To think ut makes sense for the parent leaving the house for work to do the nursery run?

[Tartankilts]

Goes past the nursery so this makes sense, but is it unfair always to be one person?

@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee

It's not just about being out of the house and past the nursery. Parking can be a pain outside nurseries, drop offs slow and if you then have to be in work for a set time it adds extra stress onto the morning. So if the other person isnt working then they should do it. Also depends on age and how easy the child is in the morning. If the person going out to work has to wrangle the child, get themselves ready and then do drop off before work thats different to 2 parents helping

Agree its not like posting a letter as you go past a post box. Drop offs can take a while.

So he gets the convenience of wfh AND no drop offs.

Fuck that!

Maybe just say it's up to him but if he doesn't do the drop off he'll have to look after his child all day.

My dh gets dd fed and dressed while I get ready to go out to work. Then I drop her on the way to work.

@Arabellla

So he gets the convenience of wfh AND no drop offs.

Fuck that!

This in spades!

Plus: I bloody love WFH but it’s good to get out and have the fresh air and the demarcation between home and WFH. I like the nursery run on my WFH days because it acts as a wake-me-up and mental commute that puts some space between my house as the place I sleep and just had breakfast; and my house as the place I stare miserably at a laptop cursing my emails.

It kind of depends on how the other tasks are split you. If he is doing the bulk of the housework because he has lunchbreaks at home and no commute, then I understand his logic in thinking that the person who is leaving the house should do the drop offs. If he doesn't believe that wfh makes him more responsible for the housework, then I don't think commuting makes you more responsible for the drop offs.

I drive to work. DH gets the train. Neither of us drive past the nursery - it's in the opposite direction - but I have to be on the road anyway and he walks to the station so it makes sense for me to take her. It's no great hardship.
I enjoy it.

My DH works from home. I walk to work past the nursery. I always do the nursery run if I'm going into work. It makes sense.

It depends on all sorts of things - commute times, whether they have a train to catch, how strict their start-time is, how bad the traffic is etc.

Personally I think school runs should be split where possible - so either split it by days or have Parent A do the morning and Parent B do the evenings.

What are the timings for your DH? If he does the school run does he still have a good amount of time to get home and started?

This is always my DH's complaint - if he does the school run he gets home at 8.50 for a 9am start - he has always gone into work an hour early because he likes to settle in but it is fine for me to squeak into the office at 9am. I start a new job next month and things are going to change - the one WFH will be doing the school run as it gives the other the least stressful commute (and saves money on breakfast club).

He can do it. He goes right past.

Whoever is going to the office does the nursery drop off here. It makes sense, rather than creating an unnecessary car journey (nursery in next village, on way to work). That's easy to say, when we are wfh/in the office alternative days though.

Take it in turns?

Does he still get to work on time if he does it and is the hursery open at the time he would then need to be there?

What's the plan for Primary School?

I think it should be shared if possible.

It’s all becoming a bit stressful. Nursery opens 730. Even when I get there at 730 which tbf doesn’t happen much I’m rushed getting into work.

OTOH it does seem daft for him to go out and double back.

@girlmom21 don’t even bother with the PA ‘I enjoy it.’

@Arabellla

So he gets the convenience of wfh AND no drop offs.

Fuck that!

The OP doesn't say he wfh

What's the plan for Primary School

That largely depends on which primary school we go for but it is a while off.

He does WFH sorry you’re right … I didn’t say that.

Can he take full responsibility for getting DD ready so you can leave on time ?

It depends on too many circumstances, but I don’t agree that the parent who is leaving the house should automatically do the nursery run. That would mean that the parent WFH always gets a much easier day, which wouldn’t be fair.

@Tartankilts

He does WFH sorry you’re right … I didn’t say that.

How does he pass the nursery then if he wfh?

He doesn’t, I do.

Sorry your opening post makes it sound like he goes past the nursery

@Tartankilts

It’s all becoming a bit stressful. Nursery opens 730. Even when I get there at 730 which tbf doesn’t happen much I’m rushed getting into work.

OTOH it does seem daft for him to go out and double back.

@girlmom21 don’t even bother with the PA ‘I enjoy it.’

Well it's not PA... I do enjoy it. But ours opens at 7 so it's clearly easier for me than you 🤷‍♀️