To ask why some people are SO rude about Valentine’s Day?

[Sweetlikejollof]

I find this so strange. If you don’t celebrate it, then that’s fine. Nobody is trying to make you.

However, some of us do celebrate it. And we enjoy it. So, why be rude about it? Why all the vitriol? Every year, multiple threads of people being remarkably unpleasant that others have the effrontery to celebrate something that they don’t personally care for. Why?!

And the ‘it’s commercial nonsense’ and ‘we celebrate our love every day’ arguments aren’t relevant here, as I’m not asking why you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day (your relationship is entirely your business), I’m specifically asking why some people are rude about other people celebrating it.

I mean literally, come on love. Your title is a question and my answer to your question starts “because x,y,z.” What else do you call it if not answering your question.

Q: why are people like this…?
A: because… blah blah blah.

It’s an answer yes? What more do you want? I’m beginning to think that what you actually want is people to say “Aww hun it’s cos those who are rude about these kind of threads have no life, you do you baby”

@TTstormtrooper Lots of people in a range of relationships (toxic to meh to glorious) celebrate Valentines Day. If it’s not for you, that’s fine. However, it doesn’t make the people who do celebrate it ‘mugs’.

I always think that the people who make a huge fuss about being above Valentine's Day and about their distaste for it sound like teenagers. It's a bit like people who mock religion with things like 'your imaginary friend' and 'sky fairies'. Or 'hating' babies. It's just all a bit sixth form, a 16 year old's idea of what's edgy.

@TeaSoakedDisasterMagnet

I mean literally, come on love. Your title is a question and my answer to your question starts “because x,y,z.” What else do you call it if not answering your question.

Q: why are people like this…?
A: because… blah blah blah.

It’s an answer yes? What more do you want? I’m beginning to think that what you actually want is people to say “Aww hun it’s cos those who are rude about these kind of threads have no life, you do you baby”

I want exactly nothing from you. Feel free to move along when you’re done.

People post on here asking for opinions.

They can't complain when someone offers their opinion and they don't like it.

@ABCeasyasdohrayme That’s not necessarily the case. There’s currently a thread where OP is asking what people got for VD. No opinions on the nature of VD were solicited. People still went full bore with regards to how silly and stupid and vapid it was.

glad to have helped hun.

just in case yours weren’t good enough yesterday.

I've never known someone so raging about someone expressing they don't do Valentine's Day 🤣u ok hun

People on here like to hate things, especially if it gives them an opportunity to write what they think is a post dripping with witty derision.

Are you having a bad day OP? I hope it gets better soon

@amiafreakofnature I’m not raging. Oddly enough, you came to this thread full of vitriol, I’m perfectly calm. Are you okay?

And the OP isn’t about people expressing that they don’t do Valentine’s Day, although you can pretend it is if you like.

@BeefSupreme

To ask why some people are SO rude?

Are you new to Mumsnet? There's nothing people won't be rude about on here.

This made me laugh. Mainly because it's true.

You seem to be taking the matter rather personally, @Sweetlikejollof. Celebrate it or don't, but it's really not worth getting upset about.

@TheBareTree I’m having quite a nice day, thank you. And thank you for the flowers.

You don't sound calm in the least. You are insanely defensive and rude to anyone answering the question you've posed.
I've never seen such an angry person over such a benign issue

@AnotherMansCause I’m not upset, I just think it’s bizarre behaviour.

I came full of vitriol 😂you started a thread and immediately started frothing at all replies that didn't say Ur RiTe HuN

@T00Ts

People on here like to hate things, especially if it gives them an opportunity to write what they think is a post dripping with witty derision.

Indeed and I like reading some of said rants - they are sometimes even funny.

I don't really get the "rude" thing really - there are quite often threads on here saying things like "I bet people wouldn't say xyz to my face" as if they have just discovered a cure for cancer - no people probably wouldn't be so "rude" in real life, but this isn't real life; and in fact participation is entirely optional.

[quote Sweetlikejollof]@AnotherMansCause I’m not upset, I just think it’s bizarre behaviour.[/quote]
Funny how everyone can see it

It makes them feel better about their own shit relationship.

I find it difficult to not pass comment when people are buying plastic landfill nonsense like foil balloons and hearts and decorations to "demonstrate their love" and then chucking the straight into landfill.

[quote Sweetlikejollof]@ABCeasyasdohrayme That’s not necessarily the case. There’s currently a thread where OP is asking what people got for VD. No opinions on the nature of VD were solicited. People still went full bore with regards to how silly and stupid and vapid it was.[/quote]
That happens on lots of threads though, it's the nature of the site.

If people want to discuss hearts and flowers there are other sites that aren't quite as forthright as MN.

That said, you've asked a direct question, had a few answers and are taking them very personally.

Unless you're Cupid you should probably calm down a little

@amiafreakofnature

You don't sound calm in the least. You are insanely defensive and rude to anyone answering the question you've posed. I've never seen such an angry person over such a benign issue

You posted this before I engaged with you at all

“And you sound an absolute delight OP
Have you pissed everyone off on social media boasting by any chance and want to come here telling everyone how unfair people are?”

But, my response is what was ‘insanely defensive, rude and angry’. Sure.

@BestKnitterInScotland

I find it difficult to not pass comment when people are buying plastic landfill nonsense like foil balloons and hearts and decorations to "demonstrate their love" and then chucking the straight into landfill.

Very good point. Just so unnecessary.

Mumsnet has some very 'not like other girls' vibes. There's a hatred of the traditionally feminine (and I say that as a die-hard feminist). Liking traditionally girly things is reviled. You shouldn't want a big wedding, a pretty engagement ring, you shouldn't care about your appearance beyond being thin (being thin = very important). Anyone who gets botox or fillers is an idiot, there's a reverie around having daughters who love dinosaurs and climbing trees and hate Frozen. Valentine's Day is just one of the many things that can't be tolerated because it's feminine. It's internalised misogyny at its absolute core.

I have no opinion on Valentine’s Day either way and wouldn’t comment on whether someone else celebrates or not but wow OP it really doesn’t sound like you are okay