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Is there a medical diagnosis for hating people coming into your house?

154 replies

shelleyshell · 20/02/2022 21:01

Hello people,
it is my first post on here and am not sure if I am in the correct place but.....
I hate having people in my house! I like my mil but she comes in way to often, my 14 year old Daughter has a boyfriend that I see too often, nothing against him I just don't want him in my house - he is currently restricted to 2 days per week.....and the main one...

my husband has a friend I dislike and he comes over every month for the whole weekend, I always go away but I still hate himmin my house!!

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TroysMammy · 20/02/2022 21:05

My fear of people coming to my house has been armchair diagnosed as dirtyflooritis. In other words I know I need to Hoover and mop my floors but as I can't be arsed I hate people coming to my house as they'll see what a slattern I am.

Sunshineandrainbow · 20/02/2022 21:07

We don't tend to get visitors but I hate work people coming into the house.

NeedToKnow101 · 20/02/2022 21:07

@TroysMammy

My fear of people coming to my house has been armchair diagnosed as dirtyflooritis. In other words I know I need to Hoover and mop my floors but as I can't be arsed I hate people coming to my house as they'll see what a slattern I am.
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cheekychaplin · 20/02/2022 21:07

I don't know if you are joking or not but surely you don't need a medical diagnosis here Confused

HoldenCaulfieldismyhomeboy · 20/02/2022 21:08

I hear you OP, I too hate people in my house. It's my safe space, my haven. I don't like people. The two just are not conducive.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 20/02/2022 21:09

I doubt its anything medical if it doesn't apply to every single person in existence, sounds like you just don't get on with these people and can't tolerate them too frequently/for long durations.

ButtockUp · 20/02/2022 21:11

Don't like people in my house, either.

Original poster
shelleyshell · 20/02/2022 21:11

Really not joking, my husband doesn't take me seriously and just says 'it's weird', it upsets my children but it's how I fee,

I am perfectly happy to go into other peoples houses and am no anti-social apart from my own house!

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fruitbrewhaha · 20/02/2022 21:11

Dunno, sounds a bit miserable. Although i don't think you're alone on this. It seems quite common on MN that people don't want visitors or guests etc. I like people coming to my house, I like entertaining, I enjoy other peoples company and making them welcome. Some don't. I also enjoy going to others people's houses and being entertained, so ou can't really have one without the other.

OpheliaThrupps · 20/02/2022 21:12

There's MDS in which you never ever answer the door, and regard any attempt to ring the bell as an affront to your dignity as a nice lady (Mumsnet Doorbell Syndrome).

WouldIwasShookspeared · 20/02/2022 21:14

Anxiety, unsociable, introverted, could be lots of things

RosesAndHellebores · 20/02/2022 21:14

My mother in law was diagnosed with this. She has never willingly welcomed a visitor into her house since 1960. It's called meanymiserableunsociablitus. There is no known cure. Except that things improve when your dd's conclude you are so miserable they move to the other side of the world and your ds moves 240 miles away. Honestly even after FILS funeral her brothers and sisters said "come on let's get some drinks and take you back to your house". She refused to allow them. SIL2 and her partner stayed with her. Silk couldn't be arsed to travel to the UK for the funeral. DH and I went back to my hotel as SIL 2 was there and DH only has his old single bed. You reap what you sow.

yoyo1234 · 20/02/2022 21:15

I hate dirt etc being carried in by other people.

BritWifeInUSA · 20/02/2022 21:15

Anxiety

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2022 21:16

@OpheliaThrupps

There's MDS in which you never ever answer the door, and regard any attempt to ring the bell as an affront to your dignity as a nice lady (Mumsnet Doorbell Syndrome).
Or the landline phone, don't forget. Or your mobile unless the person has texted prior to warn you of impending call.

MDS is a real medical thing, it must be. Might as well brick the front door up and have done with it.

GCAcademic · 20/02/2022 21:19

I’m so glad to have found my people.

Just don’t come round to my house

iheartmybeachhut · 20/02/2022 21:20

@RosesAndHellebores

My mother in law was diagnosed with this. She has never willingly welcomed a visitor into her house since 1960. It's called meanymiserableunsociablitus. There is no known cure. Except that things improve when your dd's conclude you are so miserable they move to the other side of the world and your ds moves 240 miles away. Honestly even after FILS funeral her brothers and sisters said "come on let's get some drinks and take you back to your house". She refused to allow them. SIL2 and her partner stayed with her. Silk couldn't be arsed to travel to the UK for the funeral. DH and I went back to my hotel as SIL 2 was there and DH only has his old single bed. You reap what you sow.
Ffs, this hardly helps op.
itsgettingweird · 20/02/2022 21:20

I've become like this.

Never was but I think mine occurred due to ds having autism.

If I go elsewhere I can leave if needs be.

If people come here I can't!!!

Ricksteinsfishwife · 20/02/2022 21:24

There does seem to be a disproportionately high amount of people on here who don’t like to answer their doors, don’t answer the phone, don’t have people in their house, don’t go to other peoples houses, and who will end any relationship immediately using the excuse of any very minor misdeamenour if they can and will urge others to do the same.

BobLep0nge · 20/02/2022 21:25

I hate people in my home too so I don't allow it.
When my DB was homeless he lived in tent in my garden, could you perhaps buy a tent for your guests to use?

Knobhead101 · 20/02/2022 21:30

I don't mind people in my home providing I know they're coming. I loathe when people just arrive without any warning. If I answer the door when I'm home, I pop my coat on. That way, if I don't want that person entering my home and can say 'oh you've just caught me leaving, sorry!' and they'll leave, and in the unlikely event that it's someone you do want in your home, you can take your cost off and tell them you've just gotten home but they're welcome to come inGrin

OpheliaThrupps · 20/02/2022 21:38

@BobLep0nge

I hate people in my home too so I don't allow it. When my DB was homeless he lived in tent in my garden, could you perhaps buy a tent for your guests to use?
This.

After I gave birth to twins who looked quite unhygienic I asked them to live in the coalshed. They're perfectly happy there, and my younger children live in a nearby wheelie bin (not my own, I like to keep that clean and fresh).

Curiouserandcuriouser1 · 20/02/2022 21:50

I hate it too. But I think it’s just because I’m an introvert (which gets treated as a medical condition by some).

Tigersonvaseline · 20/02/2022 21:54

Op how much do you see it as your DC home as well??

Sparklingbrook · 20/02/2022 21:54

@Knobhead101

I don't mind people in my home providing I know they're coming. I loathe when people just arrive without any warning. If I answer the door when I'm home, I pop my coat on. That way, if I don't want that person entering my home and can say 'oh you've just caught me leaving, sorry!' and they'll leave, and in the unlikely event that it's someone you do want in your home, you can take your cost off and tell them you've just gotten home but they're welcome to come inGrin
Do you really do that? How does that work in the summer?
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