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to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

795 replies

Aztecprint6 · 06/03/2022 16:23

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

OP posts:
spacehardware · 10/03/2022 07:58

Not read the thread which has probs gone down a long rabbit hole where OP reveals she shagged the groom or something

I predict a lot of shit faced guests with the food at those timings. I'd sneak out for a kebab

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 08:03

@spacehardware the timing of the wedding breakfast?

spacehardware · 10/03/2022 09:01

Yup! People will standing around drinking during photos etc, not having had time to eat beforehand. Carnage

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 09:07

@spacehardware Really? Carnage. What time should the wedding breakfast be do you think?

spacehardware · 10/03/2022 09:11

Ok from skimming the thread you seem really invested. As you were

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 09:16

@spacehardware I wouldn’t say really invested. Just find it absolutely fascinating!

Roussette · 10/03/2022 11:15

I find it hilarious! This thread has provided great amusement for me for the last couple of days.

Just what I needed Grin

Tabitha789 · 10/03/2022 11:26

Have you never been to a wedding before....

Roussette · 10/03/2022 11:27

Have you never been to a wedding before....

Who's that to?!

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 12:06

@Tabitha789 if that’s to me then yes I’ve been to
loads of weddings.
I’ve just never been to one where guests are complaining of being hungry after the wedding breakfast and saying they’re having a shit time or where guests are fainting or nauseous from hunger or sneaking out for kebabs/roast chickens!!
That’s what I find fascinating and very amusing!

BobMortimersPetOwl · 10/03/2022 12:18

I used to play in a band and have been at hundreds of weddings. When you're not involved with the bride and groom and are looking as an outsider its always easy to see whether people are having a great time or enduring it.

I've seen a massive range of quality when it comes to catering. And I've seen the best received food to have been plentiful. It's lovely having pretty food. But the point of a meal is to eat it and have it fill you, not just admire how it looks.

Wedding meals have been a variation generally of some sort of soup or pate, a roast of sorts and generally a cheesecake or profiteroles. It's never gourmet cuisine because of how its prepared. Sometimes the portions are decent and sometimes they're pitiful. If you're served a pitiful portion its really OK to think its a bit shit.

Similarly, some have had canapés and others haven't. A few hours of solid drinking with nothing to soak it up normally means at least some are half sozzled by the time they finally sit down to eat.

You may laugh at what you think is my lack of taste and class in preferring some stodge to soak up alcohol, but I personally think that failing to cater to your guests needs and provide everything possible for them to enjoy a lovely event is where the class is lacking. I'd rather guests came and had a fantastic time with everything they could need, than have grumbles over being kept waiting around forever, being underfed etc because I chose to prioritise the aesthetic instead.

But that aside, the consensus has been to take a snack that can be eaten if needed. I'm not really understanding why that has been met with such venom when it seems perfectly sensible.

Roussette · 10/03/2022 12:30

No venom about taking a snack. Take one if that's your thing!
But don't try and enlist support on your table that the wedding is shit. And be discreet, i.e. don't get out a picnic and talk loudly about it.

People can do what they want. It's how they do it that matters. If you do take a snack, no one should know about it, should they?

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 12:38

Surely as well an adult is capable of recognising if they’re feeling a bit sozzled and slow their drinking down a bit or alternate between alcoholic drinks and water or something.

Still not convinced that I will be dishing up pies/kebabs/pizzas/chicken nuggets/bacon sarnies etc at my wedding though…shock horror! In addition to guests comfort, I do care about the ‘aesthetic’ too who wouldn’t?’

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 12:42

You want things to look nice, be a bit special…you’ll have paid enough out for it all.

PurpleDaisies · 10/03/2022 12:53

No venom about taking a snack.

Did you miss the posters accusing snack takers of being bonkers, greedy pig, unwell, alcoholic fatties who are single single handedly responsible for the obesity crisis in this country? Maybe no venom from you personally but you’re reading a different thread if you can’t see it.

Baconandmaplesyrup · 10/03/2022 12:59

There’s been venom on both sides, shit weddings, stingy, pitiful, crap, bad hosts, only care about insta, competitive under eaters who feel bloated on half a hand full of trail mix etc.

Someone was even basically told they were a competitive under eater because five courses would fill them up.

ILoveYou3000 · 10/03/2022 13:06

Still not convinced that I will be dishing up pies/kebabs/pizzas/chicken nuggets/bacon sarnies etc at my wedding though…shock horror! In addition to guests comfort, I do care about the ‘aesthetic’ too who wouldn’t?’

I may be wrong but I thought 'food truck' or street food type of cuisine is very on trend right now. Gourmet burgers, wood-fired pizza etc.

There's an awful lot of people on this thread who seem to think it's either haute cuisine or stodge and are missing there's an awful lot in between that could meet the aesthetic side as well as being filling for your guests.

There's often lots of hanging around waiting at weddings, lots of drinking, dancing, surely it's normal under those circumstances to need sustenance.

I've been to dozens of weddings and ran the whole gamut of wedding breakfasts in a wide variety of venues. Being hungry does impact on the guests but there's no need to compromise on the aesthetics if that's of vital importance, it's about a bit of thought and creativity.

Also it's quite obvious the OP was joking about the roast chicken 🤦🏻‍♀️

Roussette · 10/03/2022 13:09

Did you miss the posters accusing snack takers of being bonkers, greedy pig, unwell, alcoholic fatties who are single single handedly responsible for the obesity crisis in this country? Maybe no venom from you personally but you’re reading a different thread if you can’t see it

^Personally* I think the greedy pig fatties thing was more in response to the snide comments about this particular wedding food. How it was shit, how awfully they were going to be treated, how disgusting it was to have cheese shock horror. I didn't see it for someone saying they would slip some granola bars in their handbag and if they got hungry, would discreetly go out and eat them.

Take a snack if you want but don't make a song and dance about it. Don't start threads whinging because your appetite is odd or huge, don't start engaging those on your table about how shit it all is... just suck it up and be nice.

Roussette · 10/03/2022 13:11

Also it's quite obvious the OP was joking about the roast chicken

That's a shame! I was hoping it was hot and greasy and they would be chucking the bones at the B&G!

Aztecprint6 · 10/03/2022 13:17

I can confirm, the roast chicken was a joke…

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LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 13:50

Yeah there was loads of hyperbole about being “starving”, feeling faint, nauseous, having a shit time due to hunger, tiny portions, Instagram
focused bride and groom who god forbid want things to look nice and give their guests something a bit special rather than the pie and chips/pizza/nuggets they might get at a Wetherspoons to speak up the booze whilst on a sesh, etc etc

theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity · 10/03/2022 16:55

@rainbowmash oh of course because you are so nouveau riche hey

Baconandmaplesyrup · 10/03/2022 18:25

@Aztecprint6

I can confirm, the roast chicken was a joke…
But disappointed by that 😄
anotherheadache · 10/03/2022 18:54

@LuckySantangelo35 are you really still banging on?! You can make things look nice, feed sufficient food that isn't 'Weatherspoons' , it's not one or the other you know. We all get the message! You made it very clear! When you get married it will be beautiful and if there's enough in the budget you'll feed them too! Now chill out and go make yourself some cheese and crackers!

LuckySantangelo35 · 10/03/2022 19:00

@anotherheadache Haha ok then

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