Outed on mumsnet?

[notaregularmomes]

I was, about a year ago I name changed, put up a post regarding a situation I was going through with my best friend at the time, it was very specific and I included exact texts that were sent back and forth (stupid in hindsight).

A couple days later she came round to my house, she looked very upset, I invited her in and she said 'Well I've seen your mumsnet post'. She was really hurt about what was written, I was really upset that she had went searching for the post (she knew I was being off with her so searched mumsnet knowing I use AIBU a lot). We ended our friendship that day.

We made up a few weeks later and laugh about it now but boy have I learnt my lesson. She showed her husband and her mum and her sister what I wrote and I was so embarrassed seeing them again. But luckily it got all our issues out on the table and we are better than ever.

Anyone else been outed on mumsnet?

@CassandrasCastle

Yes...it was actually a catalyst for my divorce, led to me being disciplined by the frankly horrible church I was in, then ultimately leaving it. They had my thread printed out as evidence of my sin of adultery...

Are you in the uk? Mainstream church?

Check my comments

Is that a name change fail?

Nope

Is anyone else off to change their username? 😆

@BikiniB0tt0m

Apart from a few cases that are obvious and knowing for sure a user name I don't think it's that easy to be outed

The size is what makes it easy to be outed - if you post, it's very likely someone you know will read it, especially if you live in the UK. If it's something identifiable or something you've discussed with people in real life there's every chance someone you know will recognise you. And if you haven't name changed they'll be able to search all of your other posts.

No, I change names a lot as a couple of colleagues are obsessed with trying to find people they know! Hi Rachel, Hi Sam!
I change name, and the odd detail like age of kids, or little things like that to throw those to biatches off the scent!!

It's still very easy! People are delusional. I spotted someone multiple times!

Me! I’ve been outed.

Really could not give a hoot. I’ve occasionally exaggerated or fibbed to make a point but 🤷‍♀️ pretty sure we all do. And since new sim, can’t remember mumsnet password so… I have to tow the line!

I’ve outed others too. But never said anything. And whilst I searched at the time (would take a much better person than me not to!), I’ve forgotten the names now so no more searching! In any event, would never raise, unless concerned

Not me, but there was a thread where the OP was slagging off her bf's ex. It was unusual circumstances so it was obvious who the ex was. Clearly her bf had made things sound much worse with lies and exaggerations. I DMed the OP and told her the truth about her bf. She was shocked. I wonder if they are still together.

Found someone on here, she admitted something bad her husband did and then denied it when I outed her. Everyone knows about it though and believes us. It was so obvious it was her. We kept all the posts luckily!

So agree with op it's soooo easy

Anyone else been outed

Haaaaaaaaa

For the first time Ive actually realised you are all real people 🤪

We r Real

I used to be quite well known under a past username (been here since near the beginning of MN) but I now name change regularly.
I haven't been outed but I did once recognise a situation that I'm pretty sure involved my close friend who is sadly in a NH with an inherited neurological condition. It was from a woman who was having an affair with her DH and was pissed off that he wouldn't divorce his wife.
That was pretty horrible really.