About leaving the kids? (I think I probably am)

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Last night DH announced that he would like us to get more time as a couple, including 4 weekends away together each year. His parents live quite far away but would be happy to provide childcare.

For some reason the whole thing really stressed me out. The DC are 8, 6 and 3 and I've had 3 nights away from them since the oldest was born, only 1 of which I actually enjoyed. I love going out for the day/evening with DH but for some reason I just don't like the thought of being away from the DC overnight. DH travels a lot for work so he is quite used to being apart from them for extended periods.

I know I should feel grateful that we have the childcare offer, but I don't. Should I give my head a wobble or do other people feel like this too?!

Id say meet in the middle, the last time i went away with my husband was our honeymoon .. we haven’t even had a date night for 3 years due to covid, money or childcare ..
I wouldn’t feel 100% comfortable a weekend away myself but i would mind a night away.. Dinner show and hotel, back in morn for breeky ..
Say 4 weekends is allot to commit too but your willing to have some alone time, nights away not whole weekends .. or one special weekend for anniversary make it a annual thing .. don’t shut him down but be honest with your feelings there’s defiantly way to comprise in this situation

@Idontknowanymore1 why wouldn’t you feel comfortable with a weekend away do you think?

I’ve been away with my mum for a weekend and a hen weekend leaving my eldest with his dad before. DS1 is from a separate relationship so didn’t feel much guilt as he was away all weekend anyway..
Fast forward and i’ve since got married and had 2 more boys, my DS2 can be quite a handful very hyperactive, he isn’t a great sleeper and now my 10 month old has decided he wants to wake throughout the night as well and get up at 5am.. i’d only feel comfortable when they’re this age to leave with my mum, but it’s really bizarre DS2 plays up for her the most so would be worried about it being too much for my mum (she also suffered a heart attack a few years back). My DS1 is quiet and timid and you wouldn’t of known he was there, he is much now but all 3 boys together can be a handful..
i’d love a night away with my husband at some point, cheeky dinner date and posh hotel maybe but saying that prob will get to afford that now prices of literally everything has gone up.