To think punish him on your own bloody time and give DS his toy back?

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DS very favourite toy is his paw patrol tower and all of the characters and cars that park in it. It is all he plays with. Yesterday I was out for the day and DS had lots of tantrums with DH and DS bit him. As punishment DH took his tower and all the cars and characters away from him and has said he can have them back Sunday night when DH gets home if he's been a good boy all weekend.

Of course DS shouldn't be biting, and his tantrums are savage and go on for fucking ages, I get it. But it's midday Saturday and I'm alone with him all weekend and he's doing my absolutely head in. He's done nothing but cry and whine and moan. He won't play it with anything else he's tearing around the house looking for his tower. I cannot deal with the crying anymore and I'm in for an entire weekend of a relentlessly tantrumming toddler, because he's being punished for annoying DH with tantrums?

Aibu to think punish him in your own bloody time and don't make me deal with the reality of it?! I want to give it back just to stop the fucking noise before I really lose it with him myself. I'm pregnant and knackered and honestly he is on my final nerve

Blimey this post has really hit a nerve with some people.

Just because someone has a different parenting style to you doesn't mean you have to be unpleasant to them

It's a massive generalisation, but with each subsequent child there is a tendency to cut them a bit more slack and family life tends to be all the better for it.

It's a hard path to walk there should be consequences for unsafe behavior but in many cases, they don't work. My kids 8 and 4 both have SEN needs, so literally nothing from the behavior playbook works (now and next, reward charts, removing things,)

We were told by a behavior specialist if you are going to remove things as a consequence then it should be a short time period, in our case that didn't work either.

I would discuss with your husband and work together, would not be too hard on him either nobody is perfect and from a dad who gets bitten, spat on and has things thrown at him weekly by his kids I know is not always easy to think rationally and keep your cool

I think it is really sad that the toddler thought he was been punished for crying and feeling sad. It shows his father did not explain to him in a way he would understand why his toy was being taken away .OP you did a great job of explaining and reassuring him it was not about him crying and I am glad your husband understood why you gave the toy back and is going to look into how to use appropriate punishments

Just wondering whether it is always this hostile in here?
Reading through the comments I wonder who the toddlers actually are.

@Burgoo my impression is that there are a few posters who hang out in AIBU because they enjoy being mean and a few more who get a bit too passionately caught up in the argument.

If you can handle or ignore them there is also generally some actual good advice.

@Burgoo

Just wondering whether it is always this hostile in here? Reading through the comments I wonder who the toddlers actually are.

Probably the person who resurrected a thread that had finished three days ago is the most infantile.