Work trip vrs slightly ill dh

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I've got a work trip today. Staying overnight and coming back late tomorrow night. Dh is now moaning that he doesn't feel well and hinting that I should cancel.
I wfh, have only been their at work a few months and this is my first time to meet people from the office. I'm quite excited tbh.
Now dh is complaining about feeling unwell not covid just unwell and would prefer me to cancel.
We have teenagers who will be fine. They'll stay asleep until lunch then probably game all day. Might notice I'm not there.
So aibu to still go or should I stay home?

I bet he's still well enough to work today though isn't he?

To be honest if you were posting to say this of one of your teenagers I’d still tell you to go. You are not you husbands Mummy. Do well in your job and you may get promoted/earn more than him. I’m guessing he’s used to you molly coddling everyone.

Go op!!!!! Go go go.

How many times have you been unwell and had to look after smaller children??? Hi and enjoy yourself. DO NOT feel guilty and check up loads….he’s a grown man. He also needs to start pulling his weight and stop gaslighting you about your back to back meetings!! ITS WORK!!

If you stay home and pander to him, you would be a mug OP.

He’s being very unreasonable .

Ok, so if I take your DH at face value, and he really is feeling a bit ill, what exactly does he expect you to do about it if you stay home? You don't have small children to look after (and even if you did, sometime parents just have to suck it up and get on with things even when they're a bit ill) Is he expecting you to stay home, fetch him warm ribena, and stroke his hair? Unless he actually needs to be under observation, he's being fucking ridiculous.

Go now OP, don’t even wait until lunchtime. Manchild with general malaise will cope.

Well he's taken himself off to bed.
I'm planning on still getting the train later.
I've prepared dinner he can heat up.

Direct him to the paracetamol and tell him to get a grip

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

And please don't cancel. Your work will take a really dim view of cancelling something because your husband is slightly unwell and doesnt want to look after teenagers by himself

Exactly this. Especially if you are new in the job.

To be honest, I think I'd be looking to get myself onto more work trips, that are much longer, at least a week.

Why have you made dinner? Can't they sort themselves out?

Please go to your work trip, it's a great opportunity to meet new work colleagues, it would be a different story if your husband was very ill and had to take care of toddlers. Honestly comes across as your husband is jealous of your work. Slightly I'll comes across as pouting and putting it on. Do not pander to him

Are you working today?

How old are the teens? Could they have prepped a meal or got a takeaway?

He just gets frustrated that in always in meetings 9-5.

What's he doing 9-5?

I guess he's feeling a bit nervous about you going. Don't indulge this. Be bright and breezy and have a great time away.

I wouldn't even consider not going ffs, what a knob.

" how you feeling dh?"
"Awful"
" aah bless you well there's paracetamol in the cupboard,a couple of teens upstairs and food in the fridge.Cheery bye!"

Never seen such a unanimous vote!

He will be fine - probably get up as soon as you've gone and he realises his moaning hasn't worked to scupper your plans!

Enjoy the trip

I was going to say go even if they were babies - what father has ever cancelled a work trip because the mother of his babies is slightly ill.

But with teens (sounds like they’re on half term? Just checking as we’re not here) there’s no question. He needs to do very little to look after them by the sound of it.

Is like to know what he does all day as well!

Has he ever cancelled work to look after the children or you? Has he taken time off to get them to appointments?

How many times has he stepped up as a parent and prioritized the kids over work?

Bet that’s not even a consideration on his radar.

Oh my goodness, what a baby your DH is!!

Of course you go on your work trip/ meeting

You've teenagers- (they can call GP for him if his fingers suddenly don't work if he got more unwell!)
He's a parent
He's not at deaths door about to be admitted to hospital
He's a 'bit unwell'
Jeez

He's not even got covid!
What does he think the rest of us (lone parent) adults do when we are really ill, not 'a bit unwell'? We behave like adults and manage.

Also no you don't do your housework during paid WFH working hours except for quick jobs whilst waiting for kettle to boil for your coffees!

Wtf?

I thought you were going to say you had a baby and toddlers and he's just nervous about providing care for them alone for the next 24 hours because you normally do everything... But teenagers?! For goodness sake. What do they even need from him other than maybe a lift somewhere? He doesn't even need to cook if he's really feeling ill, he could just order a pizza or something.

You would be nuts to cancel over this.

He's being ridiculous. I had emergency spinal surgery and live alone. Had to get a taxi back from the hospital the next day and then carry on
Sure I slacked on the cleaning as I wasn't allowed to bend but I looked after myself perfectly well

Wow, what a manchild he is then.

Just go.

Even if he can't manage any of it himself, you have TEENS in the house - surely they can bring him a drink/paracetamol/cross on which to languish while he thinks about his woes.

His preference is that you should still do all the remaining house chores while working, rather than him doing anythiing? Arse.

Go, enjoy your trip.

You must go. End of.

Sounds like he doesn't want you to have any commitments outside of performing wifely duties. This is brattish man-child behaviour.