to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

[Aztecprint6]

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

Lol at being diagnosed with “food issues!”

I'm a pretty greedy person but that sounds fine to me. A three course meal at 4.30...so finished by six? Surely you wouldn't have another meal after that? Cheese and cake sounds fine. Unless all this is tiny portions, I wouldn't be starving

@PurpleDaisies

Do people really not get that not everyone has the same appetite across a whole day? How can anyone say for certain that another person won’t be hungry?

Very true, like a PP I tend not to be so hungry in the day so have the majority of my calories in the evening.

So it's one day where you change that

You're having a three course meal at 4:30 then for supper having cheese and cake.
That sounds more than enough (too much to me).
I think you need to analyse how much food you are eating...
Especially if you are getting the munchies at 9pm.

@Aztecprint6 you eat pudding at every evening meal, are starving by midnight daily, and can’t cope with eating a full wedding breakfast finishing at 6pm then cake a cheese platter at 9pm. You do have food issues and it’s really not something to laugh about.

I'd take snacks, OP. You never know what the portions will be like, and meal timing is often weird for weddings. I always take snacks!

[quote MyDcAreMarvel]@Aztecprint6 you eat pudding at every evening meal, are starving by midnight daily, and can’t cope with eating a full wedding breakfast finishing at 6pm then cake a cheese platter at 9pm. You do have food issues and it’s really not something to laugh about.[/quote]
You can’t possibly know that the op has food issues. It’s a ridiculous, insulting thing to say just on the basis of what she’s shared. It isn’t a label to throw about lightly.

This surely depends on what food is actually served at the wedding breakfast. Posh, small portions at 4:30 followed by drinking and dancing all evening - yes, I would be hungry and disappointed with cheese and lack of sustainable carbs.

A proper plate of food at the wedding breakfast and OP may be fine. Ultimately there’s no way to know without seeing the menu first (but pop a banana and a cereal bar in your bag just in case I guess - or check the nearest takeaway opening times).

@KindlyKanga

How much do you normally eat at night?

I live mumsnet!

Do most people not normally have an evening meal?

The wedding breakfast will likely be a substantial three course meal, or a buffet at which you can eat as much as you like. You’re unlikely to finish eating that before 6.30pm. You’re unlikely to be peckish until about 9.30ish at which point you can have as many plates of cheese and crackers/bread as you like, plus cake. I really don’t see what the issue is here. It’s not going to be a single cube of Cheddar on a stick, FFS. You’re basically having a large celebration meal early evening followed by a light meal later. Calm down.

Unless you think one day of potentially less food than normal is about to cause your early demise, OP, I wouldn’t give it a second thought.

But if you do think it may lead to collapsing dramatically on the dance floor, Maybe stick a packet of wotsits in your handbag.

God yeah I'd be starving aswell. Absolutely bring some food or if you can, order a takeaway later on... It's very unfair to not be fed adequately when it's a destination wedding and it's costing so much to attend!

If logistically you can't stop somewhere en route for lunch, why not take sandwiches so you've not skipped a meal?

I’m a glamorous size 12 @MyDcAreMarvel and I think you’re getting a bit over-invested in attacking me a lighthearted thread.

Tbh I would be more concerned about no food between breakfast & wedding breakfast. If booze is free flowing & destination = hot then it could be messy.
I rarely get hungry at a wedding til late late. In fact at my own I asked for some buffet in the room after and ate nothing when it was out.

A takeaway?

Can anyone explain why it’s called a breakfast?

Wedding breakfast if you are told is 4.30 will begin with starters around 5, mains around 5.30 and dessert around 6, then speeches.

I expect cake and cheese will be about 8-8.30. By the time you've finished eating at 9 pm you really won't be hungry. Even a generous eater wouldn't be hungry.

If missing lunch is an issue and having to wait until 5pm to eat, take some snacks in your bag. I'd go for peanuts.

But most weddings serve canapés after the ceremony and before photographs.

Very true, like a PP I tend not to be so hungry in the day so have the majority of my calories in the evening

Eat a bit less the evening before so you are hungry for a larger breakfast or lunch

@Notcontent

Can anyone explain why it’s called a breakfast?

It's been explained in the thread. It's the first meal (so breaking the fast) after marriage.

OP, you're being a bit silly. Have something light to eat earlier in the day so that you're not starving by 4.30 (I know you say you don't eat much during the day, but something light might stop you thinking so much about the wedding breakfast). I couldn't personally manage cake and cheese after a wedding meal which will presumably end at 6ish, but if you can eat that and are still hungry at midnight, then just have something to eat at midnight (takeaway, cereal - I dunno what people eat at midnight). I'm not sure why it's a big deal.

I have always understood it is called a wedding breakfast as it is the first meal you have had after you are married, you are breaking your fast

@Notcontent

Can anyone explain why it’s called a breakfast?

I believe it’s related to an old tradition where weddings took place after mass - you wouldn’t eat before mass so this would be the first meal the bride and groom would eat.

And there’s definitely no Weetabix?