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Sent a naughty pic and it went wrong! AIBU?

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OhMygodddd · 25/02/2022 21:38

Name changed for this, I think I might have humiliated myself! 🤦‍♀️

So I sent a suggestive photo to my fwb, however it is still all new, 1 month and we’ve only hooked up 3 times so far. The photo was from the knees down, wearing black high heels and a lacy thong hanging of the end of one of my heels. His response was “is that you?”

Ouch! Not the reaction I though I was going to get if I’m honest and I’m feeling a little embarrassed and rather awkward now.
I said it was me, it’s not going to be someone else is it with a laughing emoji , and he just sent the laughing emoji back… would you find that response humiliating? I think I need a new fwb already 🤦‍♀️

OP posts:
AnotherSillawithanS · 25/02/2022 23:06

I'm doing that pic for mine now!

Original poster
OhMygodddd · 25/02/2022 23:11

Well hopefully you’ll get a lot better response than I did @AnotherSillawithanS

OP posts:
Ladywinesalot · 25/02/2022 23:15

Oh enjoy, sounds like he was caught off guard and didn’t have the confidence to dominate you back!!

And well done for being so risqué’!!

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/02/2022 23:20

I had the "having a bath" "send me a photo" exchange once too as a PP mentioned. I also sent a photo of the bath!

I would take it as he was wondering if that really was you as opposed to a stolen-off-the-internet picture. In his mind knowing it was you would probably be more of a turn on than a stock image. He just didnt put it very well!

Divebar2021 · 25/02/2022 23:30

Don’t be embarrassed …. I don’t think it’s a horrible interaction at all.

TheChosenTwo · 25/02/2022 23:37

Whattttt?! How on earth can that response cause so much embarrassment Confused
It’s not remotely embarrassing! I’d find staging and taking the photo of myself embarrassing, i wouldn’t have done it but I don’t think his response is anything to cringe about.
I think I’m missing something, going back to read the op again!

WonderfulYou · 25/02/2022 23:45

I wouldn’t worry he’s just not good at responses.

It doesn’t matter if you’re FWB or long-term dating, everyone would enjoy a picture like that so I just think you took him off guard.

I think he’ll probably send one back in the next couple of days.

MacaroniBaloney · 25/02/2022 23:46

At least it wasn't the universal dad reply 'ok'.

WonderfulYou · 25/02/2022 23:47

Also if it wasn’t you and he put wow you’re so sexy he could have looked like an idiot.

I bet he couldn’t believe his eyes 😂

MistOverTheDowns · 25/02/2022 23:47

He probably meant it in a WOW-Is That Actually you

HippeePrincess · 25/02/2022 23:48

I don’t think “everyone” would enjoy a photo like that.
Sounds a bit try hard and unless you have a particular penchant for stilettos which are more than a bit dated it’s not exactly sexy.

bonfireheart · 25/02/2022 23:53

Do u think he thought it was a GIF from the Internet rather than you?

Josette77 · 25/02/2022 23:54

Lol yes it is sexy. Most men would find it sexy. They are not going to think her shoes are "dated". They are going to be thinking about her underwear being off.

NorthSouthcatlady · 25/02/2022 23:55

@RicherThanYew well, exactly. Any dumbass questions from me get a dumbass reply!

Electriq · 25/02/2022 23:57

Some people don't do that sort of thing, or then worry that you will want one back so change the subject.

VodselForDinner · 25/02/2022 23:57

Oh OP, I’m cringing for you.

The whole point of a fuck buddy is that it’s casual. Dressing up to take a pic four weeks in is very try-hard.

How many takes did you even have to do to manage a photo of your thing hanging off a heel while using a phone camera?

jelly79 · 26/02/2022 00:00

@VodselForDinner harsh... she is clearly cringing herself she doesn't need to be told you are cringeing for her

BeforeGodAndAllTheFish · 26/02/2022 00:01

@Josette77

Lol yes it is sexy. Most men would find it sexy. They are not going to think her shoes are "dated". They are going to be thinking about her underwear being off.
I think most women think this is sexy. Men maybe just think it's a bit odd.

Subtlety doesnt always translate well. Especially in an out of the blue random photo of a foot with a pair of knickers hanging off it.

Very different if he had text to say he was on his way over for a fwb meeting but just randomly? From a casual fwb after only a few weeks? It's a bit odd.

oviraptor21 · 26/02/2022 00:04

The whole point of a fuck buddy is that it's light hearted and fun. OP's pic is exactly that. Maybe should have replied "come round and you'll find out ...".

MistOverTheDowns · 26/02/2022 00:04

@VodselForDinner

Oh OP, I’m cringing for you.

The whole point of a fuck buddy is that it’s casual. Dressing up to take a pic four weeks in is very try-hard.

How many takes did you even have to do to manage a photo of your thing hanging off a heel while using a phone camera?

I imagine quite a few takes and contortions to take a pic of her thing hanging off her heel!
ouch321 · 26/02/2022 00:06

"Most women think this is sexy."

Yeah...no...

veevee04 · 26/02/2022 00:06

I'm wondering the logistics of how you managed to take the picture?!! Men can get a bit confused by subtle pictures ,, they mostly just want pictures of tits,arse and fanny. I wouldn't be offended.

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 26/02/2022 00:08

A red thong hanging from a stiletto?

Clichees aside, maybe he thought you were sitting on the loo.

LovedayCL · 26/02/2022 00:17

Could have been worse, he could have replied with the thumbs up emoji.

I’d think more about what you want from your FWB ‘relationship’ though. If it’s someone you can send pics like that to, and get an affirmative response, then, he’s failed, not you.

LovedayCL · 26/02/2022 00:18

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

A red thong hanging from a stiletto?

Clichees aside, maybe he thought you were sitting on the loo.

How dare a woman not be up to the minute on original sexual content, a cliche, the horror!
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