Was I wrong to send him in like this?

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Reality check needed.
Ds 10 had massive holes in his trainers which appeared out of nowhere. A few days ago I saw a sale on the vans website and so took the opportunity to buy him some nice new shoes. They look like this.
www.schuh.co.uk/kids/junior-vans-old-skool-metallic-flame-black-and-silver-trainers/2662457850/

He hates them. He says they are too showy and was crying that he wanted to wear the trainers with holes in instead. Usually I let him choose his own shoes but on this occasion I just spotted a bargain.

Was I being unreasonable to basically make him wear the shoes and tell him that if he wore shoes with holes in school may contact social services for neglect (I was feeling desperate).

He was in tears. It was stressful all around.
I need a reality check about whether I was BU to push it? Normally he has his own way but I just couldn't send him in in bad holey shoes.

pictish

“Doesn’t really matter how ‘conservative’ we are does it? They made your child cry.

For what it’s worth I think they’re fecking vile.”

Did you enjoy typing that out to someone who has done nothing very wrong and who has gamely taken advice and rather a lot of disproportionate unpleasantness on board? A jab from one side and then the other.
I’m sure your dc have proper school shoes, you wonderful person.

Would you like if someone bought something for you to wear to work and when you don't like it forced you to wear it? You then go off to work crying and upset. That to me is humiliating someone which to me is very wrong. OP has not even come back to say if she apologised or not to her son. OP did nothing wrong in making the purchase of the shoes but when she forced him to wear them is very wrong. Mentioning social services was also very wrong.

@pictish

“Doesn’t really matter how ‘conservative’ we are does it? They made your child cry.

For what it’s worth I think they’re fecking vile.”

Did you enjoy typing that out to someone who has done nothing very wrong and who has gamely taken advice and rather a lot of disproportionate unpleasantness on board? A jab from one side and then the other.
I’m sure your dc have proper school shoes, you wonderful person.

Always a chuckle when somebody complains about a poster being horrible…by being horrible