Strippers

[blackangel9]

Hey,

What's everyone's opinions on their OHs going to strip clubs?

For those who aren't bothered by it, what's your reasons for this?

Trying to settle my anxiety around DH who is currently getting ready to go away abroad on his brothers stag do.

We have had a discussion prior to him going and both seemed to be on the same page and that he would sit out if the group were planning on going to a club however I'd hate for him to be left out if it's a case of me overreacting!

For me I don't see it as any different from a work colleague stripping naked in front of him so why would it be okay just because money is handed over but again I do have low self esteem. I also hate the thought of potential trafficking and not knowing if the girls are happy to be doing this job. DH has always said that he finds clubs sleezy and not for him, he says that he would not find them arousing in the slightest however I worry he only feels this way as he would hate to upset me.

I know I need to trust his word and I have no reason to doubt him yet but would be interested in hearing other peoples opinions.

@tygga

I can say wholeheartedly I never wanted to sleep with a customer so that part wouldn’t worry me.

Based on my experience visiting a few in my uni days, who would! 😆

The ones who got picked by the footballers. Also the big spenders who would return with brand new iPads, LV handbags or MB shoes.

OP. You seem to have had a long discussion with your husband. He has assured you that he is indeed aware of the coercion/abuse/objectification of women and disagrees with this, yet nonetheless he is still going. So that makes him a hypocrite.

You claim he's still going because it would be difficult to sit it out when his friends go in. So he's a weak-assed hypocrite.

You're also giving us the same pro-women platitudes, yet every other post expresses your fear that he will find them attractive/arousing and how you're trying to ensure he gets no personal pleasure from the event and how you're trying to limit his opportunity by imposing a no dance/no touch rule.

You are the parents of girls. This is messed up. Neither of you should participate or condone in something you would not be happy for you kids to end up doing. Be decent humans and sort it out

Have just re-read the thread. Is he going or not?

@CinnamonJellyBeans

OP. You seem to have had a long discussion with your husband. He has assured you that he is indeed aware of the coercion/abuse/objectification of women and disagrees with this, yet nonetheless he is still going. So that makes him a hypocrite.

You claim he's still going because it would be difficult to sit it out when his friends go in. So he's a weak-assed hypocrite.

You're also giving us the same pro-women platitudes, yet every other post expresses your fear that he will find them attractive/arousing and how you're trying to ensure he gets no personal pleasure from the event and how you're trying to limit his opportunity by imposing a no dance/no touch rule.

You are the parents of girls. This is messed up. Neither of you should participate or condone in something you would not be happy for you kids to end up doing. Be decent humans and sort it out

I think there has been a misunderstanding in my post as I haven't actually said he is going.

I was going through all the scenarios in my head/we were discussing them all in general together prior to him leaving.

I was going to do an update tonight as DH is home but haven't had the chance yet.

For what it's worth, DH did not go with the crowd and stood his ground on his morals.

Yes I have admitted I feel insecure around the whole situation which i feel isn't inappropriate at all. DH also agreed that if the shoe was on the other foot he wouldn't like it either so it's not as though I'm trying to control him - we both mutually agree on both sides that it's unacceptable/we have a hard boundary on it.

Our girls will always come first and we will bring them up to teach them as best as we can about the dangers of the world bla bla bla

@CinnamonJellyBeans

OP. You seem to have had a long discussion with your husband. He has assured you that he is indeed aware of the coercion/abuse/objectification of women and disagrees with this, yet nonetheless he is still going. So that makes him a hypocrite.

You claim he's still going because it would be difficult to sit it out when his friends go in. So he's a weak-assed hypocrite.

You're also giving us the same pro-women platitudes, yet every other post expresses your fear that he will find them attractive/arousing and how you're trying to ensure he gets no personal pleasure from the event and how you're trying to limit his opportunity by imposing a no dance/no touch rule.

You are the parents of girls. This is messed up. Neither of you should participate or condone in something you would not be happy for you kids to end up doing. Be decent humans and sort it out

Also I haven't said I'm preventing him From any pleasure at all. I can respect that just because we are married doesn't mean automatically doesn't find anyone else attractive of course he will but I'd rather he not pay for it.