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To ask why some people are SO rude about Valentine’s Day?

417 replies

Sweetlikejollof · 15/02/2022 13:47

I find this so strange. If you don’t celebrate it, then that’s fine. Nobody is trying to make you.

However, some of us do celebrate it. And we enjoy it. So, why be rude about it? Why all the vitriol? Every year, multiple threads of people being remarkably unpleasant that others have the effrontery to celebrate something that they don’t personally care for. Why?!

And the ‘it’s commercial nonsense’ and ‘we celebrate our love every day’ arguments aren’t relevant here, as I’m not asking why you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day (your relationship is entirely your business), I’m specifically asking why some people are rude about other people celebrating it.

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Choccyluvva · 17/02/2022 11:23

So what if people want to spend their money on ‘bollocks’ who are you to judge? It’s obviously not bollocks if they like it

Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:26

@Choccyluvva

So what if people want to spend their money on ‘bollocks’ who are you to judge? It’s obviously not bollocks if they like it
It's entirely their right as it is mine to think it's bollocks. Is there a problem with that?
Saysama · 17/02/2022 11:28

@Marmelace You realise that you just described every single holiday and observance, from Easter to Mothers/Fathers Day to Christmas?

However, if you think that, then cool. Don’t celebrate. Not what the thread is about, though. Do you care if other people spend their money on bollocks? If so, why?

Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:28

@Choccyluvva

So what if people want to spend their money on ‘bollocks’ who are you to judge? It’s obviously not bollocks if they like it
Plus who are you to ask who am I? Telling me I'm judgemental. I'm allowed my opinion too. Or are you only good with people who lick your arse?
Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:30

[quote Saysama]@Marmelace You realise that you just described every single holiday and observance, from Easter to Mothers/Fathers Day to Christmas?

However, if you think that, then cool. Don’t celebrate. Not what the thread is about, though. Do you care if other people spend their money on bollocks? If so, why?[/quote]
Yes you are probably right. And hey at the end of day I may be a tad cynical. I just see things as I see them, people have their own choices. Though I'd rather know about what I'm celebrating than just do it to be fair.

Saysama · 17/02/2022 11:32

@Marmelace Nobody has asked you to celebrate anything, though. That’s explicitly not what this thread is about.

Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:34

Why are you so bothered about what I've posted, the op wanted to know why people got rude about st vallys day, so I answered. Are you always so controlling?

Saysama · 17/02/2022 11:37

@Marmelace I’m being controlling by having a conversation with you? Is something wrong with you? Are you always so odd and defensive?

Saysama · 17/02/2022 11:38

@Choccyluvva who are you to ask who am I? may be the single maddest thing I’ve read in some time. 😂

Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:40

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Marmelace · 17/02/2022 11:41

[quote Saysama]**@Choccyluvva* who are you to ask who am I?* may be the single maddest thing I’ve read in some time. 😂[/quote]
You need to get out more 😂

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Choccyluvva · 17/02/2022 14:11

[quote Saysama]**@Choccyluvva* who are you to ask who am I?* may be the single maddest thing I’ve read in some time. 😂[/quote]
What are you on about ??

Saysama · 17/02/2022 14:27

@Choccyluvva Sorry, I didn’t make myself clear at all. 😂

She asked who you were to ask who she was, and I just found the sentence hilarious. Mad and hilarious.

MrsHa · 17/02/2022 14:36

@Sweetlikejollof

I find this so strange. If you don’t celebrate it, then that’s fine. Nobody is trying to make you.

However, some of us do celebrate it. And we enjoy it. So, why be rude about it? Why all the vitriol? Every year, multiple threads of people being remarkably unpleasant that others have the effrontery to celebrate something that they don’t personally care for. Why?!

And the ‘it’s commercial nonsense’ and ‘we celebrate our love every day’ arguments aren’t relevant here, as I’m not asking why you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day (your relationship is entirely your business), I’m specifically asking why some people are rude about other people celebrating it.

Nobody is trying to make you.

But they do. My DH got several comments on Monday about how awful he was for not getting me anything even though Valentines isn't domething we "do".

Choccyluvva · 17/02/2022 16:02

[quote Saysama]@Choccyluvva Sorry, I didn’t make myself clear at all. 😂

She asked who you were to ask who she was, and I just found the sentence hilarious. Mad and hilarious.[/quote]
Oh sorry I thought you were aiming at me ! Apologies 😘

Sceptre86 · 17/02/2022 16:14

it's Mumsnet people are rude about lots of things. Ignore them. They have a different opinion to yours, totally valid. Some think it's too commercialised, buying tat is bad for the environment, think you ought to be romantic or do thoughtful stuff all year round etc.You enjoy celebrating the day which is great. I'm one of those people that likes celebrating everything, so Valentines day, birthdays, anniversaries. I enjoy it all. Dh and I aren't the grand gestures type but do stuff to show we appreciate each other all the time. We both go the extra mile on certain things, aren't in any debt and can afford to, so why not? I don't post it on Facebook or Instagram because I'm not an avid user.

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