Would you allow best man's newborn at wedding

[questionofthedaywedding]

If your best man would be father to a 1-2 month old new born on your wedding day, would you allow the newborn at the wedding, when it's generally a no children wedding ?

Is that being harsh to best man and his wife, who'll presumably only come if newborn can come?

Asking for a friend situation.

Assuming his wife would be there and not at head table, it would not have any bearing on his duties as best man. It won’t be an extra seat or food. As long as mother stepped out should baby fuss during ceremony then yes it shouldn’t be an issue.

@Hydrate

Is there a reason that a babysitter cannot be arranged? Do the young couple not know anybody suitable to take care of the baby for the day?

Eh? Do you have children?!?! Would you honestly leave a baby 8 weeks old or younger with a babysitter?!? Do you know anyone that would spend a day or night looking after a tiny baby? Jesus christ.

@VelmasGlasses101

“no children no exceptions” means it ia the same for everyone it’s not personal

Bizarre. I think some people are so caught up in 'their' day (it's not....it's just a day, you don't own it) that they happily forego the stuff that's actually important and should see them through the (hopefully) decades ahead of them. If you value your friends, you welcome them, host them, overcome obstacles which may prevent them being there and realise that some things may not be picture perfect but know that you want to celebrate with them.

In this case, saying to someone we don't give a shit if your wife is here or not, bring someone off the street rather than a tiny harmless baby, you are kind of missing the point of life and friendship.

it’s just a day, you don’t own it

Well obviously they don’t own the day, but they are hosting the wedding and are allowed to want to make it an occasion they’ll enjoy.

In this case, saying to someone we don't give a shit if your wife is here or not, bring someone off the street rather than a tiny harmless baby, you are kind of missing the point of life and friendship

I look at it the other way. Yes, I would invite the BM’s newborn baby but if I were in OP’s position, I would see the wedding as only a small part of our friendship and not being able to go so that they could have a childfree event would be something I would respect. Because they’re my friends and I would respect the fact that it is a massive day for them and wouldn’t want them to compromise on it for my sake.

“Invite my baby to your wedding, even under duress if need be, or you’re missing the point in friendship and life!”

No thanks, I’ll just pass on your… “friendship”.

I've got 2 weddings this summer my baby will be approx 6 weeks and then 3 months old. I'm pretty pissed my baby isn't invited to either tbh. And both are my female friends. I don't think babies should count. Also both my weddings are not child free the bridal party and close family children are invited. I'd happy leave a toddler with grandparents and enjoy a night out. Tbh if my baby is happy and will take a bottle I will easily leave him with my mum or have her collect him early or whatever but I'm pissed the brides haven't said to me obvs you can bring your newborn.

@mewkins
Yes.
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