To ask why some people are SO rude about Valentine’s Day?

[Sweetlikejollof]

I find this so strange. If you don’t celebrate it, then that’s fine. Nobody is trying to make you.

However, some of us do celebrate it. And we enjoy it. So, why be rude about it? Why all the vitriol? Every year, multiple threads of people being remarkably unpleasant that others have the effrontery to celebrate something that they don’t personally care for. Why?!

And the ‘it’s commercial nonsense’ and ‘we celebrate our love every day’ arguments aren’t relevant here, as I’m not asking why you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day (your relationship is entirely your business), I’m specifically asking why some people are rude about other people celebrating it.

Yeah, like those mugs that buy into the heavily commercialised Christmas or Easter nonsense. Why would you buy chocolates on Valentine’s, mince pies on Christmas and chocolate eggs on Easter?!

And of course any woman getting something from her DH on Valentine’s gets beaten up by him the rest of the year! It’s plainly obvious.

this level bitterness gives me shudders

@HAF1119

I don't get it

It's rude for someone to say they believe Valentine's Day is commercial and they choose not to celebrate it.. and that is taken personally?

Should those who don't celebrate it take it personally that others are discussing that they do

For what it's worth I don't think anyone is a mug for celebrating it, nor am I offended by it, if you're happy and it works in your relationship, good. If it means that you end up with unrealistic expectations and it is superficial rather than a show of love, that is a shame, but I believe that of most celecrations

I would like to hope that if someone posted 'what did you get for valentines' and I replied nothing and the reasons why, that it wouldn't be deemed rude, simply me giving our reasons, as others can say what they got and I won't take offence

I’m afraid I don’t understand what you’re not getting? Particularly as I explicitly stated that not celebrating it is fine and that this wasn’t about why some people don’t celebrate it.

There are people on this thread calling women who celebrate VD ‘pink, fluffy, vapid and stupid’. There are people who have claimed that only people in shitty relationships celebrate it. There have been a number of batshit insults. These are rude and they illustrate the attitudes that gave rise to this thread.

@ImprobablePuffin

It always makes me laugh on these threads where an OP says 'why are people so rude and unpleasant' then proceeds to be just as rude and unpleasant themselves. Cop on to yourself for fuck sake.

Indeed. As I’ve started a thread decrying unpleasant behaviour, I’m required to tolerate rudeness and not respond in kind. As I’m clearly vying for sainthood. I think not 😂

Anyway, that’s nice, dear. Thanks for playing.

[quote Sweetlikejollof]@WhatAHexIGotInto I’m not ‘coming back’, I’m here. It’s my thread, so it’s of interest to me. I’ve never claimed otherwise. That’s why I started it.

Why are you here? Why are you having so much difficulty following your own advice and ignoring the post? And why is it ‘innocuous’ when you say it, but ‘pissy’ when I do? The hypocrisy is hilarious.

It’s a bit like having a conversation with a bowl of mince, so I think I actually am done with you, now. Enjoy yourself and free to move on when you’re done.[/quote]
See the funny thing is you've implied others are miserable/ joyless have lessers relationships/ love arguing the toss yet you are still here doggedly banging on how right you are instead of enjoying your great fulfilled life on a Tuesday evening 😂

@Satingreenshutters

This is why...year after year after year of utter fucking drival.

He forgot and I am devastated.
He said we were not doing it this year and I bought him a car and he didn't even make me a sambo.
He bought me petrol station flowers..the Gobshite.
He spent €200 quid on Blood Red Roses and we have no money for food..the gobshite.
His Valentine's Card said "friend".
He didn't cut my toast into love hearts.
I put on Valentines lingerie and he locked himself in the bathroom for a wank.
He bought me Quality Street and I only Like Lindor.
I feel so unloved/unappreciated/undervalued/taken for granted.
My friend Pauline got a trip to the Bahamas and my BF only got me the Meal Deal from Tesco.
Valley's Day is so important to me and he doesn't care, it is so hurtful.
The kids made cards but Hubby left me nothing this morning except toast crumbs on the counter, I am so gutted and hurt.

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😂😂

Honestly, I'm a bit rude about it (if asked - I don't go round shouting about how idiotic I find it) because I judge the people who care a lot about it.

I'm aware that makes me judgemental, but I don't much care.

@housemaus

Honestly, I'm a bit rude about it (if asked - I don't go round shouting about how idiotic I find it) because I judge the people who care a lot about it.

I'm aware that makes me judgemental, but I don't much care.

But that's what people have done They haven't gone up to their colleague saying they think they are a mug for celebrating and that their husband is shagging the woman who works in accounts so it's all a farce anyway. People have just commented on a thread about valentines yet OP has decided they are all terrible people

@amiafreakofnature Sooo, everyone who starts a thread on MN and posts on said thread should be doing something else instead?

Also, you’re here, you’ve been here from the very beginning and it’s not even your thread. Why are you ‘doggedly banging on’? You agree that your life is miserable, then? Or are you just obsessed?

You also still haven’t answered anyone’s questions from when you claimed pp thought ‘men owned women’. You’ve basically disgraced yourself on this thread, multiple times, AND YET YOU KEEP COMING BACK FOR MORE. This is big healthy behaviour.

Fair enough I apologise

I miss read your original post where you said you don't have an issue with the comment that it's commercial or you're happy to celebrate every day and it was purely in regards to people name calling/being personal

I read it as the issue being with those calling it commercial

No, people shouldn't be personal to those who celebrate it or those who don't. We live once, do it how it works for you, don't hate on others for doing it how it works for them. I agree

Neither side is bat shit crazy, we're just humans living our lives how we see fit.

I did read the valentines post and whilst I don't celebrate it and said my reasons, I read many peoples gifts and that they were happy and found it heart warming. Not because I want to do it, but because as a couple they are doing what makes them happy.

Probably it's easier to ignore haters though, there's trolls everywhere

Oh dear @Sweetlikejollof I appear to have rattled your cage somewhat. 😂😂😂 You're a grown woman getting your knickers in a twist over Valentine's Day. I love the internet sometimes, you literally couldn't make this stuff up.

Well this turned out to be one hell of a royal rumble didn’t it folks

Poor OP probably never expected such a brawl over her relatively inoffensive post!

@WhatAHexIGotInto You’re a grown woman who, despite advising people to scroll past posts that they don’t like, can’t seem to manage to do so herself. Who is making fun of commenting on their own post, while you can’t seem to stop commenting yourself. And you apparently can’t see the irony in this.

You’re right. You couldn’t make it up.

@ShittyFingers

Well this turned out to be one hell of a royal rumble didn’t it folks

Poor OP probably never expected such a brawl over her relatively inoffensive post!

Yes, it’s interesting, isn’t it?

@Alittlepotofrosie

*Well it clearly is to you - you just keep a-comin' back. gringringrin

Aaaand in 3 ... 2 ... 1 ...*

This is the thread that just keeps giving

It's her thread!!

Apparently, I’m meant to leave my own thread. I’m unclear as to why. Because she said so?

If you start a thread about someone not liking your opinion about Valentine's Day and keep shouting aggressively at anyone saying anything other than 'ur rite hun' then you are clearly the one with issues not other posters commenting what bullshit it is

@WhatAHexIGotInto

Oh dear *@Sweetlikejollof* I appear to have rattled your cage somewhat. 😂😂😂 You're a grown woman getting your knickers in a twist over Valentine's Day. I love the internet sometimes, you literally couldn't make this stuff up.

Her satin valentines knickers no less 😘

It’s a bit like having a conversation with a bowl of mince

Jesus christ 🤣

I'm also judgey about people who spend loads on lots of plastic crap for one day then chuck it in the nearest bin. However, I feel the same way about people doing this on Christmas and Halloween and all the other mainstream fill-an-aisle holidays.

I loved the handmade bits that came home from the childminders with ds though, so I don't hate the holidays themselves, just the waste that goes them. I don't think people should be rude to others about it but we do need to start realising how damaging these holidays are for our little planet.

You're right @Sweetlikejollof, though I really do see the irony. I'm just having a laugh. I don't take much seriously and the whole 'it's my thread' thing just makes me 😂 even more. I'll leave you to it, I think you're taking this very much more seriously which is not really my thing. Not over something so ridiculous anyway. Have a good evening.

@WhatAHexIGotInto I’m sorry, you asked why I kept coming back, I pointed out that it’s my thread and asked why you kept coming back. Seems pretty straightforward to me.

But, yes, you’ve posted multiple times and contradicted yourself because you’re ‘having a laugh’ and I’m taking it all far too seriously. Sure. Toodle pip. 😘

@amiafreakofnature

If you start a thread about someone not liking your opinion about Valentine's Day and keep shouting aggressively at anyone saying anything other than 'ur rite hun' then you are clearly the one with issues not other posters commenting what bullshit it is

If, having seen the crazed shambles of your comments, you think I’m the one with the issues, I am genuinely sorry for you. I hope you have some support in real life.

Hoicks up satin Valentine’s knickers

@OmgIThinkILikeYou I think those are all perfectly fair points.

I have no objection to Valentine's Day at all. It's no dafter or more commercial than any other celebration imo and a nice excuse to do something extra-special for someone you love even if you have a fantastic relationship on the other 364 days of the year too.

However, I do think it is very tedious if people can't celebrate these things privately and with some consideration for those around them who are single, divorced or bereaved. In rl I nod and smile but judge the airheads who post their gifts all over sm. But on mn we don't have to nod and smile do we? It's anonymous and therefore honest. By starting a thread, you invite comments and really shouldn't be surprised if at least some of them are from hurt people, sad people, lonely people or people who do just genuinely think it's all nonsense and can't understand why anyone would celebrate it.

I think the trick is to enjoy your lovely relationship and lovely Valentine's celebration privately or be so secure in your choices that you don't care what others think.

[quote Sweetlikejollof]@OmgIThinkILikeYou I think those are all perfectly fair points.[/quote]
Honestly I'm glad you understood it as reading it back it was a bit of an effort, missing words!!

Musings from a very tired woman with really shit autocorrect and a smashed screen

I think it's silly commercial nonsense - but it also badly affects the mental health of some single people.

Also - if you have a birthday on 14th Feb you're stuffed. You can't go out for a meal and not get ripped off. My birthday is not 14th Feb but Mother's Day occasionally falls on my birthday so I have a less frequent but similar problem.

@JuergenSchwarzwald

I think it's silly commercial nonsense - but it also badly affects the mental health of some single people.

Also - if you have a birthday on 14th Feb you're stuffed. You can't go out for a meal and not get ripped off. My birthday is not 14th Feb but Mother's Day occasionally falls on my birthday so I have a less frequent but similar problem.

Try having a birthday 1st Jan, I tell you it is the shittest day ever.

Everyone is doing dry Jan, everyone is skint from Christmas and no one wants to do a meal because they are all on 'new year, new me' diets