Work trip vrs slightly ill dh

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I've got a work trip today. Staying overnight and coming back late tomorrow night. Dh is now moaning that he doesn't feel well and hinting that I should cancel.
I wfh, have only been their at work a few months and this is my first time to meet people from the office. I'm quite excited tbh.
Now dh is complaining about feeling unwell not covid just unwell and would prefer me to cancel.
We have teenagers who will be fine. They'll stay asleep until lunch then probably game all day. Might notice I'm not there.
So aibu to still go or should I stay home?

Obviously go.

Does your DH have form for undermining your paid work and/or ‘dressing gown of doom’ behaviour?

Go, of course go. Tell him teens can bring him anything he needs and you are at the other end of the phone.

He is being ridiculous. He is a grown man who can get himself paracetamol and drinks when needed. He needs to get over himself.

Go. He’s a knob.

Teenagers and an adult who non-specifically ‘feels unwell’? Of course you go. Shouldn’t even be a question in your mind. Shouldn’t even be a thought in your husband’s mind let alone words that came out of his mouth.

Why would you need to stay? It doesn't sound like he is so ill that he can't be left and your kids are teenagers so won't need lots of looking after? Just go!

They aren't tiny babies. Go on the work trip

Huh? Is your DH a toddler? Of course you go.

FGS go

What on earth would you even say to cancel? ‘My husband’s not feeling well’?

Absolutely go. He is being pathetic.

Jesus christ. Go and don't stand for his nonsense!

Go, ffs! When my dh is ill he just goes to bed so I’m of limited use anyway. If you have self-sufficient teens then I can’t see an issue.

Erm - why not go? So you can sit at home to just watch your husband be slightly ill?

I can't believe he has even asked you. Sounds a bit controlling to me.

@Lacdepassy

Erm - why not go? So you can sit at home to just watch your husband be slightly ill?

I can't believe he has even asked you. Sounds a bit controlling to me.

I thought controlling too.

My husband would have to be seriously ill and probably hospitalised before it would even occur to me to cancel. I wonder how he thinks single adults cope when they are ill!

To be fair to slightly ill DH, he may not realise what he's doing.
My DH dislikes change. When change is afoot he feels under the weather. He had never made the connection.

Now when the 'I don't feel too good' grumbling starts, I ask if he's worried about x,y,z. He soon perks up.

Please go. Have fun and don't feel guilty

The three adolescents can cope with you for two days

He’s being ridiculous. He’s only slightly unwell and your DC are old enough to not need much looking after. If he was bedridden and the DC were toddlers then he’d have a point.

Go on your trip and tell him to grow up.

This cant be a real thread. No-one would seriously cancel an important work trip to baby a pathetic DH with a cold. Do these people exist? Sometimes I feel MN is a complete parallel universe

Has he ever stayed home when you were under the weather?

Definitely go or this will continue.

Eh? DH did come home once from work when I was ill.. but it was a migraine with me throwing up regularly, children were 1&3 and DD had a Speech therapist appointment I couldn't drive too due to the migraine.

His work does have an informal policy for taking time out if a spouse can't look after the children due to illness... but its young children and very ill not teenagers and a bit under the weather!

You should definitely go, he can retreat to his bed and your teenager will enjoy having the house pretty much to themselves.