To think ut makes sense for the parent leaving the house for work to do the nursery run?

[Tartankilts]

Goes past the nursery so this makes sense, but is it unfair always to be one person?

Are you 12?

@Arabellla

Weird to not communicate with your husband.

I don't get why you think there is an on going problem

Because drop offs and pick ups are an ongoing reality, and DH should do his share.

@Arabellla

Because drop offs and pick ups are an ongoing reality, and DH should do his share.

Do you need the OP to create a new rota and share it with you?

DH does all school runs for this reason. I use the time to clear up and get the dishwasher and washing machine on. He is at his desk before me.

OP hasn’t provided any info on any of the ‘it depends on’ factors posters have mentioned.

Depends. It makes sense for us because it would take me an hour and a half to walk DS to nursery while it'll just add ten minutes to OH's drive on his way to work so he does 90% of drop off and pick up (I pick up if I'm going to that area for another reason)
If nursery was a short walk away then splitting the responsibility would make more sense.

Do you need the OP to create a new rota and share it with you?

No, but you need to wind your neck in.

Not sure what your problem is. Maybe grow up?

@Arabellla

Do you need the OP to create a new rota and share it with you?

No, but you need to wind your neck in.

Not sure what your problem is. Maybe grow up?

Stop with your random cryptic posts then 🤷‍♀️

@Loopytiles

OP hasn’t provided any info on any of the ‘it depends on’ factors posters have mentioned.

Errr you mean like … the times we both start, who is WFH, who does pick up, what traffic is like?

@Arabellla I’m not being an arse and there’s no need to “pity my husband” but tbf I’m not at work on here, I don’t need to provide a strategic plan.

As with many issues on here this is part of a wider problem and often when I’m caught in the moment it does seem silly for DH to go out when he doesn’t have to. But it is stressful for me - traffic c’est terrible just at the moment and I feel constantly rushed! It doesn’t mean I’m not going to speak to DH but I’ll do it when it’s best for me and I don’t know quite when that will be at the moment.

I do the school run on my way to work on a normal day but if dh is off he does it. So I disagree with you.

No OP, the many other ‘it depends on’ factors posters have mentioned. For example the fairness of the overall split of weekday parenting and domestic work, your respective paid working hours etc.

First page of posts, for example. Info not provided, and it’s relevant to who’s being U!

But I’m not asking about ‘domestics’. I’m asking about the nursery drop offs.

If DH spent all morning hoovering, that would be very lovely but wouldn’t actually make dropping DD off any less rushed and stressful.

I swear some posters would ask about household chores on a bereavement thread!

DH always does the drop off but that is because there's no other option as I can't do it as I start work early.
So he does drop off and I do pick up. I don't think it's fair for one person to do both drop off and pick up.
If we started work at a similar time we'd probably alternate who dropped off (that's what we did with older DC). Ideally 50/50 is best.

You’re providing limited information.

Dropping off small DC is a parenting task, one amongst many other parenting and domestic tasks. Hard to give opinions on who’s U without at least some of the wider context posters have asked about.

Eg if one parent does pick up, DCs’ tea and bedtime five days a week, that’s a lot more than a nursery drop off five days a week.

@Loopytiles

You’re providing limited information.

Dropping off small DC is a parenting task, one amongst many other parenting and domestic tasks. Hard to give opinions on who’s U without at least some of the wider context posters have asked about.

Eg if one parent does pick up, DCs’ tea and bedtime five days a week, that’s a lot more than a nursery drop off five days a week.

But she's literally asking about this small task exclusive of everything else. She's asking if it makes practical sense to extend her commute by an extra half an hour for something DH could presumably do in 15 minutes.

I wouldn't say to my DP "well I cooked tea last night so you have to do this thing that will massively inconvenience you" because that makes no sense.

You’re providing limited information

It is a MN thread, not evidence at the old Bailey.

Eg if one parent does pick up, DCs’ tea and bedtime five days a week, that’s a lot more than a nursery drop off five days a week

It would not make my mornings any less stressful.

Besides, I have clarified I do pick ups. More than once.

OP,

You do the all the drop off's and a lot of the collections as he is WFH.

Is that fair? Nope.

Why? Because it's stressful, and the stress should be shared.

If he doesn't see that, accept it, and want to share the load, your have a problem.

DO NOT have another child with him if he has no wish to share the parenting load.

YANBU.

Info too limited to advise who’s being U.

OP hasn’t said how much time it’d take her DH to do the morning drop offs, nor how many evening pick ups he does each week.

@Loopytiles

OP hasn’t said how much time it’d take her DH to do the morning drop offs, nor how many evening pick ups he does each week.

She's said she does pick ups

Do every other week and the other parent does the pick ups.

DH should drop off. It's clearly a rush for you to get to work in the morning while he has a hour after you have left to mooch and have breakfast.

Could he walk it? It would be good exercise?

@Tartankilts

I do end of day pickups.

DH logs on for work at 830, so we start at similar times.

MN comprehension skills at their finest again.