Sick of all the war threads

[dollymuchymuchness]

I know I don't have to read them but even the titles are a bit much. I know what's going on, I don't want to keep reading thread titles such as:

Diane Abbot thinks Russian Tanks are r...

The Invasion continues

Would you even want to survive a nucl...

DP won't let the kids leave the house beca...

All in active right now.

Is it just me who doesn't want to be continually reminded? Perhaps I'll have to stop coming on here.

I'm wondering if Mumsnet is being deliberately infiltrated. All these hysterical threads that wind us all up - there's one I've just seen called something like 'Look at this footage of a massive bomb' GRAPHIC WARNING' or something. Someone was posting this morning that her DH wouldn't let their kids go to school in case they got nuked.

It wouldn't surprise me if bots somewhere are trying to stir up fear and destabilise and divide us all. It's so sinister.

I miss the days of the penis beaker and the Mumsnet chicken.

I suffer with my mental health. I don't censure other people and I certainly don't expect the world to be all fluffy and lovely because I might get triggered. Some Mumsnetters throw words like 'anxiety' and 'mental health' around like weapons. Not everyone with mental health problems needs to be patronised and treated like a child. Imagine being so self important that instead of empathising with victims of war you turn it back around onto YOU and your issues. Absolutely selfish and spoilt behaviour.

@Libraryghost

I suffer with my mental health. I don't censure other people and I certainly don't expect the world to be all fluffy and lovely because I might get triggered. Some Mumsnetters throw words like 'anxiety' and 'mental health' around like weapons. Not everyone with mental health problems needs to be patronised and treated like a child. Imagine being so self important that instead of empathising with victims of war you turn it back around onto YOU and your issues. Absolutely selfish and spoilt behaviour.

Excellent post.

@AngelicaElizaAndPeggy

I'm wondering if Mumsnet is being deliberately infiltrated. All these hysterical threads that wind us all up - there's one I've just seen called something like 'Look at this footage of a massive bomb' GRAPHIC WARNING' or something. Someone was posting this morning that her DH wouldn't let their kids go to school in case they got nuked.

It wouldn't surprise me if bots somewhere are trying to stir up fear and destabilise and divide us all. It's so sinister.

I miss the days of the penis beaker and the Mumsnet chicken.

Prior to PB, you were allowed to discuss important events without the chicken-lickens having to start a million threads whining that important events upset them. The demographic seemed to change on the very day PB was invented. (literally, invented)

I dont open them. Tedious. Its bad, but i dont need it in my life. I switch the news off and ive stopped watching breakfast tv. Susannah Reid and her sad face each morning. I listen to Spotify.

I like happy thoughts.

@MedusasBadHairDay

I don't mind the factual ones about what's actually happening, but hide all the dramatic ones about impending armageddon.

It's a big deal, and people will want to talk about it. You can't stop that, but at least MN gives us the ability to hide as much of it as we need to.

I should imagine if you’re currently under bombardment, it may well feel like Armageddon

@nearlyspringyay

It was Covid, now that's dropped off, we've got war. What the fuck is next?

Famine...

(not entirely joking. Ukraine being the 'breadbasket of Europe' and all)

@Ramalamadingdongs

You're responsible for your own mental health. Go and read a book, or paint a picture, or do some knitting. The whole internet is awash with the news. A forum used by millions of people shouldn't have to avoid talking about the war because YOU can't handle it. Take responsibility for yourself.

100%.

@MrsDThomas

I dont open them. Tedious. Its bad, but i dont need it in my life. I switch the news off and ive stopped watching breakfast tv. Susannah Reid and her sad face each morning. I listen to Spotify.

I like happy thoughts.

Tedious? What a privilege.

They are tedious. No need to have numerous threads about the same thing.

This reminds me of when covid was just starting to spread out of China and people would start threads complaining of being bored hearing about it and others would chime in that we don't need to worry, it's just a cold, or they'll contain it like SARS and Ebola, everyone are doom mongers etc.

Except that the doom mongers were right to be worried, the pandemic was a massive, world changing, generation defining event. And what we are witnessing now in Ukraine is just as significant, you can stick your head in the sand all you like but it won't change anything.

Honestly speaking, I've had a couple glasses of wine so the fear isn't here the same without it.

When I'm sober, all these threads are hidden. My mental health can't take it, and that makes me feel AWFUL as all these poor people in Ukraine can't escape it.

However I need to do what is good for me

It's real world problems that we all need to care about. Not like the vapid nonsense my DH earns £150k a year can we afford another child.

@SmellyOldOwls

This reminds me of when covid was just starting to spread out of China and people would start threads complaining of being bored hearing about it and others would chime in that we don't need to worry, it's just a cold, or they'll contain it like SARS and Ebola, everyone are doom mongers etc.

Except that the doom mongers were right to be worried, the pandemic was a massive, world changing, generation defining event. And what we are witnessing now in Ukraine is just as significant, you can stick your head in the sand all you like but it won't change anything.

It's not about putting your head in the sand, well not for me anyway. I'm keeping up to date from reputable news agencies and have donated a small amount (all I can afford) to a charity helping. However I don't want to read 'Fuck are we all gonna die' threads every other hour. There's a difference.

It's a huge issue affecting the entire world rig HR now.

YABU

@dollymuchymuchness

Call me rude if you want that's your opinion of what I posted.
I too can choose to say that your original comment about not wanting to be continually reminded about what's going on comes across as very privileged.

Yes there are ridiculous threads on here about being nuked and building nuclear bunkers but as adults we can choose to either :

Not read them

Read them and get upset by them

Read them and see them for what they are which is ridiculous sensationalist rubbish.

@Nanny0gg

Makes sense to have famine next, we've had plague and war.

Which other delights are still to come?

Whatever happened to freedom of speech? Censorship much?
If you don't like them don't read them.

Different people manage their anxiety differently. I actually find that reading about other people's fear helps me stay grounded: admit to myself what my own fears are, and ask myself whether these fears are rational or not.

So who the fuck are you to deny others a forum to discuss topics that preoccupy them? If you don't like free speech, you could always fuck off to Russia.

There are lots of boards on Mumsnet. The situation in Ukraine is discussed on very few of them. Maybe try another board. "Relationships" is interesting, or AMA, or Chickenkeepers

Thank goodness someone said it. Its all fear porn. Quite odd how obsessive people are about it. Totally all consuming and not healthy at all.

So don’t read them.
I imagine people in Ukraine are a bloody sight more fed up than you are.

@DottyHarmer

I’m not a violent person but some people need their hands stamping on so they can’t type. Not so much the anxious, but the ones lapping it up. They sound so excited it makes me feel ill. There were posts about petrol stations running out of fuel and tinned tomatoes and pasta gone from supermarkets that seemed gleeful. Horrible.

Tumbleweed blowing across the covid section now as a fair few people have decided that “war” is the most thrilling thing now. They don’t want to discuss, just get off on how scary it all is, like we’re in a movie.

Exactly this!!

I’m all for the threads discussing the war, they’re interesting and informative, and I appreciate reading other viewpoints on it. It’s also on the news constantly and therefore on everyone’s minds, so of course there will be threads discussing it.

I do agree that the scare mongering about nuclear war and nuclear bunkers is getting tedious, and can also be unhealthy for anyone suffering with anxiety.

Yanbu. I've had to stop coming on mumsnet because of people posting suggesting we would get nuked. I've come on today to multiple war threads including ones about nuclear fall out. Mumsnet should have a separate war section because as much as I don't want to seem ignorant, my mental health and anxiety have gone through the ringer for the last 2 years already.

Even though there is actual war footage on tiktok, it is a much less stressful.place to be than mn at the moment

I come on mumsnet to escape my anxiety and all these war threads are making it fucking worse! Just shut the fuck up!

at the risk of calming the conversation up rather than down:

you can't tell me what to do, you're not my real mum!

(liked pp's idea about Canute Corner)