To say no fucking way.

[Rosebel]

My DD is 15 and she has a boyfriend who is 16. He used to live near but moved to London with his dad.
His dad has kicked him out and he's asked to come and stay with us. Initially I thought this was a one night thing but after talking to him it sounds like he wants to stay until he sorts something out.
In reality I don't want him staying for one night let alone temporarily. However I feel bad leaving a 16 year old alone without his parents.
I'm surely not unreasonable to say no am I?

No way. That's up to his parents to deal with, not you. And it would lead to all sorts of problems - would he expect to sleep in her room? Eat for free? Stay in while everyone's out at school and work?

This is a can of worms you want to be far away from. YANBU at all!

No, this is a bad thing to do, becayse it puts your child in the situation it’s impossible to dump him

Why has his father kicked him out? I’d phone social services for advice.

Kicked out at 16? :(

He must still be in some sort of education/training? If he moves to yours he wont be able to access this anyway.

Childrens social care have a duty to accommodate under 18's so I would ring them. They have an out of hours service that are covering over the weekend

I wouldn't be having him stay, as PP have said - it's a whole kettle of fish. Does he have other family? His mum? Failing that, SS.

YANBU by the way. But poor lad.

It would be a no from me.

Definitely not

However I feel bad leaving a 16 year old alone without his parents.

You're not though.

Honestly, if you get involved by putting him up you'll have trouble getting him to move out again and feel even worse.

Yanbu is there no family that could help out like grandparents/aunt/uncle?

If not social services as he is under 18.

For tonight or weekend then SS he is entitled to help and support and need help getting back into school or training. A 16y old isn’t going ever sort something out on his own unless he has family he’s planning on moving in with.

Naw. But I grew up with Roseanne and remember David and Darlene.

I'm also worried we could get in trouble with the police for letting him stay, although maybe not as he's 16.
Thung is he's offered us money and to sleep downstairs but his job is in London so the money won't last long and I just feel something has happened that we haven't been told.
We have younger children and are moving soon so it's just not something I can cope with.
However DD and her boyfriend are furious with me and as I said I feel for him but I'm not his mother and he's not my responsibility.

Don't do it, this will become permanent and social care will not prioritise a sofa surfer if 16 or over and will wait until 18 when they can pass them to the housing officers, who will then place on a very long council housing list or a very long hostel wait list (if he has support needs.) he will get more help if he's got no where at all and he's not your responsibility, not to mention that your daughter will effectively be living with a partner at such a young age and will then be unable to leave him without the guilt of his homelessness.

I think you should let him stay the weekend then ring SS on Monday morning.

I used to live at the ymca, we had 16 years olds in the centre, I was 18. There will be a place for him if you call ss. Also some people Foster older teens exclusively

Not a chance, sorry. I once took in a teenager who was ostensibly kicked out of the family home, and it was a mistake.

@wishuponastar1988

Childrens social care have a duty to accommodate under 18's so I would ring them. They have an out of hours service that are covering over the weekend

^ This Poor kid.

I dunno. I think this is a very case by case set up. You know him, we have no idea what he’s like.

It seems sad to not help out if he’s a good kid. If he isn’t then that’s a different story.

@Rosebel

I'm also worried we could get in trouble with the police for letting him stay, although maybe not as he's 16. Thung is he's offered us money and to sleep downstairs but his job is in London so the money won't last long and I just feel something has happened that we haven't been told. We have younger children and are moving soon so it's just not something I can cope with. However DD and her boyfriend are furious with me and as I said I feel for him but I'm not his mother and he's not my responsibility.

Something that stood out from this update is the line where you say ‘DD and boyfriend are furious with me’ he doesn’t sound like the ideal House guest does he!

However DD and her boyfriend are furious with me

This would make me even firmer in saying no.

I would allow him for a couple of nights whilst you help him sort something else out.

No, he isn’t your responsibility, but he’s basically still a kid and would seriously struggle on his own. I’m not sure I could turn my back on one of my dc’s friend under these circumstances, although I’d make it clear it wasn’t a permanent arrangement.

Very tricky, but unfortunately as your dd’s parent, you’ve kind of been involved whether you like it not.
Not the boys fault he has such rubbish parents.

However DD and her boyfriend are furious with me

What little shits. They’ve got no right to be angry with you.

It would be a no, but I would help him access the relevant support from child services.