lol OK I'm not going to get into a linguistics debate with you. Fugly to me is a word that bitchy girls would use in the playground to slag each other off, it's not a word that I'd use in a sensible, adult conversation
And it is a word that's been used by adults for nearly 2 decades. What you think of it is irrelevant.
Your comment about the shoes just not becoming damaged overnight is irrelevant. The op said that's what happened so speculating on it is pointless. Fwiw my son has come home many times in shoes that were maybe a bit tatty in the morning but utterly wrecked by the end of school. It can and does happen and it's silly to suggest she's making that up.
I'm not suggesting she is making it up, but there is definitely a misrepresentation. She just hadn't been paying attention.
Agree in an ideal world there would have been time and opportunity for the child to pick his own shoes to avoid the drama. But in this scenario where it was a clear choice between holey, damaged shoes and functional shoes that he just didn't like the look of, it blows my mind that people think she did the wrong thing by being more concerned that her ds was dry and warm instead of focusing on what he looked like.
To be honest, in the unlikely event I was in that situation, if my daughter at that age was intent on going to school in shoes that were full of holes, I'd have let her, giving her a warning that he feet would get wet and put a couple of spare pairs of socks in her bag. Having wet feet isn't going to kill them
The SS comment was poorly judged but I suppose she was trying to say that school may raise it as an issue if a child was in unsuitable, ill fitting or damaged clothing. That isn't unheard of.
It is unheard of. If a child who is otherwise well cared for and has no known issues, no school is going to call social services because they have a hole in their shoes. But, in any case, you never threaten your children with that, just to get your way when you have fucked up.