doubt it Myony. That's a shame. Of all the weddings I've been to over decades (I'm old lol) the only thing that sticks in my mind as odd was one wedding (very very posh, most extravagent wedding I have ever been to!) and the men appeared to have twice the portions of the women! My appetite matches my DHs that's for sure!

Me and my sister did have a laugh about that afterwards! But it certainly didn't spoil my enjoyment as I had to be peeled off the dance floor at some ridiculous hour later on Grin

Posh Penis Portions?

Actually, the Empty Middle Plate has become a long running joke with the couple who got married, who were horrified, as they’d carefully briefed the caterers (who nonetheless decided vegetarians ate fish…) Grin

Roussette · 11/03/2022 08:24

We'll have to agree to disagree on that one. You saw an impact on the wedding. Others might have seen a totally different impact than you.

I probably have been to a wedding where there wasn't as much food as might have been... I just can't remember. It's not something I particularly take from a wedding on the day... I'm more likely thinking... oooh, I love her dress, look at those shoes, wow the bride looks fab-u-lous, why isn't so and so cousin here, how great to see whoever, and so on. Food is a small part for me.

I just know it's not easy to be catering for a lot of people and it might be fabulous, it might be average, but how great it is we can all get together.

Roussette · 11/03/2022 08:27

Posh Penis Portions?

Yes! And twice the size!

Empty Middle Plate in France doesn't surprise me!

countrygirl99 · 11/03/2022 11:18

@Roussette

How interesting.

At the time I got married, I was going to loads of weddings every year. All my friends and workmates were getting married. It might be historically inaccurate to you but not one of those weddings over the space of the 80s had evening buffets.
Big wedding breakfast and that was it.
Maybe you moved in different circles to me.

You said they didn't exist so it's no good now bleating that it's only my experience. I went to a lot of weddings in the 1980s and virtually all of then had eveningbuffet so yes, you saying in your earlier post they "just didn't exist" is historically inaccurate.
ILoveYou3000 · 11/03/2022 11:32

You said they didn't exist so it's no good now bleating that it's only my experience. I went to a lot of weddings in the 1980s and virtually all of then had eveningbuffet so yes, you saying in your earlier post they "just didn't exist" is historically inaccurate.

Obviously only her experiences and opinions count 🤷🏻‍♀️ Very dismissive attitude, ignoring other people's actual lived experiences, and telling us what we witnessed didn't happen as we thought.

Roussette · 11/03/2022 13:50

You said they didn't exist so it's no good now bleating that it's only my experience

Lol. Don't be so silly. Where am I bleating?! Take me outside and shoot me, I'm 'historically inaccurate'! Crime of the century ! Recollections may vary!

ILoveYou3000

🤣😂🤣😂

MoreHolidays · 27/03/2022 14:07

Honestly if somebody started burping the alphabet in the middle of a wedding reception I might join in. It'd certainly be more fun than any wedding I've ever been to.

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